[Mes T]

But, statistically speaking, aren't most women only capable of clitoral orgasms, or at least prefer them?

I saw a statistic a couple of years ago that said women who have sex with women orgasm 80% of the time, while women who have sex with men orgasm only 20%.

So what if it is these types of women who say size doesn't matter? That's the majority of us anyway.

[Hopeless Dork]

You might have a point there.. I have a shallow gspot... and penis size doesn't matter to me. I prefer gspot orgasms to clitoral ones... both together are amazing however But I hadn't put that into consideration. For me, being stroked by my boyfriends finger brings me just as much pleasure as sex... and he is above average in size.

I know you say that women with well-endowed s.o's shouldn't be allowed to say size doesn't matter but I mean for me to orgasm..for me to experience the most intense penetrative pleasure, I just need to be rubbed 2-3 inches inside of my vagina.

Where for some women that experience their pleasure deeper, or have gspots further back -- a bigger penis may be required to satisfy them.

So penis size may matter significantly more to some women than other women. Maybe thats why men hear size doesn't matter and size matters equally -- because for some women it does and some it doesn't.

Thats like how some guys say they do not prefer large breasts... some women still feel unsure about their boob size, inadequate because they have heard so many guys prefer large breasts... but then there are so many that say more than a mouthfuls a waste... etc etc..

I mean and ppl can say penis size is a more sensitive issue than boob size... but on the contrary I think breast enlargement surgery is far more common then penis enlargement surgery... leading me to think that for some women... its worth going through a lot of pain and risks to feel more confident about their bodies.

Perhaps its because breast size is something people can see and judge you on (big or small) without being intimate with you... and penis size is something that has to be revelealed as a surprise later after attraction is established.

[stressed]

In my opinion, the difference between penis and breast size is significant. Whether a man likes small or large breasts, if he's in love he can ignore them, they don't directly play a part in his pleasure and besides he knows about their size by the end of the first date. However, penis size is usually only found when "it's too late to take it back" and it can affect a woman's pleasure, especially if she has experienced a larger size in the past (toys aside, of course).
Regardless, women who think/feel that their partner has a small penis they should try to variate more in case they find positions which satisfy them.
Personally, I can't reach an orgasm during sex regardless the size, but I do miss feelings only an above-average size penis can give (I'm not unhappy without them though). My SO kept asking me time after time in the beginning what I thought of his size, so one day I just told the truth "it's not small, but it's the smallest I have experienced" (which was honest to say). Cruel in a sense, I guess, but he had been insecure all along, asked often and was certain I'd seen larger sizes before that I didn't want to lie.
Whatever we think about their size, we should keep boosting their confidence. We don't have to lie and say "it's huge" when they know it's not. But we don't have to make them feel bad about it either. If we find that we can't be satisfied just because of it, well then we shouldn't stay, otherwise it will come out in an argument and they'll be hurt forever.

[justarandomguy26]

That is cold

[Guest]

A lot of men and women stick to the idea that the G-spot is only a few inches inside when discussing penis size, which is true of course.


What factors have the biggest impact on g-spot stimulation? Does girth help put more pressure on it? Is it related to the hardness of an erection? Or is it the angle of penetration and motion? I know all three probably play a part, but which is most important?

Is there a big difference between deeper strokes that dont come out as far, rubbing the g-spot with the shaft, and shallower strokes that allow the glans to make more contact?

[Hopeless Dork]

Me personally I think my gspot is stimulated most intensely when he is doing it manually. I guess because he focus on the target with consistant pressure that is mind-blowing.
During sex my gspot is stimulated best positionally. In missionary with my legs over his shoulders or with him behind me doggy style it seems to stroke the spot the best for my body. So i'd say position during intercourse, for me plays more of a role than anything else for my gspot stimulation.

[Guest]

I know you say that women with well-endowed s.o's shouldn't be allowed to say size doesn't matter but I mean for me to orgasm..for me to experience the most intense penetrative pleasure, I just need to be rubbed 2-3 inches inside of my vagina.

Where for some women that experience their pleasure deeper, or have gspots further back -- a bigger penis may be required to satisfy them.

So penis size may matter significantly more to some women than other women. Maybe thats why men hear size doesn't matter and size matters equally -- because for some women it does and some it doesn't.

It's difficult for me to wrap my mind around how some women can feel clitoris and g spot AND deep sensation but other women only speak of the clitoris and g spot. How can that be? Aren't women's vaginas all 'basically' designed the same? Sure, the deeper walls don't have as many nerves, but there are still nerves there, so why don't they count to all women? 'Size doesn't matter' articles and posts typically point out that there aren't as many nerves deeper within, as though fewer nerves equates to a dead void. Why would some women experience stimulation, deep area pleasure from the posterior fornix and possibly also the cul de sac (Pouch of Douglas, located between the vagina's posterior wall and the anal canal) but other women not? Sometimes it seems to me that women who only speak of the clitoris and gspot aren't being 100% honest with themselves. It seems like there might be some denial going on. I'm not saying there is but notice that women who only speak of those first few inches are always the ones who say size doesn't matter. Am I to believe that those women's deeper nerves have no feeling whatsoever whilst other women do. The purpose of nerves is for feeling contact. Even fewer nerves. Wouldn't that at least allow the 'size make no difference' women to feel fullness deeper within? I would think so. Plenty of women state they love fullness. But notice that the 'size doesn't matter' women never even give it a passing mention. Never. Why don't they? It makes me feel like they are holding back, not being completely totally true to themselves in the matter. Maybe not lying, just some unwillingness to be completely objective. Perhaps some psychological reason(s) are behind this. In a study by Psychology Today there were 'women' claiming that women who say that some extra penis size makes no better difference whatsoever must be lying. I don't know about that, but indication seems to be that something may be awry. So after the first three inches there is no feeling? The "fewer" nerves have no feeling? There is no doubt that the clitoris and g spot and upper walls' nerves are major players, quite enough for very good sex, but why does that make the rest of the vagina not exist for pleasure? I find it hard to understand how it can be that some women don't feel anything whatsoever pleasurable deeper within. No deeper wall feeling, no posterior fornix sensation, no cul de sac stimulation. That that's only felt by women who say extra size is icing on the cake. That the 'size doesn't matter' women don't ever feel any pleasure deep within. They must not, for afterall, they don't (or won't) talk about it. They only have those first three inches of pleasure. And when the size doesn't matter crowd do make any mention of feeling anything deeper within it is only with the negative and dubious logic of the cervix getting nailed by longer penises (nevermind that the when a woman is fully aroused and expanded her cervix is designed to tilt out of the way or mostly out of the way and until then the tilting occurs even shorter penises can reach and hit it), another example of the postings by 'size doesn't matter' women not appearing to be 100% objective. There are other descrepancies I could mention but I'll wind down my long winded post.

[lime_lemur]

I think it's okay that it's important to you. If you love someone, you want to be able to be very passionately intimate with them. I was with a guy once who was very small and uncircumcised, so he was very sensitive and picky about how it was treated - not only that but he had a major ego compensation (I used to think that guys didn't really do the 'compensation for size' thing, but this guy did, and it drove me nuts.)

I can't imagine what it's like for you, because my boyfriend who I love dearly is a good size. It's probably easier to say "size doesn't matter" when you're with someone you love who satisfies you... but I can imagine that I'd be a little frustrated if sex was difficult and dissatisfying for me. I wish I knew what advice to give you. I guess all I can say is that if you love him, that ends up being more important in the end, because as time goes on in a relationship sex happens less and probably matters less to a lot of couples.

[Mes T]

Skywatch, women do vary greatly in terms of nerve endings. Heck not just in the vagina, either. For example I can't feel a thing when my nipples are played with whereas other women either writhe in pleasure or jump away because it feels uncomfortable.

(It was hard for me to read your post thoroughly though, perhaps breaking it up into paragraphs might help!)

[chillingoutinthesun]

I am a 26 year old guy and I have to say that it is so wrong to judge a guy by his manhood size. I mean come on, if you like the guy then irrespective of his measurments you can make it work. It is just another example of society dictating what someone should be. There is no such thing as small,big or average it just what you have in your partner that you can deal with. Please don't think I am sexist as I think it is the same about women that there are no such thing as too small,big breasts,legs etc. If you like the person then look past those things.