[Colorado]

Well I've personally been reading this thread whenever there is a comment made, but staying out of it because stuff like this tends to infuriate me and make me say things that sometimes I wish I hadn't, but here goes anyhow (CW I will try to keep my composure [lol]):

#1: The SOB needs to get it into his head that you are not just a sexdoll, and at his beck and wish whenever he desires for whatever he desires. He is bordering on sexual abuse in my opinion, and I have no danged respect for anyone who would treat their woman like this.
#2: Why do YOU keep doing this? You are fueling his confidence that he will be allowed to continue with it; and HE WILL! Until you make it known (and I know you have tried) that this is just not going to happen again and let him know you mean it, he's going to continue to pressure you about it. Why would you ever give in and "just roll over and grit your teeth"? That's just 100 times wrong. Unless you enjoy being manipulated, and abused; and I don't see that here.

Some Other Guy: No there is no shortage, but the forum here is meant to discuss issues that folks are having difficulties with, so sometimes you tend to catch some of the less than stellar accounts of what less than stellar guys are doing to their ladies. Bringing these issues to light is often the first step in recovering from this type of abuse and I personally applaud those who are courageous enough to do so. Also know that assisting these folks helps to instill the fact that there are some of us out there that also find this stuff despicable, and helps others wondering if ALL MEN are like this in knowing that we aren't all dogs that need to be put down.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

And you did Colarado

but the fact is i love him & what hurts more than the actual anal is the disrespect i feel from someone who i've tried to give everything to...

Again sweet, have you told him that, in detail as to why you did it to start with? You say he's chilled alot but I think that you never told him at the beginning that you saw porn and tried to equal and he's upset because he felt that you loved it but now doesn't not an excuse a man who uinderstands a woman understands a woman, he loves her for her being her all, but I am aying communication... you have to commiunicate or he will be in the dark..

What if his past relationship, gave an stopped as soon as they were married, do you know how many guys complain about that? She did this, that then once married, pftt same the other way around...

You really need to tell us more of a story here, I am suspecting there is something more and I would love you to come back and tell more...

CW

[Sassy Mae]

I know this is a few days late..., but I'm new here and just had to reply to this.

Your partner is being incredibly disrespectful in accusing you of "power tripping" for making your feelings/needs known. Sex between two people in a relationship is supposed to be a loving act, and he is in fact "power tripping" by making you feel guilty about not giving into what he wants. Submitting to 10 minutes of banging when all you feel like doing is crying out in pain is not part of loving, nor is it respectful on his part to know how you feel but totally disregard it.

I personally am a fan of anal sex sometimes (when I am in a relaxed enough place to really enjoy it) but it is MY body, so I set the terms and my partner always respects them. Please. pleeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaase, do not roll over and grit your teeth about this! It will cause you physical and emotional pain in the long run *not* to respect yourself in all areas of your relationship. You are well within your rights to set boundaries about what you are and are not comfortable with. If he complains, I'd suggest following WildChild's advice and suggest to him that he bend over to take one up the ****.

Whatever you decide, I wish you luck - it is not an easy thing to deal with this kind of 'issue' in a relationship.

[whit4488]

stand up for yourself, my ex was like this and i went thru this with him, i basically ended the relationship because he refused to compromise, and he wounded off being on porn sites and losing interest in me, he didnt care for my feelings so there was no need to carry on in that miserable relationship. sex plays a good role in the relationship, you always want to share that intimate connection with your partner and agree on the limits and the realities and fantasies.

[Awoman2]

Darling, I think you are more than within your rights to say you do not want to be anally-violated anymore. If you wish to stay with this person, good luck to you.

You love him? Fine. Do you consider the actions he has expressed toward you to be those of someone who loves YOU?

Like I said, good luck if you choose to stay with this (what's not appropriate for this site).