[luismsrkson]

(Moderator moved from thread over 2 years old and created separate thread.)

This thread popped up when I googled Ï can't find the G spot

My partner and I have been togeather for 10 years, have 2 kids and are more comfortable with each other than alot of couples. We get turned on by each others smell we aren't afraid to touch any part of each others bodies and talk about what we enjoy.

Even with this open communication, the G Spot is something that has never seemed to interest her and she has great clitoral orgasims.

My partner is a reasonably complacent women who is happy to cruise along without exploring much other than basic comforts (in life and sex) while I have an adventourous spiirt (I wish more in life but definately in sex).

We have only ever looked for the spot a couple of times and she says she can't feal anything special in our exploration. I would be happy to let it go but for a few times she has inadvertantly squirted during sex. Once in my mouth but I can't recall were my fingers were (this happened a while ago) and then she squirted again (about 30cm) the other night when we were making love in front of the fire. She tells me she definately enjoyed it but still found it a little unnerving.

Last night we were talking about how she used to fantasise about me when we first met and I asked what she would have done with me If she had had the chance. She described what her bedroom at the time looked like and said she would have loved to kiss me in her teenage bed. Later that night I did my best to replicate the mood of the room she described and lit candles, burned incense (and a few other things she described) etc

We kissed, undressed and so on. She was extreemly wet and turned on so I decided I would explore and used techniques I have read about and seen in videos. She enjoyed my tounge and my fingers penetrating but said there was no real spot that seemed special.

She is happy for me to keep trying but I'm lost. Its not that often that we have a chance to make love these days and I find it hard to pick up from were I left off a week ago.

Not sure if anyone could really suggest anything that hasn't already been said. I suppose this was more of a therapy session for me!

[WildChild]

I've never been able to pin this down either. I'm going to a program on female ejaculation later this week to see what I can learn. I'll share whatever that may be.

[luismsrkson]

I look foward to it!

[luismsrkson]

any updates?

[ItsASecret]

Anatomy says there is no reason for some 'special spot'. And that exact reason is why some women just cannot seem to find it. Sure you can feel around for the illusive spongy walnut sized area but frankly everywhere in the vagina should feel like a wet sponge. You can do the same techniques as you see in pornos, in educational clips, or what you read in books but nothing is going to guarantee anything. For me personally I can find the right spot, it can be stimulated and yes it does feel like something but it is no magic button. Others swear by the area though so obviously it can be there or it can be part of psychology, no one knows. If you want to keep searching then I say go for it, but the answer may be as simple as your wife says "no real special spot". She already has great orgasms as you say so even if you cannot find the said G-spot she can still get great pleasure from you.

[luismsrkson]

That is all well and good, and I understand the intricacies of the topic, however, we shall continue on into the night and with a hopeful heart and spirit for adventure search on!

[Mes T]

I'm glad you're having fun with it, heck at this rate it might be better if you never find it, as you'll have an excuse to continue exploring!

I too have never found a magical erotic spot in my vagina, and that's the same story for a tooooon of women. So as long as you don't expect too much or make her feel like there's something wrong with her for not having it, then you'll be fine!!

[luismsrkson]

So as long as you don't expect too much or make her feel like there's something wrong with her for not having it, then you'll be fine!!

Not sure why people often qualify their comments with statements like this... I can't imagine that this behavior is that common....

[Mes T]

I didn't mean anything by it, was just thinking back on all the threads I've seen on here to the effect of "am I broken" because such-and-such doesn't seem to be working. Lots of women bring these doubts upon themselves anyway, without anyone else's help.

Didn't mean to offend!

[ItsASecret]

I think what Mes T was trying to say is that even if there is no magic spot found your partner (or youself) should not feel like something is wrong. I believe that you are fully aware of that though because you seem to be very into exploring which means you are open minded about any outcome.

If you two find a special 'G-spot' then great, if she maintains that it does not feel like anything 'special' then continue making her feel more than pleasured in bed just like you already do.