[LanaBear]

He does masturbate quite alot really, he has a really high sex drive!

Oh - well - yeah, tell him to take it down a few notches.

Your vagina is not as tight as his fist, of course you seem 'loose' to him.

[lady_Lass]

I orgasm more when we are doing aral, i have always been like that.

That does sound like a good idea, sometime i would like to try! Thanks

sp brought up a good point, sometimes after you orgasm initially, you don't produce as much. Can you orgasm manually or orally right off the bat and wipe off with a towel then resume? And personally, after I orgasm, I'm much tighter because the muscles are contracting. You may benefit from getting there right away for a while. Just a thought.

[StillLearnin]

His masturbation is the problem. Not your wet vagina.

[lady_Lass]

Oh - well - yeah, tell him to take it down a few notches.

Yer i did think that have something to do with it as well!

[Moon]

Well, when i get "too wet" (usually from squirting and it lasts not long) I do a trick that my man seems to enjoy so much i started doing it more often. I take my hand and pinch his shaft as he pumps between my pointer and middle fingers (or middle and ring) as tight as i can. it'll get your hand quite messy, but he'll really enjoy it. try it next time you find your too wet.

[Guest]

His masturbation habits surely arent helping, but if a vagina is too wet or not very snug, it might as well be a warm jar of water. I dated a woman for years who was kinda loose and got that wet. I probably orgasmed from sex with her a dozen times over five years. I just couldnt feel much, with or without a condom. At first, I thought it was my jerking off that was the problem too, but I went a month without touching myself and still couldnt get close. I even changed how I jerked off thinking the type of stimulation was different. She also did kegels for a good portion of the relationship. Come to think of it, the only times I was able to cum was when we just went at it with minimal foreplay. If I went down on her first, or there was a lot of fooling around before penetration, I got nothing. So maybe give that a try.

I think penises are just as diverse and unique as vaginas. Some women have sensitive vaginas and powerful G-spots and orgasm like crazy from penetration. Some dont feel much inside and can only orgasm clitoraly. Some penises are sensitive and can orgasm from little stimulation, some require more friction.

[skirt99]

I share the thoughts about being dryer after cumming a few times. When you have orgasmed in the past, did you stop after one? Also, I get noticeably tighter as a get close to that time of the month. My guy says he can always tell when I'm at that point because I feel tighter.

[WildChild]

Get a kegel master or some vaginal weights. You can do kegels for years, I did, and not get as much result as in a few weeks with a resistance device.

[LanaBear]

Get a kegel master or some vaginal weights. You can do kegels for years, I did, and not get as much result as in a few weeks with a resistance device.

I agree, it wasn't until I got some Ben Wa Balls that I could actually feel I was doing the exercises right.

[Hopeless Dork]

Firstly, maybe he could try to cool it on the masturbation - it could be (not has to be, but could be) that he is so use to the stimulation of his own hand which is a different sensation than the vagina... that its going to make it harder for him to orgasm with you. I don't know how open you guys talk about that... but if he doesn't want to slow his masturbation activities down... perhaps he could practice with a softer grip? Be sure not to place blame on him if you decide to ask him about this... its more the both of you working together to enjoy things more not... omgee stop doing that ur ruining it! Got to be kind, loving, supportive and fair. Communication.

Second, keep a clean dry cloth in the bed, when you start to really get wet... slide off of him... you can touch him with your hand or mouth... to keep the moment going while you discreetly wipe yourself down a bit (i know it doesn't help much with deep inside... but it will help) then go back into action.

Third, try to use positions that will create the most friction : Doggy style, and missionary with your legs up over his shoulders. Both of those positions shorten the length of the vagina position leading much deeper and fillling penetration.

Good luck dear, don't feel bad... getting wet is not your fault... we all get wet. If you couldn't get wet you'd be here complaining about pain and him complaining about getting sore trying to penetrate a dry vagina. You can no more control your wetness, than he can the size of his erection.

If you've been at it along time and it doesn't seem like its going to happen, (orgasms) why not stop and finish each other off orally or manually. That way you both still get to share in the intimacy of sex and don't end the situation frustrated.

Don't give up on the kegals either, they are beneficial to your health as well as able to improve your sexual enjoyment. Good luck to you!