[pittsburgh44]

once again, thanks for taking a stab at it!

[May2may]

Try stimulatin ur clitoris while workin ur g spot, or get a vibrator that has the clitoris stimulator on it. I find spreadin my vaginal lips apart and usin more than one finger (two or three) and makin sure that its lubricated jus enough, not too much cuz then ur slippin everywhre....but u can palm it as well. Change pace...go slow an than faster...circular motions seem to stimulate me even more. I try to make myself "hard" an find it easier to climax. Make ur clit hard (the lil knot at the top of ur clitros) An i also swear by kegels...knowin those muscles an bein able to contract them durin masturbation can help as well. ugh so many diff things u can do....even watch porn...the sound of someone else gettin off can b quite stimluatin to...while ur masturbating. Have u ever notcied that wen u are actually doin it w someone to hear them get off or groan or moan in pleasure sets u off a lil?

[May2may]

just realized that this was a guy. duh..now it all makes sense. i was wonderin how bologne would b benificail to a woman masturbatin!! lol i could only say that porno mite help. or visual and audio stimulation. maybe ahve a recordin of ur fiance orgasming or record it. Surely she should b concerned w u bein sexual satisfied an should help if not w the actual act but help u get stimulated. is she uncomfortable w sex? Do u kno why she mite not want to b accomadatin? I cant give much advice considerin i dont have a penis...and have u heard on the "pocket pussies" they sell at adult stores...that could help u get that feelin u r missin. obviously ur hand doens hold moisture as well as a vagina stays wet or have quite enough cushion if u will. i would suggest that. that an gettin urself really worked up an bein patient before u actually perform the act

[May2may]

video record** wen u actually do have sex, instead of porn, she may not think that is appropriate

[jns]

P44, try different materials, such as nylon that you drape over your penis and then stimulate from the outside without lubricant. Try between several layers of material at the edge of the bed with something providing enough weight, such as a heavy book and pillow. Try dry humping your bed or a pillow. If you want to get very kinky, try stimulating your own prostrate. Play with your own balls. Get a love doll. Make sure you clean up everything.

[Faerunner]

Dittoing prostate play. Try a pocket ; make your own if you can't afford one. There are DIY sites for male masturbation with a couple of fun ideas (and some that just look weird, but what do I know? I'm a girl!). Just make sure that any toys you make or buy stay clean, smooth (sharp/rough edges are NOT nice!), and are put neatly away when you're done.

Is your fiance the kind of girl who would mind you including her in your masturbation? That's one surefire way to spice things up!

[JadedQueen]

I have questions....
1. How long have you two been together?
2. Has your sex drive always been this much stronger then hers or has her drive dwindled throughout the relationship?

If her drive has dwindled... I think you should find out what is going on.... It could be something simple like medication interfering with her drive, stress, etc...

I really don't know different techniques for male masturbation (have ya seen the movie American Pie? That could be one way to go... ewww... j/k) but I sure you can google it.... any and everything can be found out by googling it these days... I think you should try and figure out how to get your finace' on the same page as you and then you won't have to figure out different techniques.

[Hopeless Dork]

I'm sure if you google up male masturbation techniques theres got to be oodles of things that some men do to spice up alone time.... we only have a handful of regular male posters here and its doubtful the women will be all that knowldegable of some of the things men do to get off alone... especially the stuff they would never share with us out of embarassment etc. I've heard stories of watermelons or some other type of fruit but I don't know if its just urban legend or things that actually work :\

But from an emotional standpoint... your engaged... in love... and looking for ways to spice up , not your sex life, but your masturbation life -- unless this is a long distance relationship it seems like... its just seems the wrong direction?!

[pittsburgh44]

I have questions....
1. How long have you two been together?
2. Has your sex drive always been this much stronger then hers or has her drive dwindled throughout the relationship?

If her drive has dwindled... I think you should find out what is going on.... It could be something simple like medication interfering with her drive, stress, etc...

I really don't know different techniques for male masturbation (have ya seen the movie American Pie? That could be one way to go... ewww... j/k) but I sure you can google it.... any and everything can be found out by googling it these days... I think you should try and figure out how to get your finace' on the same page as you and then you won't have to figure out different techniques.

Thanks for the all the input...

Yes, it's always been a lot higher than hers, much MUCH higher...
I've tried everything with her and I've been even thinking about telling her I want to stop having sex all together before we get married just because then if i have no expectations of anything i won't be let down! It's a lot easier for me to not expect anything and get that than wish i was getting a BJ, handjob or ANYTHING but the "normal" sex we have maybe 2 times a month.

Anyway, thank you to everybody for your input.

Oh, a little off topic and I know everybody is different but i always wondered this...what do women think of when they masturbate & do any females involve their "other" entrance when masturbating?

[Rediscovered]

Oh, a little off topic and I know everybody is different but i always wondered this...what do women think of when they masturbate & do any females involve their "other" entrance when masturbating?

Just answering for myself~

I have a movie of my lover and me and if I am going to masturbate, many times I will watch that movie...I can honestly say I've never masturbated while thinking of anyone other than my lover.

And to answer the second question, YES!!