[Lil Bird]

Personally... At 14, how do you know that you are ready to have sex? I was 18 when I lost my virginity and i struggled with being ready then! You have only been dating for a month and some change... how much can you learn about a person in a month? The one thing I am really concerned about, besides your age of course, is the fact that, like others have stated, what if he leaves you after having sex with you? Can you handle that emotionally?

I really think that there is more to sex than many young people realize and probably won't realize it until the deed is done.


So, Ask yourself these questions to find out if you are ready to have sex...

-Can i support a child if i were to become pregnant?

-20 years from now, will i regret this?

[PureVirgin]

Dear Lord yes you are too young. You have your whole lives ahead of you. Take it from someone who knows. Abstinence is best. You should really wait for the right person. This world is filled with so many deadly diseases why would you even want to chance it?

[GoddessOfLove]

Dear Lord yes you are too young. You have your whole lives ahead of you. Take it from someone who knows. Abstinence is best. You should really wait for the right person. This world is filled with so many deadly diseases why would you even want to chance it?

If you look at sex with the amount of fear that you seem to, you will probably struggle having a healthy sexual relationship with your fiance. Sex is not evil. And saying abstinence is best is an opinion, not a fact.

But of course 14 is too young for sex. I would never condone that.

[Scarletkitty]

I would like to address the "can I support a child if I were to become pregnant" statement. There are other options you know?

[PureVirgin]

I would like to address the "can I support a child if I were to become pregnant" statement. There are other options you know?

BLASPHEMY!!! How could you even suggest the 'A' word. I've always said if you're not mature enough to deal with the consequences then you shouldn't be having sex in the first palce

[Scarletkitty]

There's other "A" words that are options... Adoption comes to mind... But as long as you want to go there, the other IS legal so it would still be considered an option.

[PureVirgin]

Legality doesn't make it right in the eyes of God

[GoddessOfLove]

Legality doesn't make it right in the eyes of God

Perhaps you should go to your church group for relationship advice? Not trying to be mean or anything. But if you are getting disgusted about people discussing sex on a forum that is labeled "Sex", there may be better places out there for you to seek advice.

[PureVirgin]

Perhaps you are right, Goddess, but then again if I can save even one soul on this site...

[WildChild]

BLASPHEMY!!! How could you even suggest the 'A' word. I've always said if you're not mature enough to deal with the consequences then you shouldn't be having sex in the first palce

Your concepts of 'sin' or 'blasphemy' are based entirely on your chosen beliefs. This is not a religious site. People do not come here seeking advice based on religious viewpoints, there are many other sites that do offer that and if that is what they want, they will go there. We do not permit this kind of judging of people. You may state that Your beliefs do not encompass certain actions but you may not put that as a judgement on others. If you want to save souls with your particular chosen beliefs you need to take that to a place where people are looking for that.