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    Member
    • Dec 2007
    • 70

    Premature Ejaculation - hummm......

    When my boyfriend and i have sex its over within seconds. I mean seconds.... is there anything i can do to make it last longer, or try to prolong the erection?
  • jns
    Assistant Admin
    • Mar 2010
    • 8398

    Using a condom can possibly lower the sensation. IDK, make him bring you to orgasm orally before he gets two strokes, then repeat. After a few times, let him finish. Gradually increase the number of strokes as long as he doesn't climax the first time or two. If he goes long enough, discontinue the training.
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    • Guest

      Also, there is a technique where you can hold the base of the penis so that he can't ejaculate until you release your grip. Although it's frustrating, with training it can be improved. ----------Look on the bright side in the meantime, he can't wait to finish on/in you! He must really fancy you. Help him and you can improve this situation greatly.

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      • wolvesinthethroneroom
        Junior Member
        • Oct 2009
        • 6

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        Last edited by wolvesinthethroneroom; 07-28-2015, 11:41 PM.

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        • SaharaJim
          Veteran Member
          • Jun 2010
          • 426

          PE is "generally" a young man's problem. BUT there are advantages. Young men "recover" quicKly too. My advice is to reguard the "first shot" as foreplay. Take a minute or ten...then start again. The erection will revive and he will last longer. Now the penis is likely to maintain good rigidity if he maintains through the second tme with lots of gentle stimulation and delaying actual intercouse or whatever get him there unti he has fully and thouroughly aroused and satified you. THEN he gets "seconds".

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          • lasenzaguy
            Junior Member
            • Jul 2010
            • 2

            PE is due mostly to not having much sex. You have to train your penis, the more you use it, the longer you last.... one thing you can do is masturbate, then wait about 20-25mins and then you can last ALOT longer while having sex.

            Tip from the pro

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            • Jayla2251
              Member
              • Jun 2009
              • 80

              We went to a dr. and he told us to use a condom which I can tell you DOES make him last longer. You can also use like orajel on his penis and it'll desistize it. (But be careful Ive never went that far, Im sure you'd still have to use a condom so none got onto your parts). My bf also started masturbating a bit more. Instead of never masturbating and us only having sex, so I can say that's helped too. For us sometimes if he comes, or loses his erection, I play with a toy (or he uses one on me) and within a minute he's ready to take back over.

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              • sallywi2003
                Senior Member
                • Jul 2010
                • 103

                You need to take your time with your man alot of men premature ejaculate within minutes. In my sex life my partner started masturbating more which helped. Also we have more foreplay up front and if he has a orgasm he gets hard again quickly and we have sex again. We tried the codom thing which did not work. There are lotions out there that are suppose to keep him hard longer but I do not think it helps the orgasm piece.

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                • bubbles
                  Member
                  • Dec 2007
                  • 70

                  Originally posted by Thomas Hepburn
                  Also, there is a technique where you can hold the base of the penis so that he can't ejaculate until you release your grip. Although it's frustrating, with training it can be improved. ----------Look on the bright side in the meantime, he can't wait to finish on/in you! He must really fancy you. Help him and you can improve this situation greatly.
                  I always wondered if it was because the guy gets "really turned on", or because its hard to control either way. Man I wish it were like that for woman too!

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                  • bubbles
                    Member
                    • Dec 2007
                    • 70

                    Originally posted by wolvesinthethroneroom
                    Most guys talk of ejaculating too fast in terms of minutes, I however know what your bf goes through as I also cum within 10 seconds (usually under 5 strokes) of intercourse. I can last when receiving oral howerver, is he the same way?
                    Does he seem to be bothered by it? Have you ever mentioned it to him? It is very hard to ignore when it is over in seconds, I know.
                    How large is his penis? Reason I am asking is mine is quite large with an exaggerated glans (head) and it is extra sensitive and this is the part of the cause for my lack of stamina. Though, as anyone who has watched porn knows, having a large penis or glans does not always cause PE.
                    I have learned to hold it back, but I am still limited to 4-5 strokes at a time followed by a long pause. While it doesn't solve the problem, it would allow you to have an erect penis in you longer and if you are able to grind on him without much movement in and out, you may be able to orgasm with him that way. Just an idea.
                    It took me years to be able to acknowledge it and talk about it, denial can be powerful, where is he at with his issue?
                    Yes, my bf is the same, within 5-10 strokes for sure, and he is even quicker when I'm on top. As he says thats his favorite position kinda sucks cause i like it too
                    I have never mentioned it to him, and he has never talked about it. He does not seem to be bothered in the slightest about it either. Its not that I am bothered either, I just want to be able to work together so its enjoyable to both of us no matter how long its erect.

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