[bob_smith]

Which would make you more upset: if you're bf got a blowjob from a prostitute or if he carried on a month affair with another woman and had sex with her. In real life if you're bf says he just got a blowjob from a prostitute it would be hard to believe he got just that but let's just imagine that that is what happened.

[Ashlee T.]

Oh Bob........what a tangled web we weave. I'm having a hard time thinking this is a hypothetical question. And if it's not, then this adds a whole new dimension to your other post about your roommate.

I would say that without any shadow of a doubt, you would no longer be my boyfriend if you did either of those things. Both would be deadly to any glimmer of love and trust we had in our relationship.

I'd also say that it seems a bit confusing to say that you are abstaining from sex for religious purposes until marriage....... but somehow believe it's okay to cheat on someone that cares deeply for you, believes in you and believes in your relationship. Doesn't that sound hypocritical?

Cheating is cheating Bob. It's so extremely hurtful on so many levels. And I would say that if you have any love in your heart at all for this girlfriend, you need to let her go because I have a feeling she deserves much better than a man who'd cheat on her.

[lizzardb63]

They are equally as horrible...I agree with BD...cheating is cheating...bottom line.

[Myself]

Both are cheating. One would not hurt your GF less than the other. Look at it from her point of view. Either you chose sex with a random (and probably diseased) stranger, or you chose sex with someone who you have started to bond with. Both are going to make her feel as though she has failed you somehow. This is not fair to her. This is your mess.

[jr]

Sounds like someone has experienced something or some things that he may be regretting. If that's the case then man up, be honest and leave the "relationship" she thought you had.

If you haven't experienced either of these, why even go there?

Makes no sense.

[sourpuss]

Both are unacceptable.

[bob_smith]

I'm not in a relationship.

[Casey715]

Then why ask the question bob_smith? A bj or sex, regardless of how often it occurred.......put it like this bob_smith, which would hurt you more? Both is being intimate with another person. Either way, you pay for it. Be it money to a prostitute , or emotional feeling, I don't believe you can have a month long sexual relationship without it, you do pay for it. In the end, it is cheating, and something that will hurt your relationship. You want my real opinion? Go and have sex with your roommate. Enjoy it and forget about a bj from a prostitute .

[caterpillar79]

You know what I liked about my husband when we were still getting to know each other, dating and such? He just looked and never touched. He'd rather jerk off on porn than be in a room with a random hook-up. I'm not saying I'm embracing his porn activity, but what I'm trying to say is that, he didn't want to be physical with just any girl, but the girl he loves and cares about. Now that we're married, even the porn viewing stopped.

Now back to your question - I do not like any of them. Both would get me running for the hills, away from you.

[Ashlee T.]

I'm not in a relationship

What was the basis for your question? Sorry Bob, it just seemed like a pretty specific question to be hypothetical.