[ItsASecret]

since ZESTRA that my girl and i have used with some success. since i dont have a vagina i cant describe exactly what it does or how it feels. but i can tell you that when we follow the instructions - rub a little of the oil on and around the clit for about3 or 4 minutes the results are this... she becomes very aroused. she says it starts to tingle and get hot and her pu55y gets very wet. usually after i rub it in for about 2 or 3 minutes i stop all contact down there so she doesnt get "too sensitive or over aroused" so after about a 5 minute wait with no contact, just kissing, and other petting her face becomes flushed and she is all but begging for some attention... it doesnt taste the greatest but she says oral is out this world when i do it. either way she is turned on and physically very aroused

Zestra is not a libido enhancer, it is a topical cream for increasing momentary sensations. The oils in it will cause the clitoris to feel like it is on fire and tingly because the nerves are firing at exception rates, that is why some women can get off from it being used. FDA has not approved this product, and it has known allergic reactions due to coleus.

but on the way out at the counter i saw these pills called " star" for women - the logo looks like that "rock star" energy drink. i figured what the , i boughtem for 5 bucks or something and told her she had to take them...
it was another hour before we got home and when we got there i had all but forgotten about her taking them. she said she felt kinda "stoned" and weird.

Not a pharmacy = sketchy product.

[Casidi]

Instead of watching porn, what about reading more erotic material/books? I think reading it, it allows your imagination to work a bit more, instead of watching two people on the TV.

I know where you are coming from with the porn thing, I don't care for it, thankfully my hubby doesn't either.

I can try some more. I had read some before and I just got really embarrassed, at least with a porn you can mute it or fast forward it to a good part, you have to put up with everything in an erotic story. But I can try again! Thanks!

[PJhavinfunagain]

I think you need to explore why you are embarrassed... I think this is a key point as you keep referring to it.

I agree I don't enjoy watching women in porn preform oral sex i think it is over done. I was never a BJ kinda girl but recently have begun doing it for DH more and am loving the control of it. Showering is a must for me though.

[LanaBear]

I agree, you really need to figure out what you get embarrassed for. There's nothing to be embarrassed about, we're human, we have sex. Everyone does it, well most, there's nothing embarrassing about it.

[LilahX]

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Another thing to point out, sometimes during foreplay he will be kind of dominant and we will play fight, and sometimes that works to turn me on, but sometimes not.

Perhaps explore this a bit further. If you're a natural 'submissive' then maybe you need this kind of situation in order to become aroused. A true 'fetish' is one where the person cannot become aroused without tht specific stimulus so perhaps you fall into that category? Do some reading on the subject, it can't hurt.