[pretzel]

uglee, you said something that unfortunately does happen and that is the "LIST". From what I've read so far, here's her list and what I think her prioities are:

1) Work. She obviously loves it and works long and hard to be successful at it.
2) Her child. At 37 and the mother of a 3 yo, she probably feels even more blessed to be able to have a child when she may have started to think otherwise a few years ago. She's not going to give up any opportunity to miss out on something they do.
3) House. Despite what you may do around the house and with your child, there's still things to do.
4) You.

I'm not saying that this isn't right or wrong. I know back when my daughter was young and my wife was in nursing school, this was her list.

[mrwrong]

uglee,

Your situation sounds a *lot* like mine.. Sucks. It is not just "odd" that your sex plummeted after she found out she was pregnant, it is *proof* that she's using sex to control you and get what she wants. Occasionally she wants sex, so she gets it her way. She realizes that she can't *always* reject you so she gives you enough to string you along. If she wants a baby then she does it more often until she's got what she wants. It is sad that sex can become a tool for some people rather than a relationship building experience.

Fortunately for you, you have kept your cool and been extremely patient (unlike me), and in my opinion would therefore be completely justified in simply leaving her since she has adequately proven that she is not interested in you for you but rather just the benefits you provide. I know exactly how it feels to be on the bottom of a long priority list and it sucks and is no way to live. Put your foot down (gracefully), give her a last chance to change her priorities and be comfortable at the end (whatever the outcome) knowing that you did everything you could. She will never just suddenly wake up and change because she has no reason to, she already has everything her way.