[rtv99]

Again. I think WC is right. As part of your wedding gown i woudl assume you'd have some sexy undies to go with it. As a guy i don't think you need to change into anything different. I know for me i wanted to carefully take apart that gown and unwrap my wedding present. My wife and i got each other each a thoughtful little present. I wrote her a short story about the adventure of buying her engagement ring and had in bound. One thing to keep in mind about the wedding night. Your new husband will be putting A LOT of pressure on himself to make the evening majical and the most amazing night for you to remember, so anything you can do to ease the stress level keeping it passioate but also light hearted will help mitigate any of his stress.

[heatherswar]

So rtv99...can I ask you a question, or maybe questions, from a guys point of view. Like I had stated just a few minutes ago, when it comes to oral and the lack there of from him, how do I let him know that I really love it and find out why he doesn't go there or if he doesn't like it without it being embarrassing for either one of us??? I don't want to pressure or make him uncomfortable but that area would like some additional attention from him.

[SaharaJim]

There could be any reason amoung hundreds that he isn't going "downstairs". Often lack of knowledge as to how much your partner enjoys it , or what "exactly" to do my inhibit many partners. but....prior to marring my then girl friend had a wonderful approach in my opinion; she would simply ask over a private non-threatening breakfast "can I get ____________ sometime in the next couple of days? I have heard (like) that if you do xyz it is really great" She then would usually find me wanting to provide whatever IMMEDIATELY (the idea was such a turn on that I needed no encouragement).

[heatherswar]

Perfect, Im sure its the fact that I don't voice how much I like it cuz I know he has viewed his fair of "imformative, educational videos." But that is a good approach, very much my ideal way to get the idea in his head. Thank you!

[rtv99]

SJ is right on with this one. Another thing to atleast get onto the subject and start a conversation is to tell him how good he is at it. How great his tongue is and how good it makes your body feel. That it makes you want him so bad. Flattery gets you everywhere.

[rcoreyus]

Does he seem uninterested in more adventuresome sex, or just is awkward / nervous talking about it? If the second, you can take charge.

Since you give him oral, maybe next time he is lying in bed start in on him, then when he is good and aroused turn around so that you are in a 69 position.

Lingerie can work if communication is tough. Very few men will object to being surprised by their SO greeting them at the door wearing something lacy and black.

There is always the sort of half joke - when something minor goes wrong (dropped something) - you can say "I bad, guess you need to give me a spanking" (if that sounds fun to you). He can either smile and ignore or take you up on it. Or after he has done some favor for you, can say "thank you - guess I need to be your sex slave for a day to make it up to you....".

[heatherswar]

He just never talks about it, never offers, and usually wants to get right to business. He uses his hands briefly has foreplay then jumps right on top. I don't really know how to tell him to slow take lets take our time and maybe try some new stuff.
Don't get me wrong what we do is great, amazing but I don't want him or myself to get bored with things and look elsewhere for excited...not cheating but just other things, like porn, masturbation while leaving the other person out and feeling unwanted. Sometimes I do feel unwanted by lack excited, his need to watch porn (which I look nothing like those girls on the screen ) and masturbates to them, and like he just wants to get it over with when we do have sex and that's where I am thinking switching things up might help add some excited to the bedroom.

[heatherswar]

Maybe watching the porn together could help, if I'm there he'll get warmed up and deliver to me

[rcoreyus]

If you don't mind, watching porn together might work. You can each see what the other likes. I think watching it together is much better than him watching alone.

[SaharaJim]

Just guessing heatherswar but it sounds like he is young and somewhat "spoiled" by the fact that sexual release comes quickly and easily for him. True as long as you are young and healthy. But he needs to expand his repitoi against the day when things aren't "easy and automatic". It may take time or just a few extended weekends
where he not only gets "enough" sex but has to make an actual effort to respond. He does need to be reminded that for a TRUE GENTLEMAN the rule remains "Ladies first". I would suggest a couple of weekends away.. of play.. and just "wear his rod out"..and then show him that he can still respond to slow stimulation. AND..he will find that a "delayed" orgasm can be MUCH more intense than a series of "quick and easies".