After waiting 20 years to finally voice your disatisfaction with the state of your sex life... its going to be met with a lot of resentment if you handle it like you've been miserable all this time, so please try to voice your concerns coming from a -- this is what I'd like to see us become rather than a 'this has sucked so hard for decades, fix it!!' angle.
Some women are just not that orally inclined for whatever reason, some never will be and some change. For me, the idea of giving oral freaked me out I wouldnt dream of letting a guy ejaculate in my mouth and absolutely hated the process of blow jobs. Fast forward a few years and my tastes changed (no pun intended) . With my boyfriend I love... absolutely love going down on him and do so to completion, with enthusiasm and excitement and true pleasure during the experience. I look forward to his orgasm and the taste turns me on because I think of it as pure pleasure.
It doesn't hurt that he is also impeccably clean down there, I would eat my dinner off his privates... it always smells freshly showered and I could rest my head in his naked lap all evening. His diet is clean, he drinks lots of water and his taste is not repugnant or strong. I'm sure those things factor in to my enthusiam for the act.
But its also how I view his penis, how much I love to touch it and how much I get pleasure out of giving it to him that makes me very oral to him.
10 years ago I would never have imagined that an act I use to be disgusted with is now an extreme highlight to my sex life now... it was my change in attitude about sex, coupled with a man that inspired me.
I couldn't imagine someone trying to make me like doing it or tasting that stuff back when I thought badly of it. I had to come into it on my own... 20 years of your wife disliking it is not going to change over night... if ever.
I don't understand how you could go so long, being a highly sex driven man with a woman that has very little interest in it... so I am guessing your love for her must be strong and that you truly do want to make this work. If thats the case I would definitly avoid trying to make her feel like she's a weirdo because of what she likes or doesn't like... or to make her feel like you haven't appreciated her attempts to give you pleasure over the years.
I also wouldn't dive in with bags of dildos and whipcreams and say lets try all this right now! Baby steps... getting her to open up about the things you do that she likes ... getting her to explore her own fantasies and what turns her on, what pleases her body are truly the gateway, in my opinion... to get her to start caring more about what pleases you and excites you.
So start with communication, and getting her to open up verbally or through letters, emails texts ect (some people can write naughty things easier than they can say them, even to their significant other).
Some women are just not that orally inclined for whatever reason, some never will be and some change. For me, the idea of giving oral freaked me out I wouldnt dream of letting a guy ejaculate in my mouth and absolutely hated the process of blow jobs. Fast forward a few years and my tastes changed (no pun intended) . With my boyfriend I love... absolutely love going down on him and do so to completion, with enthusiasm and excitement and true pleasure during the experience. I look forward to his orgasm and the taste turns me on because I think of it as pure pleasure.
It doesn't hurt that he is also impeccably clean down there, I would eat my dinner off his privates... it always smells freshly showered and I could rest my head in his naked lap all evening. His diet is clean, he drinks lots of water and his taste is not repugnant or strong. I'm sure those things factor in to my enthusiam for the act.
But its also how I view his penis, how much I love to touch it and how much I get pleasure out of giving it to him that makes me very oral to him.
10 years ago I would never have imagined that an act I use to be disgusted with is now an extreme highlight to my sex life now... it was my change in attitude about sex, coupled with a man that inspired me.
I couldn't imagine someone trying to make me like doing it or tasting that stuff back when I thought badly of it. I had to come into it on my own... 20 years of your wife disliking it is not going to change over night... if ever.
I don't understand how you could go so long, being a highly sex driven man with a woman that has very little interest in it... so I am guessing your love for her must be strong and that you truly do want to make this work. If thats the case I would definitly avoid trying to make her feel like she's a weirdo because of what she likes or doesn't like... or to make her feel like you haven't appreciated her attempts to give you pleasure over the years.
I also wouldn't dive in with bags of dildos and whipcreams and say lets try all this right now! Baby steps... getting her to open up about the things you do that she likes ... getting her to explore her own fantasies and what turns her on, what pleases her body are truly the gateway, in my opinion... to get her to start caring more about what pleases you and excites you.
So start with communication, and getting her to open up verbally or through letters, emails texts ect (some people can write naughty things easier than they can say them, even to their significant other).
And is so hygenic... there is just so much to love about that business down there lol.
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