[Tod]

Oh, wait. I've just read a few posts randomly. This site looked much better at first glance. Ban me anyway. Thanks. Bye

[CHANDLERS WISH]

You'll never know what you missed, or could have learn't....

Anyway, to the OP, don't do anything you don't want to do, but also, don't feel you can't be yourself...no one should, can judge you, you belong to yourself...so be that person...

CW

[Jimbeau]

Let's get real here. There are lots of things women don't like to do and if you love them you do it and expect nothing in return. Killing bugs for a small example. The women in my life dont want to do that so if I want the bugs gone I do it myself, and I don't expect an apple pie or blow job in return. You're going to be in for a rough time in a relationship if you expect *** for tat on everything.

[ManINeedACoffee]

I've known some men who make a big deal out of swallowing and get bent out of shape like Tod here if the woman isn't comfortable with it. I've also known men who have said, "As long as we're both having fun, it doesn't matter to me what you do with it." I was once involved with a guy who told me he'd rather I do what I was comfortable with and enjoy it rather than feel like I was doing a chore.

I tend to lean more toward the "don't knock it until you've tried it" philosophy, but if you're incredibly uncomfortable about it, then don't force yourself to do something you don't want to do. If he loves you, he won't either. I prefer swallowing myself, for reasons I can't quite explain. Sure, it's erotic for me too, and it's MUCH easier in terms of "cleanup." If he doesn't like tasting himself afterward, simply getting a drink of water afterwards works fine.


Honestly, I wasn't so sure about it the first time I did it - he didn't ask me...I'd just decided to try it out of sheer curiosity. I enjoyed it more than I thought I would, really. It's difficult to describe the taste - it doesn't really taste bad or good. It just...tastes. If you're going to try it, do it because YOU want to.

[WildChild]

Oral is a gift and you shouldn't give a gift expecting one in return. However, if you give and give and the other just receives things can get very out of balance for both and that's not healthy.

Back to the original concern of the woman who started the thread, you don't have to take his entire penis in your mouth, he doesn't have to ejaculate in your mouth and you don't have to swallow it unless you want to. Try starting out licking his penis, like an ice cream. Circle the head with your tongue, flick it across the top. Go up one side and down the other, get it nice and wet, really wet. Then you can use your hands to stimulate him and your lips and tongue to tease the head and to keep things wet. Do not let him grab your head and start pumping in your mouth - that is not for beginners. Watch your teeth, when you do have his penis in your mouth curl your lips over your teeth or your bottom lip over your bottom teeth and keep your tongue between your teeth and his penis. Experiment and find what works best for both of you.

[Hopeless Dork]

My boyfriend is so respectful and polite, he never expect to come in my mouth... he gave the heads up warning the first time I gave him oral so that I could move and when I didn't... he did! I told him... "I want you to" and got back to business and he was very pleasantly surprised by it all. The fact that he recognizes that swallowing him, taking it in the mouth is a CHOICE I am making... makes me want to do it all the more. He doesn't expect it, he doesn't demand it... and would be totally happy if I didn't want to ... but I want to ..OH do i want to!! lol.

I think when someone pressures you to do something, it immediately makes it a turn off. I love feeling like I am giving him the gift of pleasure, exactly how I feel when he gives it to me. No one should HAVE to do this or that... nothing feels better anyway than when someone WANTS to do this or that all on their own... because making you feel good makes them feel good. That is the best win-win there is.

[Miss Chloe]

Hopeless, you expressed exactly how I would have. Great Job!!

When I was married, I really did not have the desire to go down on him because I felt that I "had" to, I didn't have a choice. I found the taste less than appealing too and it was due to his diet, which was filled with alot of garlic and spicy foods.
I am now involved with a man who does see it as a "gift" and we both enjoy giving each other pleasure. His diet is also filled with alot of fruit and find that he taste very sweet and I actually like it alot! Knowing this makes me want to do it more and giving him this kind of pleasure really turns me on as well.

[vancityguy]

sex...the same as the rest of the relationship , should be 50/50....weather its all him one night and all you the next , or taking turns during the same night pleasing one another...i think its important to go out of you way for your partner,..i never cared for the idea of giving any gf's oral, until! one gf really liked it and asked me to go down...after my 1st time i was pretty much addicted...now its one of my main tools in my tool box...i guess you never know till you try...and if you don't care for it, atleast your other half will and its not something you have to do ALLLL the time...but once in a while jsut surprise him with it...im sure he'll be even more sexually attracted to you afterwards!

[jr]

Perhaps you can start by letting him cum on you else where. Breasts, neck, etc. Does he also expect you to swallow after he cums in your mouth?

I know that the woman I am with, we had to work up to many things in our sex life and my cumming in her mouth and eventually her swallowing were two of those things.

It's very important that both of you are comfortable doing something BEFORE either of you do it. So compromise and let him cum on you some other place for a while first. Then just let him cum in your mouth a little bit, when you are comfortable in doing so. Eventually, it could become just another part of your lovemaking.

[Pleasure]

Let him cum...

Look, the bottom line is when a guy wants something, he is eventually going to find it. Would you rather he find it with you, or with someone else?? Take the load and just quickly swallow it. If you have to, spit it out. Once you try it a few times, you'll get the hang of it. Also, try to give him a kiss. If he won't kiss you after he shoots his load in your mouth, THEN you can tell him not to cum in your mouth. Don't be surprised though when he shoots it on your face. That is another big turn on for guys. Take it like a women!!