[inquisitive1]

If a woman does not love a man even though she is married to him, I believe she should never have to perform sexually for him. It has to be a joint venture or else the sex is a chore for her. To let a man invade this part of her body that is so sacred and special without her feeling the want of his pleasures is not what sex is about. Sex is about happiness. Two people in heat making the heat hotter. Wanting to make two people one and join in this sacred hot union of belonging to each other. To have the feeling of not knowing where he starts and you begin. To feel the surge of love that he sends through you with your swell of passion with his ejaculation. To make him find parts of you that are so sexually alive that you never knew that you had before. Without the love in your heart that allows you to be able to allow him to do this sexual touching, it would be pure torture and an invasion of your soul.....I understand these are just my thougths...

Caroline-
That was very eloquently expressed! I felt those words. Thank you for that.

[C]

Caroline-
That was very eloquently expressed! I felt those words. Thank you for that.

Thank you, only when you can go to these special places within yourself can you allow this to happen. Without the hot love between two people it just can't happen. I could never stay married to a man that I did not love. I could never allow a man to have my body because it was a duty. I could never perform oral sex on a man unless I desired him and every part of him. It just would have to be such a sexual thing between us that would allow the inner part of the woman in me to release and let the tiger loose. When this happens he sees a part of me that is every man's desire in a woman. I become his Porn Queen and do him good. Knowing that I am allowing this to happen and feel no embarrassment, gives me permission to show my soul to my lover and make this hot journey with him. This is how my mind allows me to release that inner woman that loves to have this hot sex.........but I understand only my thoughts....now I have to go and watch some football.....I think tonight it is Peyton Manning.......All for the love of my man.....

[housewife]

If a woman does not love a man even though she is married to him, I believe she should never have to perform sexually for him.

everything in your post is so true, but to be said to a woman who is still dating, not married.
I assume that when you get married, you love your husband already, therefor, it is our duties (husband +wife) to fulfill each other since there is no other options.

If there is no love, then that what divorce is for.

The way you explained how sex should be is 100% correct and that is how we feel as wives toward our husbands. it is not something that I miss.
by the way, you must be so romantic.

[housewife]

If a women does not have the freedom to say no. Then I submit she is not truly free to choose. No Choice = No Freedom = She Has No Choice..

Agree...That is true,
But giving love unlimitedly is never considered weakness.
if every woman understands the nature of the man, everyone of them will live happily ever after, we have the power to turn them into slaves. slave of love of cource.

[Little]

Yay for military girlfriends/wives!
No ... I take that back ... yay for any girlfriend or wife who really loves her s/o ^_^ I get excited when I see other military girls.
My ex thought I was so frigid. I didn't enjoy sex with him. I guess he just wasn't the one for me; I don't like saying no to my boyfriend because the sex with him is so good; with his every action in the bedroom and out he lets me know how much he loves me, not to mention with words. If it wasn't this way, I would have no problem telling him no whenever I wanted.
It's like Housewife said, taking care of each others' needs/wants. Keeping your partner happy. Outside of that Hollywood-hyped meme about sex being some kind of that religious experience, is there much difference between him cooking you dinner, doing the dishes, and tucking you in bed and giving him a little action when you're not quite up to it otherwise?
Maybe I've got a skewed vision, since I'm young as well as the partner with the higher sex drive, but the only reasons I'd ever say no would be if it hurt or if there was a medical reason.

[C]

everything in your post is so true, but to be said to a woman who is still dating, not married.
I assume that when you get married, you love your husband already, therefor, it is our duties (husband +wife) to fulfill each other since there is no other options.

If there is no love, then that what divorce is for.

The way you explained how sex should be is 100% correct and that is how we feel as wives toward our husbands. it is not something that I miss.
by the way, you must be so romantic.

I am very romantic. I think this simple little fact is the reason that so many marriages go down the drain. People forget to love. They forget the romantic nights in a parked car or the stolen feeling of a loved one and the promises of long ago. Sex is no longer a big thing, it becomes a duty. They do not attack him in the morning and put a lock on the bedroom door as we did long ago. When I said we would go in the bathroom and lay on the floor and flush the toilet so the kids did not hear us moaning I was not kidding. This happened a few times. Nor did I tell you of under the ping pong table when the kids were sleeping upstairs and we needed each other. Sure I was tired but so was he. But we woke each other up and went back to our yesterday and never let it disappear. I still do. When he is making love to me, my most erotic thought is being in the front seat of the parked car when he was home on leave. Being the first man that I had let go up the leg of my skirt. Move my garter belt aside and go into my panties. I think of the thrill of his fingers finding my pubic hair for the first time and how I gasped in heat. So juicy that I was a mess. His fingers so tenderly invading the inside of my body and finding places in me that I never knew were so pleasurable. Holding him tightly as I orgasmed and then not knowing what my sailor was going to do as he lowered his head to the seat of the car and pushed my panties aside and performed oral sex on me for the first time. These are my memories of my yesterday that I have never let die. He is still my sailor of long ago and I adore him and always will.

My parents had a lousy marriage. I never saw any love between them. I saw some duty sex but nothing like we are. I believe in many ways a woman does not truly know what she is as a woman. Does not know her capabilities and know that of the two sexes that she is the luckiest with the best parts. Only truly finding her inner self in deep passion is she able to let that special part of her go and release the hot woman she is. This is a woman only love in. His loving her only. She must concentrate on her feelings only. He must understand this.. She must love and trust her lover enough to take him along for the trip where his hands and mouth take her to this paradise of the angels. By my discovering this I found that I was very multi orgasmic but a woman must be in love with her man to start. I believe if two people are in heat and passion and truly love each other that for the joy of this sexual act of his finding her hot sexual places that she could never turn him down.

Sexual intercourse can be very satisfying but it is the above awakening of her soul that makes the want inside her internal sexual organ's scream for filling and orgasm like she was intended to do. She must be awakened to want the joy of his entry and penetration.......These are just my thoughts on this....

Now I have posted enough here and before you all say get out of here, I will disappear... But I will be back.....I really like the site. Take care, Caroline

[Fallen1]

Caroline ....

As I read your last two posts in this thread they brought tears to my eyes. I envy your relationship and hope to find such a fulfillment with mine.

[C]

Caroline ....

As I read your last two posts in this thread they brought tears to my eyes. I envy your relationship and hope to find such a fulfillment with mine.

And I hope you find all that we have found and maybe even a little more....He is the twinkle in my eye that never goes away..... Simply turns me to mush...... Take care, Caroline

I will do your dirty talking post in the morning....I am out of here now....

[inquisitive1]

muslium people the men are the boss you ladies cannot say no i used to have a lebonese friends i know there cultures. and some are very modern mulisum's

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Hello lilly41-

This was the quote I referrenced in one of my posts. I agree with the spirit of this post. I too have friends and have briefly dated two men from the Middle East of the Muslim faith as well, and this was my experience. That is what was imparted to me from those encounters. I am not one to judge. However, I don't agree with it as a practice for myself.

[inquisitive1]

Here in the U.S where men and women are supposed to be considered "equal" in many ways, there always exists hypocracy. For example, men and women are supposed to earn equal pay. Not!!!
I am a research scientist/math and scientist professor with much more experience than many men I work with, however many of these men earn more money than me because I am a woman. Not Fair!!

Also, in a marriage, it is supposed to be mutual for a man to sexually please his wife and visa versa! Years ago, and this even applies here in the U.S.A. men were supposed to be sexually pleasured by their wives exclusively and wives were not supposed to have an orgasm , nor enjoy the sexual experience, thus many women "only had sex to please their husbands and to have babies."

I have read recent "case studies" here in the U.S.A where a husband wanted sex and his wife said "no, not tonight honey, I have a headache or I am tired." Rather than respecting the wife, the husband had sex with her anyway!(disrespecting her boundaries) and the wife phoned the police claiming "rape" against her husband! The husband had to serve jail time. "NO" means "No" even within marriages in the U.S.A.

Masturbaion is healthy for both women and men. Medical documentation states that when men and women masturbate it relieves sexual tension. Also, when men masturbate, it decreases their chances for prostate cancer. I feel that Masturbation is O.K. PORNOGRAPHY is not O.K!

Hello Gia-

I responded before I read this post. I must say this was my gut reaction as well as my personal experience. From your first word to your last. If I would have read this post first it would have saved me some typing....I could simply have just quoted this.