[CHANDLERS WISH]

Casey, that's quite rude...

I didn't delete it, although I should have, because chisaki replied.. I suggest you read her threads in addition so you are aware of whom she is, her background...

Everyone has the right to have their own opinion and to feel totally free to write that on this Forum without being judged....

Chisaki, the only thing I agree with is if your fiancee and you haven't talked together about Oral sex, maybe you should, just so that you are sharing your intimate thoughts after all that's part of a good relationship...

Sometimes others do like things we don't an if they are happy at not having it, then that's all that matters but don't think it's discusting mostly that's the way women were bought up but at the end of the day one thing that is beautiful is to have no inhibitions with your partner and share your soul in any way that you both feel comfortable... Never shut the door is what I am saying, you never know

[Casey715]

chisaki I was just pointing out that oral is nothing new. The remainder of my statement was meant to confer the need for you to talk w) your fiance. I don't think you put anyone down at all. I apologize to you. It was not my intention to put you down in any form or fashion. However you feel about oral is just how you feel. It is not for me to judge and say you are wrong or right. The part about you putting your foot in your mouth, not at all. You have as much right to speak out as anyone on this forum. Don't apologize for speaking your mind, its whats make you, you. Sorry.

[JRod]

I must say that I'm surprised (pleasantly of course) at the number of you who like myself do not think it is a bad thing and do it. Most of the women I've been with wouldn't do it. Kudos to all of you. Hmmm....I do think that I am on to something though as to why. I'll post it and open it up to discussion in a new thread.

[chaya]

Chisaki, the only thing I agree with is if your fiancee and you haven't talked together about Oral sex, maybe you should, just so that you are sharing your intimate thoughts after all that's part of a good relationship...

Sometimes others do like things we don't an if they are happy at not having it, then that's all that matters but don't think it's disgusting mostly that's the way women were bought up but at the end of the day one thing that is beautiful is to have no inhibitions with your partner and share your soul in any way that you both feel comfortable... Never shut the door is what I am saying, you never know

I wouldn't want to talk to him about "it" because if he wanted it, I would feel obligated to please him even though I think it's disgusting. If I didn't do it for him, I would feel bad for not satisfying his needs. Don't ask, don't tell...... to me, seems the best approach.

[LanaBear]

I wouldn't want to talk to him about "it" because if he wanted it, I would feel obligated to please him even though I think it's disgusting. If I didn't do it for him, I would feel bad for not satisfying his needs. Don't ask, don't tell...... to me, seems the best approach.

Hmmm.... Seems like a great approach until 5 years from now, he's an agitated married man who's upset that his wife won't pleasure him orally and he has no idea why, it's something he has always enjoyed, but doesn't know why the wife has never even broached the subject. IMO, you need to be honest and open with each other. If it was me, if I found out later on in the relationship that my hubby had no interest in oral sex, I'd kind of feel betrayed and blindsided.

If it's not something you enjoy, fine, but I think he has a right to know. Just my .02.

[swagga26]

okay my boyfriend i do it sometimes three to four times a day, we have been together going on nine months now. I give him head all of the time after he sticks it in me, the only thing sometimes bad about it is that you taste your own cum..lol no other way to put it. I know he loves it and thinks its hot, so i do it for him. It doesnt matter if he cleans it or not..lol its all fine with me.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Sweet, firstly it's your body, secondly relationships are built on communication...

Casey's point was to say, it is something you need to discuss if you are going to get married, you can still say you can't fathom it, for now but don't diss the whole thing, as we all grow and change in life and we often will compromise and find it's not as bad as we thought, that compromise what ever it is...

It's easy to hide, behind the don't tell and it doesn't get discussed but don't you think your relationship should be one of honesty? That you two can talk about anything?

[jr]

After intimacy today, I immediately went down on my partner only to retunr a few moment later to kiss....to which she replied "you taste like me...how sweet!"
Works for me.

[Chrissle64]

It never really bothered me. I don't taste bad or have a strong taste. If I was super picky on the issue I would ask him to wash off. I will have a wet cloth ready to wipe him off if we were using a lube during intercourse, but if it's just all natural I don't have a problem.

[Lunar Keiki]

Chisaki, I have to agree with CW and Casey that you really need to talk to him about it. Oral sex is (IMO) a pretty large part of sex and intimacy with your partner. And honestly, until you've experienced it, I don't think you truly know what you are missing. But aside from that, he knows your history, knows where you are coming from, and may not want to broach the subject himself. So you should talk to him. Tell him how you feel, why you haven't done it and if he is okay with that. I agree with Lana--you don't want him getting resentful or bitter because he has been denied something that he felt was a very natural part of intimacy. My ex husband went down on me several times before we got married, but after--he completely stopped although he loved for me to go down on him. I felt so jipped and unsatisfied. Sex was so one sided with us that I would rather masturbate than be with him!