[Lovinher]

Hi,
I'd just like to start off by thanking you for reading.
Well my main goal in life is to satisfy my girl. BUT theres one big problem.... I cant make her orgasm. I tell her its me so she dosnt get upset and start blaming and saying theres something wrong with her... I love her soooo much, im willing to do w/e it takes to make her orgasm.. Ive done everything from pounding the out of her, to soft slow and sensual sex, plus i love eating her out so i do that whenever i can, but like i said ive tried just about everything. I gently rub her clit i play with it i make sure shes hot and horny before, i tease her, i finger her i make sure to get her g-spot. but she says it all feals good but she just cant tip over that edge. i get her moaning screaming, scratching my back to were it bleeds but nothing i do can get her to tip. idk if its this pill that she takes for her acne, i hope it is cause it has like side effects of dryness and she cant get pregnant orelse the baby will be deformed :O ya i know it scares me too. so ya she always has to have chapstick on her. so im hoping its the pill and she just took her last one a week ago so i hope it gets better. but just incase it isnt the pill i need to know what im doing wrong, I want her to come first i want to take her to the land of extacy! so ya plz help : / i feel like less of a man because i cant get her to cum. sigh ty for reading.

[LanaBear]

Some women just can't orgasm. Neither of you should take it personally.

Can she bring herself to orgasm?

[Lovinher]

Shes never felt it before. shes always thought orgasms were when she got wet. and plz plz dont tell me that shes one of them sighhhh

[LanaBear]

Well, first thing is first, she needs to be able to bring her self to orgasm through masturbation. If she can't, then she will never ever be able to tell you how to get her there.

Does she masturbate? Will she masturbate for or with you?

[stressed]

and plz plz dont tell me that shes one of them sighhhh

...and that would be a problem because...?

[Lovinher]

Ive asked her to masturbate on her own then tell me what feals best but she says she just cant get horny on her own. and it would be a bad thing if she cant cause I want to give her everything and i want her to be fullfilled in sex, I want her to feal the best she can cause dosnt it feal amazing when girls orgasm?

[LanaBear]

Yeah, sure it feels great when we orgasm, but you know what, sex feels AMAZING anyways. For me, it's not about achieving orgasm, never really has been. The whole act is like an orgasm to me. Maybe that is not the case with all, but if I don't have an orgasm, it doesn't bother me, I don't feel cheated or anything.

So, don't have her masturbate on her own, have her masturbate with you. You can be touching her other places while she touches herself. You can get her horny, while she masturbates, that shouldn't be a problem. If she can't bring herself to orgasm, IMO, chances of you bringing her to orgasm are even smaller.

[Lovinher]

ok um ill try that, and if she cant bring the orgasm. do u think it could be because of the pill? cause it has dryness and sexual side effects. it dosnt say anything bout desensetising her but ya I just love her soo much and i want to give her the world. when i cant get her to orgasm she blames herself and gets depressed and i hate seeing her like that. but then again shes not rlly sexually experienced.

[LanaBear]

Yeah, it definitely could be because of the pill she is taking... If it lists sexual side effects. Also, keep a bottle of lube handy, it goes a long way in keeping things pleasurable.

[stressed]

Alright.

1) 70% of all women in the world don't orgasm by intercourse. So the chances are pretty high that "she's one of THEM"

2) You can give her everything whether she orgasms or not. Like Lana said, sex feels great anyway. Never lose interest in pleasing her because she doesn't orgasm. Personally, there's nothing I love more in a relationship than sex and I've never had an orgasm during it. It's the best thing you can do with her regardless of her reaching one or not.

3) It sounds like you are both young, a little bit impatient and without many experiences. You don't have to rush this. Enjoy your time together. It's neither of you to blame.

4) Suggest she masturbates by herself and with you. Find a book she can read, ask her to look up ideas on the internet. She has to understand how her body works, in theory and in real, before she can be in peace with this. It's important she understands that it's not her fault, that so many women go through this without knowing why. That she's not alone.

5) She may never reach an orgasm with you. But you can give her the world anyway. Don't make it a big issue and don't ask her every time "did it happen?" This will only put pressure on her and make her feel bad about herself. That she can neither orgasm nor make you feel happy for making her reach one. If she feels too bad about it she can even avoid sex all together to avoid disappointing you.

Support her, read a lot, and never stop making her feel good.