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  • Mr. Inquisitive
    Senior Member
    • May 2010
    • 102

    Sex for him is only to ejaculate and ejaculating is his accomplishment. If he's not certain he will he's not interested and when he does he feels as if I got equal pleasure out of it too.
    Sounds like a real winner.

    By what I've read, men tend to see ejaculation as an accomplishment that satisfies both partners, regardless of how much pleasure they've given.
    Not true. I "finish off" my SO before I climax everytime, no matter how hard it sometimes is for me to hold off. What exactly have you been reading? Penthouse Fourm?

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    • maverick
      Senior Member
      • Dec 2009
      • 130

      Um, we haven't been watching porn here have we? Many of those ejaculations are "staged". I read once that they sometimes tape a tube to the back side of an erect penis and squirt soap through it for the "money shot". But by any means, the amount of ejaculate varies from person to person as does the force. So unless something has changed, this may be normal for this guy. With most men the force and volume of ejaculate diminishes with age. Granted most young men can usually squirt a bit the first time around. Less the second time and so on.

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      • WildChild
        Banned
        • Sep 2008
        • 14142

        Really this varies. Some men have very strong ejaculative, what would you call it?, ummm, reflexes. While others don't. I love it when I can feel the ejaculative contractions, it often heightens my response but that doesn't mean sex isn't good without being able to feel that. It just varies from man to man and sometimes with a man.

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        • lizzardb63
          Veteran Member
          • Aug 2010
          • 1493

          I had an ex who was unable to have children, he had a lot less ejaculate than my current boyfriend. It also was very clear, and not whiteish. My current boyfriend is what I expect, but my ex barely produced anything and it never "shot out"....

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          • Casey715
            Senior Member
            • Feb 2010
            • 179

            Wow that is weird. Having never played with another penis I would not know. Is it the same when he j/o himself?
            I am happy because I am content with who I am. My wife is not responsible for my happiness, she enhances my happiness because she is so good to me.

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            • stressed
              Veteran Member
              • Jun 2009
              • 1914

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              • Guest

                Originally posted by lizzardb63
                I had an ex who was unable to have children, he had a lot less ejaculate than my current boyfriend. It also was very clear, and not whiteish. My current boyfriend is what I expect, but my ex barely produced anything and it never "shot out"....
                My husbands is this way, it 'dribbles' or 'leaks' out and is clear (he has a lot of sperm issues, been tested etc) I have a post about our upcoming NI pregnancy with a donor, that no one has responded to in the pregnancy forums, I think Ni is too taboo for all the pregnant ladies over there?
                Anyway, I have always been very careful not to ever mention previous lovers ejaculate volume or force as he is quite embarrassed by it and men do seem to judge their virility not only on their stamina and size but ejaculate ability as well and I guess it isn't altogether unfounded I suppose if you were just rating a man on his sexual performance, but that's not why I married my husband.

                But yeah, a forceful ejaculation and a lot of semen is arousing to most women.

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                • Guest

                  Originally posted by Audrey80
                  But yeah, a forceful ejaculation and a lot of semen is arousing to most women.
                  I would have put this right up there with "size matters," its really kind of shocking to hear women express an interest in it. If it doesnt make a difference in conception, what is it that women like about it?

                  When I was in college, I could hit the ceiling of my dorm room from my computer chair. Ten years later, hitting the headboard is about all I can do, so I think age has something to do with it, also. The best part of having range is being an "eye sniper," but it only catches a woman off guard the first time. After that, they just complain about the mess.

                  I know for me, it varies greatly with my activity. When I work out more, it gets stronger. Its also the strongest from having sex, and the weakest when Im just "killing time."

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                  • jns
                    Assistant Admin
                    • Mar 2010
                    • 8398

                    Originally posted by SoCoKen
                    I would have put this right up there with "size matters," its really kind of shocking to hear women express an interest in it. If it doesnt make a difference in conception, what is it that women like about it?

                    When I was in college, I could hit the ceiling of my dorm room from my computer chair. Ten years later, hitting the headboard is about all I can do, so I think age has something to do with it, also. The best part of having range is being an "eye sniper," but it only catches a woman off guard the first time. After that, they just complain about the mess.

                    I know for me, it varies greatly with my activity. When I work out more, it gets stronger. Its also the strongest from having sex, and the weakest when Im just "killing time."
                    If you abstain for a while, maybe several weeks or a month, and then are in a situation that is very exciting to you (note the Coolidge Effect comes into play) you should be good for one shot in your old range. You most likely will not be able to recover enough to do it again in awhile or a day or a week, like you would have if you were younger. You may not have the same amount you would have had when you were younger, so the contractions have to be even stronger. Maybe Kegel exercises would work.
                    I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
                    ...
                    Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

                    From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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                    • sandman24
                      Member
                      • May 2010
                      • 35

                      Stressed, u said that his weak ejaculation "couldn't be normal" ...I have dribbling ejaculation most of the time too and often there's very little volume....r u saying that's not normal, or would u just like to see "pornstar goo ropes"??? My gf has gotten upset before b/c she couldn't tell that I had already cum. and that kinda felt emasculating....Are massive loads important to the ladies and if so what suggestions do anyone have???

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