[WildChild]

It's not aggression. It's the mode he happens to be in at the moment you want sex. You have to try to figure out what are the circumstances that lead up to his initiating sex. For example, he might have become one of those guys who doesn't want sex unless you both have very recently showered. It could even be what he ate within the previous hour or two. Maybe it's vegging on the couch (that makes him not in the mood) before bed. Maybe having recently worked out gets him going. The next time he initiates sex, you have to analyze every-which-way exactly what the factors are that led up to that moment. It could even be your behavior on the day of (or even the hour(s) prior). Analyze, analyze, analyze, Babe. Once you figure it out, duplicate, duplicate, duplicate. Happy sleuthing !

Well, if you are dealing with a man who simply will not have it anyway or time but his - this won't work. They will refuse even if they want it just to be in control - I've been there.