[jns]

SP, part of the mental block may be that he idealizes you too much. He may be afraid of making you messy. Does he stay hard for a long time or does he lose his erection? If he stays hard, try teasing him, then he teasing you, then you teasing him again, then he teasing you. Keep on repeating the pattern. If he loses his erection, it just takes more work. Over time he will build up sexual excitation that will make it easier for him to go over the edge. Having him close his eyes while your teasing him also may make it easier.

[Texasred]

Some guys live for the woman... Want to work to ensure she enjoys everything, works at her pleasure not his. Be it because he feels like a man in doing so, or it's just his nature, he can control and learn to control this but then can't ejaculate as he's trained himself in that nature.
CW

Exactly.
This was the problem I had.
But with the help of a very good friend, I got over it.
Most of the time, anyway.

[Guest]

CW is right. If a guy has to masturbate, better he does it on his partner rather than at a time when she's not around. The thing that's nice tohear from you ladies is that you like your guys to come and enjoy the fluids. If only I had had girlfriends in the past that enjoyed this maybe I wouldn't have had hang-ups! But, as I've said before, you ladies seem to be on the same wave length as us guys who participate on the website. If only more women were like you ladies.

[Ahryin]

I think the moral to the story is you have to be willing and able to please your partner. Sex isn't supposed to be comprised of careful calculations its meant to be the ultimate expression of appreciation. Its possible that everyone is correct and he just doesn't know how to do it any other way. Have you tried watching him masturbate? Every man has his pace and routine you should immulate that.

[Guest]

I just wonder if he has a sensitivity issue on his glans penis. In other words his penis head has lost some feeling and only he knows the secret key to unlock the enjoyment?

[emptypea2001]

These are all good responses. I like the idea of woman being blindfolded to help his mental seizing up but would add that when he does cum, she should make a big deal about it and let her self get aroused, maybe even masturbate. This would really drive in the reinforcement and make him want to cum so bad next time. I also agree with having him refrain from masturbating for several days before next contact.

[Lovcookie]

It's likely he ran out of bullets earlier in the day from masturbating. Otherwise, it is a mental block. Try not to feel bad, I don't think it has anything to do with you.