[katehibbs]

Was searching the internet for tips on making myself looser and came across this thread.

My husband pushes me to make fun of his penis & loves me talking about massive ones and although he's really well endowed himself he seems to get off on feeling too inadequate for me.
To assist with our fun (yes, our fun although he was driving force behind this 'kink' it's something I enjoy now, although I was uncomfortably at first) I want to feel looser for him, much looser. Our best sex tends to be when we've had lots of foreplay and he's 'loosened' me up by inserting fingers into me, he can get 3 fingers in easy enough but struggles to get 4 in, after this for a while I feel wider when his penis enters which turns us both on massively. He has a hard time not cumming instantly.

Dianne, I've found your posts fascinating and is exactly what I'm going to do as soon (well, after a recovery time) as I've had my baby (I'm nearly 7 months pregnant at the minute) I can't wait to much wider & looser for him. I was hoping child birth alone would do it, but everything I've read suggest my vagina will return to normal sometime after giving birth.

However I don't have chance to use a vibrator several times a day, in fact I'll struggle to find the time to use one every day - do you think it will still work, also has it taken you 6 months. Does anyone know of a quicker way to feel wider & looser?

[Diane1969]

Hello and I am pleased to find another lady out there who enjoys similar sensations. For me it has been a pretty slow process considering how much effort I have put it. Initially I grew to accommodate my first toy rather quickly. Within a few months I was loose enough to take a 2-1/2" wide toy quite easy but as per my earlier posts I was spending extended time each day with this toy inside me while watching TV and reading a book. I think if anything helped me it was the repetitive extended sessions but I can only speak for myself. This is my only experience and the only way I discovered it worked so don't know how to guide you other than this. I looked online for a large toy that I could wear inside me so I could multitask my time but was unable to find anything large and yet discreet enough for penetration that would allow me to go about my business. I did come very close to ordering one short but very thick toy with the intention of cutting off the base so I could insert it and then get dressed over the top. If this worked I also considered trying to sleep with it inserted as I think this would bring very very quick results. I never tried it but I thought the idea was a good one and it might be suitable for you to try. I also considered ordering a large butt plug for vaginal use but thought the shape wrong for my body but I haven't dismissed this idea completely yet as there are some great large toys out there in this category. Like myself it sounds like you have a wonderfully supportive kinky husband so I think much of the challenge is taken care of and the rest will happen in time with some effort and direction. I understand that if you are about to have a baby your time will be limited but suggest looking at something you can insert and wear. After birth you should have a fantastic stepping stone with much of the introductory stretching already done so it would be a great place to start your stretching quest. Please let me know how you go and best of luck with your new family member.

[Diane1969]

I also forgot to mention; I am sure you have done many searches on the stretching topic and have found it difficult to find good information as most searches bring up nothing but porn or questions from ladies wanting to know how to tighten themselves. If you do a Google search for "Cindy and Joe" you will find a fantastic resource. Please be warned though the site you will find is rather graphic. Again good luck!

[katehibbs]

Thankyou

I ordered a larger vibrator last night, thinking of making a start now rather than waiting until after the baby, hopefully it will make me less likely to tear as I really don't want stitches because I hear the scarring can be uncomfortable for quite some time.

It says its over 6" in circumference which doesn't sound like its too much bigger than my husband, hopefully it feels bigger though and I can start making myself looser with it, the only vibes I can see thicker than that, are much, much thicker which I hope to work up to soon.

Yes, it's very difficult to find resources or good information, everything is about making it tighter or just porn, there are a couple of limited health resources which talk about vaginal dilators, aimed at people with vaginismus, but they're not substantial enough for proper stretching though, so I can only assume thicker vibes would work the same on me.

I checked out the website you mentioned, thankyou, I was particularly amazed and excited at what they said was a 12" circumference object.
Like you said there is more info in BDSM circles which isn't really something that interests or excites me, although I noticed a lot people who practice fisting seemed to be pierced, some of them in an extreme manner with many large & weighty piercings which made their labia very large and dangly, I found this kinda exciting as it made them look much bigger on the outside not just their internals.

I must admit to being turned on by looking 'well used' and dangly lips which is something you said happened to you as you stepped up your stretching routine, and I'm hoping that happens to me too as my goal is to be big and loose, both inside and out

Will let keep you posted as time progresses

[Diane1969]

While I gain incredible enjoyment from stretching myself I have to confess I don't really like what it has done to my vagina as far as appearance goes. In the mirror now I look very untidy even before I start to play. Prior my vagina was not exactly tidy looking but now it is just plain messy and I hate to admit it but visually I don't look very appealing. It seems my appearance is very much going in the direction that seems inevitable when you start to play in this way so I guess this is just what happens. I am not aware of the risks playing in this way while pregnant so maybe you might want to check this out before you start getting too serious. I know my latest toy is 9-1/2 inch in circumference so 6 inch now sounds small and I can't imagine there is a risk but I think perhaps you want to take some caution at this moment in time.

[katehibbs]

While I gain incredible enjoyment from stretching myself I have to confess I don't really like what it has done to my vagina as far as appearance goes. In the mirror now I look very untidy even before I start to play. Prior my vagina was not exactly tidy looking but now it is just plain messy and I hate to admit it but visually I don't look very appealing. It seems my appearance is very much going in the direction that seems inevitable when you start to play in this way so I guess this is just what happens. I am not aware of the risks playing in this way while pregnant so maybe you might want to check this out before you start getting too serious. I know my latest toy is 9-1/2 inch in circumference so 6 inch now sounds small and I can't imagine there is a risk but I think perhaps you want to take some caution at this moment in time.

Have sent it back (unopened, of course), it wasn't really any bigger than my hubby despite being advertised as it was.

Found another website which does large vibrators, supposedly 7.5" girth without being all the way up to the level your at, which I can't wait to get to, have seen some which are 12" girth and even bigger so hopefully I'll be there before the end of this year.

Just waiting impatiently now

[john smith]

An ocational treat.

Let me first say thank you to Diane1969 for all the information you have posted, and for taking us on your journey. I posted a few months ago that my wife and I were also interested in stretching her. The toy we got was about 7.5 inches around and 9 inches in length. We figured it would be easier to use the more worked up she was. So we did the normal foreplay then we had penetrative sex. Then I rubbed some arousal gel on her clit, and she used a vibrator on herself while I gave gental presure with the new toy. The toy was big so we both thought there was no way it would go in the first time, but it would be fun trying. To our amazement it slipped in her in only a matter of seconds. Within 2 minutes we had it all the way in. After making her orgasm with it I pulled it out and reinserted myself. The change was instantly noticed by both of us. I was so turned on I was like a steal rod, but my wife asked if I was ok. There was such a dramatic change she thought I had gone soft. It took me a while to get off due to the lack of friction. She returned to her normal size a few days latter. While we were both very exited by the new experience and found it to be extremely erotic, we decided our new toy needed to be an ocational toy. It was exiting for both of us, and we plan to use our new toy in the future, but we both think we will be losing some intimacy if we use it to the point where the changes are perminet, and we will never be able to "feel" eachother again. Again thank u for all the information, you have definitely influenced how we use our toy.

[katehibbs]

It's now a couple of weeks since I got my new larger toy.

When it arrived I was shocked by how big it seemed and how heavy it was. Although I suppose 9 inches long by 7.75 inches around (according to the website) is going to be big.

I had read lots about having to work up to that size using a smaller vibe first but as I couldn't wait I decided to step straight in & see. It is by far the largest object I've had inside me, and I was surprised that I got a fair bit of it in me within a minute or so. I didn't feel overly stretched or anything but I did feel very full and had one of the most powerful orgasms I've ever had

Later that night I used it with my hubby and he was gob-smacked at the sight of me using it, he couldn't wait to pounce on me and was so excited he came within seconds something I don't think he's ever done, he said I did feel a bit looser but he loved it as it was a new sensation. He couldn't wait to use it on me and after he'd made me come he jumped on me again and I have to say I noticed he felt quite small inside me. As we played around feeling the new sensation we had an evening to remember and we both said the next morning it was the best sex we'd ever had.

I used it for the first week in the mornings when my hubby goes to work I lie in bed reading for an hour or so with it inside me and at night we use it together. Neither of us have noticed any changes and I only feel looser if we have sex straight after I've had it inside me, going in to the 2nd week I'd been thinking about getting an even wider one.

Going back to my pregnancy, I've found a fair amount of research which says perineum massage and stretching during the final 6 to 8 weeks can reduce the risk of tearing or having to have an episiotomy during the birth. Partly with this in mind and partly through excitement I ordered a dildo which is 9" around.

This came a couple of days ago, but I haven't been able to insert it yet, the 'head' on it is quite a bit bigger than the shaft but I have got it a bit further in each time I've tried it, I think I'll be able to get it past its big head within the next few days, hopefully I can anyway I really, really hope it doesn't take weeks or even months.

My hubby doesn't know about this new larger one yet, I think I'm going to see what he says about my looseness should I ever get it in

[katehibbs]

Just a quick update

I have left behind the large vibrator/dildos as I've discovered Perennial Massage, the midwife recommended I look it up and try it out at home as there is gathering evidence it can reduce tearing and/or instances of episiotomys. It's basically a massage and stretching of my vaginal opening & pelvic floor and when done every day it's slowly but surely loosening my vagina.

Thanks to my pregnant state I can't reach myself so my hubby has been doing them for me every day for the past couple of weeks and they've had a far greater effect than what I was previously doing
Before I started anything my hubby had to really work me up to getting two fingers in, whereas now (if suitably lubricated) he can insert his whole hand

I don't actually feel any looser though & he says the same thing it just seems that the top end of my elasticity has increased massively

I'm feeling a lot more confident about the birth now, although I have about another inch or two of width (not girth) to gain before I'm roughly the diameter that should make the birth as easy as it possibly could be.

Doing these massages and stretching daily, without fail, has really made a difference. Plus my hubby is so turned on doing them he has to pounce on me straight afterwards and the feel down there is unbelievably orgasmic for both of us

[venis]

Making my vagina looser and wider

I have to tell you I love it when my wife lets me open her up we have been working on this for years.
WE have used toys and lot of lube. she doesn't always like to go to the extent that I do but we do get the job done. we are at a point where we can open her up wide enough to fit my hand inside her virgina. When she opens up and lets me in she will have an asume orgasam most of the time she has several. the most I have seen has been 12 and she gets to the point were she cant stop them and screams with pleasure.
i wait until she is at a point were I can in sert my penis in her and she will climax again.
Don't stop just try other options, she seem to like my fingers and hands over the toys. I'm now trying to get both hands in her, so far I can get one hand and my penis in or one hand and 2 fingers. You want to see her squirt boy she will soak every thing and shoot 2 feet when I get her just right. I hope this helps