[Iseulda]

There are very few nerves in the vagina itself, if there were child birth would be unbearable.

That's true of the vaginal wall compared to other body surface areas - there are plenty of nerves but the majority of the shallow nerves are near the 'mouth' of the vagina - these nerves respond well to friction, i.e. rubbing, in-out. The deeper vaginal walls have fewer never endings but the deeper in the vagina responds well to pressure.

When I use penetration as part of masturbation I rarely use an in-out motion, I will put a dildo or vibrator in as deep as it will go and push to get the feeling of pressure deep in my vagina. That, along with clitoral stimulation, gives me a good orgasm.

Sex is very different. The feeling of bodies together, of someone else controlling the penetration, the fact that it's my lover's penis inside me, the different angles and intensity my man's penis and movement give me, kissing, looking in his eyes - none of those things happen in masturbation and really there is no comparison.

It is good that you are practising feeling something inside you but you won't know how the sex feels til you have it.

While trying to locate my G-Spot I found that the top part of the opened to my vagina is what's actually pretty tender and is what hurts. There's a short but quite thick tag of skin there and that seems to be what hurts.

Do you think because that hurts, it maybe over-rides anything else I might feel?
I couldn't find my G-spot, I assume I'd know if I did find it?
Not that I'm going to give up, mind you. I'll keep trying and learning more about my body every time I have the privacy to do so.

But that tag of skin...Is that normal? I don't know if it's what's left of my hymen after they cut it or not but it's pretty thick.
Do you think I should go back to my doctor and mention it?

Sorry for all these questions. I hope you guys haven't given up on me yet.
I am also researching Kegels. Sounds interesting and something I would really give a try.

I also need to thank you all for your help so far. Even just with this, I've learned a little more about my body.

I don't recognise that tag of skin. I don't have one myself and the few women I have been sexual with haven't had one either. But that's not a very big sample of the female population.

I don't think that hurting will stop you feeling pleasure as well. I do think you need to find a different doctor who will take your concerns seriously.

As for the g-spot. I can't get to mine with my fingers at all. Nor can I stimulate it with a straight vibrator. My man puts two fingers in my vagina, (he's facing me and the palm of his hand facing him) and makes a beckoning motion with his fingers (you know, like calling a waiter over) - that hits it exactly for me. He also bought me a curved vibrator (not too curved, just like a banana) - when I use that I move it in and out of my vagina with the curve like a smile, not a frown, the top of it rubs my g-spot and it's a great sensation.

It could be that your surgery has left you too sensitive where you should be 'just right' sensitive. Again, I think you need to change doctors and say to the new doctor, very frankly, just what you have said to us.

Good luck - and you'll find the wonderful ladies here will never give up on you, so come back with results, more questions, observations. Anything.

[Piku]

As for the g-spot. I can't get to mine with my fingers at all. Nor can I stimulate it with a straight vibrator. My man puts two fingers in my vagina, (he's facing me and the palm of his hand facing him) and makes a beckoning motion with his fingers (you know, like calling a waiter over) - that hits it exactly for me. He also bought me a curved vibrator (not too curved, just like a banana) - when I use that I move it in and out of my vagina with the curve like a smile, not a frown, the top of it rubs my g-spot and it's a great sensation.

It could be that your surgery has left you too sensitive where you should be 'just right' sensitive. Again, I think you need to change doctors and say to the new doctor, very frankly, just what you have said to us.

Good luck - and you'll find the wonderful ladies here will never give up on you, so come back with results, more questions, observations. Anything.

It's odd that you mention a curved vibrator. I ordered one today, just incase I have that very same issue. I thought that maybe I just couldn't reach it with my own fingers...I have quite short fingers as it is.

I'm going to do some "exploration" of my own over the next week or two and try and figure out what my body responds to.
I've been looking up things anywhere I can to see if there's anyone locally who would take me seriously. Like a sex therapist or even someome from a sexual health clinic but I can't seem to find any that are even in this city.
If not then, as you said, I think I need to find a doctor who will take me seriously.