[ilovhr]

Read some where on net that researchers found that watching porn doesn’t negatively affect a man’s views about women.

[btifulfrefly08]

Well after talking to him about everything he just says that I nag him too much that it makes him not want to have sex with me. This is a long-going issue with us. He causes me to be "y" or he causes me to nag him. I told him this, but I don't think it gets through to him. We've also got so much going on right now. We're spending less and less time together. I guess it's just bothering me that I don't get as much attention anymore. See he just opened up his own store and he's wanting to spend all his time there, so we're never together. The only time we're together is when we're sleeping.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Ask yourself, how could you get out of a situation? Blame the other person, that will work...

However, this "nagging thing" of women's really went out in the last century, seriously... Why? Because it doesn't work, you can't "make anyone do anything" and nagging will now make it happen... Have a think about that side

I appreciate that you want a proper relationship someone there with you by your side, but anyone that owns a business has to put 100% into it, to make it work and the other person has to stand by their side over that period of time to help them get there, after all it's both parties future we are talking about.. It's hard but it is the way it is...

If I can be honest? My Fiancee is a Chef, it's Christmas, so that means I am home alone a bit myself until, I wake up in the morning for that hour, coffee, hugs, smiles, it keeps me going.. What do you do when you wake up in the morning? Both of you?

I not saying porn is not the issue here, it may very well be that he prefers it, but it brings women down, they get in-secure, see your words, "not as much attention, only time I see him is when I'm sleeping, I nag too much, he causes it, but he doesn't listen, he has his business, ....

You need to have a life too, you need to have friends, hobbies, can handle being independent, and if he is not there for you after you become more independent and can handle being alone, then you have to consider if he is the right partner or not...

CW

[Mr. Inquisitive]

Ask yourself, how could you get out of a situation? Blame the other person, that will work...

However, this "nagging thing" of women's really went out in the last century, seriously... Why? Because it doesn't work, you can't "make anyone do anything" and nagging will now make it happen... Have a think about that side

I appreciate that you want a proper relationship someone there with you by your side, but anyone that owns a business has to put 100% into it, to make it work and the other person has to stand by their side over that period of time to help them get there, after all it's both parties future we are talking about.. It's hard but it is the way it is...

If I can be honest? My Fiancee is a Chef, it's Christmas, so that means I am home alone a bit myself until, I wake up in the morning for that hour, coffee, hugs, smiles, it keeps me going.. What do you do when you wake up in the morning? Both of you?

I not saying porn is not the issue here, it may very well be that he prefers it, but it brings women down, they get in-secure, see your words, "not as much attention, only time I see him is when I'm sleeping, I nag too much, he causes it, but he doesn't listen, he has his business, ....

You need to have a life too, you need to have friends, hobbies, can handle being independent, and if he is not there for you after you become more independent and can handle being alone, then you have to consider if he is the right partner or not...

CW

I second this.

[budd]

Honestly, as a man, I can say that one of the biggest things a woman can do to kill a man's interest in her, is to nag him. So you would have to be honest about whether or not you do this and whether the things being nagged about are important or trivial. For the trivial things, let them go. For the important things, there are better methods of communication.

[WildChild]

Honestly, as a man, I can say that one of the biggest things a woman can do to kill a man's interest in her, is to nag him. So you would have to be honest about whether or not you do this and whether the things being nagged about are important or trivial. For the trivial things, let them go. For the important things, there are better methods of communication.

My last husband actually complained that I didn't nag him. Part of his vision of marriage was that women nag men. I didn't and it ticked him off.
Go figure.

[budd]

My last husband actually complained that I didn't nag him. Part of his vision of marriage was that women nag men. I didn't and it ticked him off.
Go figure.

Haha. Well the world is filled with all kinds of people and no rule applies to all.

To me it sounds like the OP's main issue is that they are both going through a stressful time with him opening a new store and putting most of his energy into it....and the way that kind of stress is handled, on both sides, can be the difference in whether or not a relationship survives.

[Guest]

Honestly, as a man, I can say that one of the biggest things a woman can do to kill a man's interest in her, is to nag him. So you would have to be honest about whether or not you do this and whether the things being nagged about are important or trivial. For the trivial things, let them go. For the important things, there are better methods of communication.

Please define "Nag"

[budd]

Please define "Nag"

I would say "nagging" would be constantly finding faults in things that the other person is doing....mostly a lot of little things, that ultimately are trivial in the grand scheme of things.

[ItsASecret]

I would say "nagging" would be constantly finding faults in things that the other person is doing....mostly a lot of little things, that ultimately are trivial in the grand scheme of things.

So is it merely a trivial matter that a woman's SO is choosing to drool over edited plastic porn dolls, of which he will never actually have, instead of his naked SO? I mean she could be nagging for him to put his eyes on her more than every once and a while but that would be pointless in the grand scheme of things?