[Caregirl]

I think the minutes-hours poster was suggesting a one night stand, where, generally, two very drunk ppl meet up in a club/pub/bar etc. and go from total strangers to "Want to share a taxi home?" in a very short time... Then they wake up the next morning in bed together with a hangover and probably very little clue about what happened the night before.

I've not done this myself, however, so this is purely speculation from what I've observed of friends who've 'brought someone home'

[liminal]

Well that sounds like an ugly scene. Still it seems like their are a lot of different perspectives out their and I wander if there is a way to put them all as a part of a single unifying vision.

I think the minutes-hours poster was suggesting a one night stand, where, generally, two very drunk ppl meet up in a club/pub/bar etc. and go from total strangers to "Want to share a taxi home?" in a very short time... Then they wake up the next morning in bed together with a hangover and probably very little clue about what happened the night before.

I've not done this myself, however, so this is purely speculation from what I've observed of friends who've 'brought someone home'

[liminal]

Well let me ask this question. Do most guys hit on women a lot? Is that the norm?

[ItsASecret]

Well actually a previous poster said that it can take a few minutes to hours if your only looking for sex. But I still haven't gotten a reply as to how such a thng can be done.

It can happen, and does happen in a situation called drunk bar nights. Does not matter if it is a bar, a pub, or a hard core grinding nightclub scene some women will always spread their legs at "hello" or "can I buy you a drink". All it takes is one guy hearing that one woman did that with one other different guy and then that guy will start to think that if he asks around enough eventually one woman will give him the immediate sex he is looking for. That asking around can take a minute, as in the first girl he asks in which he is lucky, or it could take all night or not at all. Finding one woman who is willing to just give it up in a minute is not so easy but it does happen which makes the men want to keep asking all the more.

Do most guys hit on women a lot? Is that the norm?

Hitting on involves him thinking she is attractive, either because he genuinely believes she is attractive as in cute or something or he thinks she is a piece of meat attractive (he sees her as a hot object) and just wants to get into her sex wise asap. Either way the common denominator is whether or not she is attractive. If she is not attractive she will not be hit on. If she is attractive guys will hit on her, a lot. It is normal. And if a guy does hit on her and she does not respond well he will just move onto another woman he finds attractive in the environment he is in at the current time (say in a bar).

[liminal]

A lot of people are throwing around the word "object" which should be given some definition. If a girl chooses to have sex with a guy does that make her an object if precisely being desired as something "hot" thrills her?

Should she so choose to partake in that doesn't her very agency as someone who is deciding to have that kind of no strings attached sex make her an autonomous being and not merely an object?

I also want to ask. Picking up a gal seems fairly rare I suppose it takes a lot of awkward effort. So beyond that how do you communicate to the opposite sex that your open to more than one possibility in terms of a relationship. Somebody said that he knew people in no strings attached relationships. How did those come into being? Certainly the guy had to make a move of some sort. Certainly he had to imply that he was okay with being with that gal without commitment. This seems to have somewhat more cultural respectability in America-England. Its not objectifying in your opinion?

Now I think manipulating a gal into a no strings attached relationship

[liminal]

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