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  • Hoochie Coochie Man
    Member
    • Jan 2010
    • 29

    Originally posted by Anon_1990
    I am a nineteen year old male from the UK, and recently I have had several failed "first times". I really love my girlfriend, and we want to take it further, but I just can’t stay hard for more than ten seconds after letting go, meaning it’s impossible to get it in. I have been eating all of the right foods to see if it helps aid this issue, such as nuts, and vegetables, and it has to a degree, but we still haven't had that special first time yet, and we really want to be able to. It’s starting to get both of us down, especially after immense disappointment in the bedroom.

    I have Neurofibromatosis Type 1, so it is vital we wear protection (it’s not contagious, but still, if there was an accident...), though I'm not sure if this will affect the sex side of things.

    We really crave each other, and not being able to take it further is really disappointing, not to mention I hate to see my girlfriend upset.

    Any remedies, recipes or even medical roads I could go down please let me know. Any advice is good advice.

    Regards, Anon
    I am so happy it worked out for you! What you described sounds like “performance anxiety” and it is incredibly common for guys of all ages. You start to worry and that makes it a self fulfilling prophecy. If it happens again and you get concerned PM me. I have a ton of info on it and can direct you to several places where it is openly discussed among men. They are all supportive and helpful. AND it is wonderful when you realize you are not alone.

    Good luck.
    • I detest arguments, they are vulgar and often convincing"..........Oscar Wilde

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    • CHANDLERS WISH
      • Mar 2008
      • 22440

      If it happens again and you get concerned PM me. I have a ton of info on it and can direct you to several places where it is openly discussed among men.
      This Forum requires you to be a regular, thereby posting at least 33 posts before the Private Messaging is released for usuage...

      Just so that you both are aware of this.

      CW
      PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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      • Hoochie Coochie Man
        Member
        • Jan 2010
        • 29

        Mea Culpa.

        Forgive me, I did not realize that and should have been more thorough in reading the rules. It will not happen again and I thank you for alerting me to this.
        • I detest arguments, they are vulgar and often convincing"..........Oscar Wilde

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        • CHANDLERS WISH
          • Mar 2008
          • 22440

          Don't think it's in there

          Just saying.. It's all good.

          CW
          PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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          • Anon_1990
            Veteran Member
            • Jan 2010
            • 359

            I hope it doesnt happen again and all is well. Although it only lasted around 2 minuites first time
            Happy and Taken!

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            • WildChild
              Banned
              • Sep 2008
              • 14142

              Hey, it's a start. A lot of men tend to cum quickly the first few times. Maybe just a little too much excitement?

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              • Lucas
                Junior Member
                • Jan 2010
                • 6

                One word dude.. Cialias

                Its like viagra but comes without the side effects

                you'll probly find once you are able to have sex once your confidence will skyrocket and u should be fine from the on

                Just be prepared to have sex at least 4 times after taking one pill

                cheers

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                • Anon_1990
                  Veteran Member
                  • Jan 2010
                  • 359

                  Ive started to eat lots of almonds, add more garlic to food, chomp on celery and we both induldge in chocolate. But its the having to find an excuse to tell my parents, why someone who generally dislikes vegetables is eating more of them!
                  Happy and Taken!

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                  • Lucas
                    Junior Member
                    • Jan 2010
                    • 6

                    just say you want to be more healthy I guess

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                    • Lucas
                      Junior Member
                      • Jan 2010
                      • 6

                      besides i dont think it would have much to do with your diet..

                      I find I loose my erection quite quickly so my girlfriend now knows to keep the stimulation on my penis before sex

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