[LilahX]

Firstly, your boyfriend should NEVER insist you do something. Everything should be discussed from both points of view, not just one person saying 'Iwant this so you will do it'. If he's not willing to talk and compromise then he is selfish.

Secondly, there is nothing wrong with swallowing. It won't hurt you and most men get a feeling of power when their woman does this. But if you don't like, you shouldn't have to do it. You've tried, and you still don't like it. End of story. At least you tried.

Letting him cum on your face may be a way to compromise, or on your breasts or neck (which is callled a pearl necklace). I love my man cumming on me, I find it very arousing, but I also am not a fan of swallowing and have never done it.

Talk to him. If he's willing to talk and listen to your side of things, then he's a good guy. if not, well.......

[anonymouswhitefemale]

All this "Don't do anything for fear of someone leaving you stuff"... I wonder how many guys get a job because their women will leave if they don't etc.

Relationships are compromise, and a compromise is when both parties are unhappy :P....

[Hopeless Dork]

All this "Don't do anything for fear of someone leaving you stuff"... I wonder how many guys get a job because their women will leave if they don't etc.

That is a very good point, actually that I think is lost on many.

I think if something doesn't compromise my health or safety and is to happen between me and my man that I love... there isn't much I can think of that I would deny him.

I think a woman that is not morally against swallowing, that it doesn't go against her own personal dignity to do it, but just isn't keen on the taste... could find ways around that to compromise (imo). I really do.

But for a woman that feels humiliated by the act, its the man that would need to compromise (imo) his own desires beneath his love's emotional well-being.

[rcoreyus]

No one should need to do something sexual that they don't want to do in a relationship. No one should feel pressured to stay in a relationship if they are not getting what they want in bed. Each person is free to do as they wish....

All this "Don't do anything for fear of someone leaving you stuff"... I wonder how many guys get a job because their women will leave if they don't etc.

Relationships are compromise, and a compromise is when both parties are unhappy :P....

[Melvin John]

Erobins I think that you should only do what you want to do also but to threaten your oral sex part of your relationship is going to far. If I was your man i would be uncomfortable having oral sex with you. What if he is so into it and accidently unloads on you? No more oral sex? Maybe you should be doing it.

[Austin Richards]

I'm probably one of the few guys that are not all that crazy about doing that. The first time my girlfriend did it was a big turn on for me, but I have to admit that I can't get past thinking about swallowing it myself.... makes me want to gag, so while the gesture is nice, I sure don't want her to do it unless it is somethign that really makes her hot.

No it won't get you pregnant but keep in mind that those little sperm running around in your mouth can be transferred to your hands to your vagina... ditto even kissing him and then getting oral sex from him. All this is very remote, but a baby is a pretty big deal so you should look on this stuff, not as "probabilities," but "possibilities."

[AnneHathaway]

I am fine doing either, but if you don't want to swallow, there is a hot and easy way to around it, and my husband says it feels incredible. Hopefully I can describe it to you well enough so you can do it if you want.

As he is cumming, catch and hold it all in your mouth while continuing to pleasure him...most guys hate it when their woman stops what they are doing right at "the" moment. Swallow several times to give him the sensation, but don't swallow the semen. Then, while still holding the semen in your mouth, deep throat him and swirl your tongue around him while letting most of it dribble out.

It does take a bit of practice, but it works really well.

[stressed]

All this "Don't do anything for fear of someone leaving you stuff"... I wonder how many guys get a job because their women will leave if they don't etc.

On the same note, I wonder how many women clean, cook and do the laundry out of fear of their husband finding a better "maid" to marry. Men get a job because they need money to survive. Women get a job for the same reason these days, plus, they need to feel independent despite being married. Many women are forced to get a job by their husbands.

Just because a man goes to work every day to make his own money doesn't give him a reason to force his sperm down his girlfriend's throat. It doesn't give him a right to disrespect her if she's against it. Just as no woman has the right to force anything onto her boyfriend's face just because she makes dinner every day.

[rcoreyus]

I'll agree that in any way forcing someone is completely wrong.

Question though - it is reasonable for someone to leave a relationship if the aren't getting what they want sexually?

[Maximus]

How about if he does first then you will think about giving it a try ?
Sorry but forcing somebody to anything is plain wrong...Not much love in there for sure...
Only an ego trip.