[stressed]

Another question: Is it legal in your country for a 16/17 year old to have sex with a 20/21 year old?

[kristalyn_04]

Pubic hair: Everyone is different, be happy with what you have. You may choose to shave or trim, but make sure you're doing it to make YOU happy and not for anyone else. The person that loves you will love whatever you have and whatever you choose to do with it.

What you should know: Spend some time educating yourself on STD's and STI's and how to stay safe. Educate yourself on how you can get pregnant and how you can't. I would suggest that he get tested first, and you should find a health care professional that can help educate you if that's possible. If he is clean, you can consider birth control to avoid getting pregnant if you don't want to use condoms. But until you know for sure that he is clean, always use a condom, even with oral sex. With penis size, guys reach their grown-up size after puberty and they are all different. Some have a small penis, some have large, the thickness and shape can also vary. They are all different, and size really does not matter unless he is so huge that it makes penetration difficult and painful... but the odds of that are slim. Also, having sex does not make you grow up. You will be the same person with the same level of maturity both before and after you have sex. It's life experience and what you learn that matures you, not losing your virginity. There are many threads here covering pretty much everything to do with sex, so read up and get educated as much as possible.

First time sex: It may be a little uncomfortable at first, but don't just go for it right away. Spend some time building up to it... touching each other, getting comfortable with each other's bodies. Playful fondling and kissing, let him try fingering you gently, give him a HJ, oral sex on each other if you're comfortable with that. When you are ready, make sure you are very aroused and wet, preferably have already had at least one orgasm before he tries to penetrate you. Make sure he is very patient and gentle, and he goes slowly. Communicate what you like with each other and what feels good. Have you ever masturbated? Have you had an orgasm before? If so, it will be easier to tell him what you like and what works for you. First time sex can be awkward and you may feel nervous, that's normal. Once you build up some experience, it will become easier and more enjoyable. Make sure you're doing this for the right reasons and that you are educated. Good luck.

[sofi-chan]

Thanx... well i know about sex but i am virgen so i dont know much... yes we have planed to have sex when i go to college... he is virgen too... and i am not saying i am going to have sex after this forum, i just want to know about it to be prepared...

[sofi-chan]

Well it is not legal but i am the 16 one and this year ill be 17 and my plan is to have it when i turn 18, i know him since i was12 and i really think we r in love...

[sofi-chan]

Kristalyn04... what is HJ? And how i know if i have an orgasm?

[kristalyn_04]

Kristalyn04... what is HJ? And how i know if i have an orgasm?

HJ... a Hand Job. You stroke his penis with your hand (or both hands) in a way that he likes until he cums. Believe me, you will know it when you have an orgasm. It's difficult to describe and every woman can experience it differently, but in general it is a sudden release of sexual tension and it feels very pleasurable and leaves you feeling sexually satisfied. Your genitals may feel very warm and full, you will likely be very wet and you will feel your muscles down there rapidly contracting. If you have never masturbated before, try it if you are comfortable with that and see what happens.

[sofi-chan]

Well i have been REALLY wet (felt like i pee) and felt excited and almost shaking... i have masturbated but it is not like awesome...

[sofi-chan]

Another question... i know what and how oral is from women to men, but hoe is it from men to women... the guy lick ur vagina?

[jns]

Another question... i know what and how oral is from women to men, but hoe is it from men to women... the guy lick ur vagina?

If the guy doesn't know what he is doing, then he would lick your vagina. Most women don't get enough sensation to orgasm from a guy licking their vagina.

The key to oral sex on a woman is the clitoris. The clitoris has a skin hood over it and it is the location of most sexual nerve endings. By rubbing the hood, squeezing the hood and licking, flicking and rubbing the hood and clitoral opening with the tongue, sexual stimulation is increased, leading to an orgasm if it is done right. The upper or lower lip can also be used to do this along with head motion to allow the tongue to work on another place that can be sexually excited, such as the urethral sponge. All women are different, so what works on one may not work on another. Some require more pressure than the tongue can create.

[kristalyn_04]

There is quite a lot that he can do with you orally, and what a woman likes can vary quite a lot. He would mostly focus on your clitoris, which is the pleasure center for most women. There are a few threads on the subject, but this is one of the better ones:

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/lounge/29454-presenting-texs-clitical-thinking.html

Check that out, read up on technique and maybe share it with him.