[infoguy]

You're just going to have to introduce toys in the bedroom. You should try using a big dildo on yourself for vaginal penetration while he enters your anus. He's small so you don't have to worry about pain just cleanliness. He could maybe put on a vibrating cockring and stimulate your clit while he's entering you vaginally. I don't think you should use these toys all the time because it will eventually get boring. If you try these suggestions and you still feel you need a guy with a bigger penis then leave him. It sounds harsh, but the thought and memories of being with a man with a bigger penis will you haunt you every night and that will make the temptation to cheat that much harder. There's a woman out there that will love him and his penis. I think you've established that it's probably not you and if you decide to leave him don't tell him it's because of his penis size, make up another reason so he can go to the next relationship with the same amount of confidence he had with you. If an average or more size penis is one of the things you like in a guy then it's the same thing if you were to only date tall men, it's your personal preference and you shouldn't confuse it with being shallow.

[WildChild]

I've never heard of resistence devices ! I'm not sure how of the exact measurement but I would say between two and a half to three inches.

That's errect?
I dated a guy in college who was about that size - errect and was actually a good lover. He had learned to use his hand and tongue as well as what he had. We went our separate ways for other reasons. It really depends on how suited the two of you are in many ways, sex is important. Only you can decide if this works for you.

[steph69]

That's errect?
I dated a guy in college who was about that size - errect and was actually a good lover. He had learned to use his hand and tongue as well as what he had. We went our separate ways for other reasons. It really depends on how suited the two of you are in many ways, sex is important. Only you can decide if this works for you.

Hi yes thats erect.

Infoguy, I really don't fancy the toys or anal, I don't want that at all.

[mylo99]

Dump him

If you're never going to be sexually satisfied with this guy, then make up a reason to dump him. Don't tell him it's his penis size. He might be so crushed that he might resort to some butcher to try penis enlargement surgery. Those procedures NEVER go well.

The only way you could stay with this guy is with an Open Relationship where you can have sex with guys with larger members--with his blessing. Or cheat on him constantly searching for Mr. Goodbar.

[cubanlink]

Thanks HD, I've had toys before (I was single for five years after divorce) but have never used them in a relationship, I feel that size shouldn't matter but its so bloody frustrating !

why would you be with someone that you dont feel nothing for when having intercourse!? im going thru the same issue n worse. my ex was with a black guy 8" im only 6. imagine i think of that n i get soft during sex

[WildChild]

6" , 8", it has more to do with what she feels about you and for you and your technique, than it does with size.
But 3" takes more to get around, it can be done. IF she really wants him otherwise.

[Guest]

maybe he is such a nice guy and patient lover because he is lacking alot of meat. its not easy being a size queen is it? big or small it doesnt matter, its just a mental block you have and part of "grass is greener" situation. women usually have a mental check list of things they will or will not compromise on. unfortunately the things that should matter the most often get passed up for things to satisfy the immediate cravings and wants. do you think the size of his penis would matter in another 6 months? other than the fact you will probably have cheated on him to satisfy your need for plentiful pole...

[Ashlee T.]

Mental block or not, the poster does not feel sexually satisfied.

Will it matter in 6 months? Likely.... very much like if you're newly dating a woman that just doesn't do it for you sexually, or perhaps there's something about her that is just not sexually attractive to you..... probably not going to go away. Granted, you may love other things about her...but would your lack of sexual satisfaction cause you concern? Hmmmmmm ? Wanna work and work for something that should come natural between two people......only to find out you're going to spend your life getting no sexual satisfaction from your partner no matter how they try? Pretty damaging to both people if ya ask me.

Doesn't mean he's "too little". For someone, his penis will be the perfect size and shape. Means your incompatible sexually.

[Guest]

I dated a woman for nearly six years with whom I received almost no sensation during sex. It was because she was usually over lubricated, and not very tight. She tried kegels a ton, but with all the extra wetness it just didnt matter. It felt like I was dipping my wick in warm water. Warm so I knew it was there, but no friction at all. In all the time we dated, I came from sex less than a dozen times (that might be an exaggeration, but it was infrequent to say the least). In the end, there were other extenuating circumstances that forced the split between us. However, I grew to love her a great deal and if the sex had been up to par, I would have put a little more effort into things.

In the back of my mind, I always knew she wasnt the one. Sexual satisfaction matters a great deal to me, and I knew that I couldnt settle. Why I spent so much time with her, I have no idea, but I missed out on a lot of great girls being with her. You dont want to feel that way.

[Mes T]

I agree that this is more about your sexual incompatibility, rather than his size.

A good friend of mine prefers small penises to large, ANY DAY, because she swears that those guys try harder during sex, maybe doing things that bigger guys might assume their penis magically takes care of.

If you don't think this will get better, and you're against toys, then there's not much to do other than leave him, or stay and be unhappy.