[anrew]

As they say, sex is in the mind. My particular fancy is for a loose vagina. Can't be too loose! You and I are in similar situations - your Husband is starting down the road of enjoying a lady with a 'used' *****. That to me, is the turn-on. A vagina should be used, lots.
Hence the opposite - a tight vagina implies lack of use ie.the lady doesn't really do sex. Not a turn -on.

[suej]

Diane,
thanks for sharing your experience. My husband and I have been traveling down this road ourselves, but it is reassuring to read about other like-minded couples that seem normal like you and your husband. When my own husband suggested over a year ago that he *preferred* a roomy vagina, I did not believe him, and it took me a long time to realize he was serious.

In the past year, we have been using larger toys, and I am finally comfortable saying I love the feeling. For awhile I think convinced myself I was just doing it for him, but recently I have managed to keep my guilt at bay and just go with what feels good for both of us. The result is our sex life is better than ever. Thanks again for sharing!

[ThomasC]

Hello Diane,

First, I just wanted to thank you for sharing your experience on a forum. It's very instructive, and I believe it should helpful for many couples, like mine.
My wife has never been so loose than after her third child, and I'm totally crazy about it... The only wish I have is that she could become much more looser and wider... I don't know why it seems so "taboo", cause personally I just LOVE the sensation, so I believe I should not be the only one ! I feel my wife is interested, but she still have some doubt taking this way, certainely thinking I say that to her also because I just don't want to hurt her... (what is totally thrue, so that's why I don't push her excessively in this way, it has to be her choice.)
That's how I found you're post, while googling for getting informations about the subject. And I must tell you it is a relief to see we are not alone ! (as you know, 99.9% of the reponses when googling the subject are talking about how to get more tight...)

So, I want to thank you again for sharing you're experience, in my case that will probably help my wife to get more in confidence, to see that we are not alone, and that's there are other people who are not only trusting in thightness, and that taking the opposite road opens more wonderfuls possibilities.
Thanks again, I hope you will soon find a way to keep stretched all day long too ;-) , and please continue posting about you're journey.

Bye !

PS : have you ever thought of opening a blog ? I'm shure It should soon become a lighthouse for many couples...

[cathy23]

I see your point about the feeling., I have been a bit stretched in the past and it does feel good but for right now I don't want to go too far with it

[Diane1969]

That is completely understandable. It is no secret that majority of woman and men prefer a woman who feels tight and youthful. I think myself fortunate that my husband has encouraged me so much and that in turn I have been able to achieve a level of pleasure that I never thought possible. The concept of stretching my vagina just a few years ago would have horrified me and I probably would have though negatively towards a woman who went down this path. How things change!

[cathy23]

I think some women, (like me) would like to be a little tighter.

[Diane1969]

Thanks for your response skysthelimit.

My husband really encouraged me during my journey and on those days where I was questioning my toying and the long term effects all I had to do was remember my husbands pure joy at my large dimensions and I was instantly put in the mood to pleasure myself in this extreme manner. I never did this to make my husband happy, well I did at the very start but long term this was all about pushing my level of pleasure and discovering new sensations and it has been truly wonderful and I wouldn't change anything.

I found my limit a few months ago and I am unable to move up further in size. I found my limit on a butt toy that is just over 4" wide but is rather short at under 8 inches. The sensation is a little strange. When using this toy there is zero pain I simply just can't open any more and I suspect my bones are stopping further exploration. I am not upset by this as I came to realise in time that sooner or later I would find my limit I just always assumed I would arrive at a point where the stretching sensation would stop me rather than the position of my bones.

Hubby still encourages me to stretch everyday and I still absolutely love the feeling of being completely full even though stretching wider is now no longer possible. I was sick recently with terrible migrains and went about 2 weeks without toying myself and I felt so empty during this time and really missed the regular feeling. What I found interesting was that my vagina seem to start to recover and shrink during this time as when I felt better and started toying again I could not handle my largest toy for a few days. I found myself having to re-stretch to get to my pre-sickness size.

Most times after my husband and I make love he will finish me off using my largest toy because nothing makes me orgasm more intense than being filled completely. Quite often I will fall asleep afterwards with the toy still inside me. Sometimes when I wake in the morning it has fallen out and other times it stays mostly in place. My husband purchased a tight pair of latex pants for me to wear when sleeping with my toys as these help to hold everything in place. It's such a wonderful feeling to wake, remove my toy and encourage my husband to enter me, not that he needs much encouragement! We just lay together and kiss. We can't feel each other when there is no motion but just feeling his weight and knowing that he is "swimming inside" me is simply lovely.

If anyone else is curious about stretching while sleeping I would suggest you stay clear of waterbased lubricants. I find by morning it is gone and toys sticking are not fun or pleasurable in any way. We have overcome the problem by using a little silicone lubricant.

I recently had a gyno check and I was a little embarressed. The female Dr did make comments regarding my opening and she was trying to educate me on surgery which could help with my looseness and might make sex more enjoyable. I didn't have the courage to tell her about my personal life so just nodded and acted all innocent.

[skysthelimit]

Diane, this thread has been greatly informational and inspirational. My wife and I are in our late 20's, she has given birth to three children, and I don't think the vagina does truely go back to its original size before birth without work. My wife doesn't practice kegals, and she is significantly looser after three children than before our first was born. We don't have sex often (due to busy schedules, being tired, and having little ones constantly around), but when we find the time I can get 4 fingers buried in her within a minute or two, and can nearly get my fist in, but I don't want to hurt her, and so it just doesn't quite happen yet.

She isn't necesarilly into stretching herself out, but I'm very much into it, and she goes with it when we make love. I can actually slide my penis in her and put 4 fingers in her above my penis sometimes. She says it is tight and feels kinda uncomfortalbe, so sometimes I'll go to 3 or 2. Sometimes when going from behind with her bent over (doggy style), if she is positioned just right, she is massive inside, and I can basically just feel her outer ring on me. I can withdraw and she is gaped open at least the size of a golf ball, and will stay that way until she moves, and you can see how big she is inside just past her opening.

I'd love to get her stretched out even further, so I could fist her relatively easily when we make love. Like I mentioned, we maybe only have sex once every 2 months right now, but she is still always that loose when we are together, and we don't have any toys she could be using in the off-time. Any ideas on how to get her even wider and entice her to dilate herself more often than just how often we have sex? She's a bigger girl, and I think her potential for massive size could be truely amazing. And people who think your husband wouldn't like your big loose vagina are knuckleheads, its feels so much better, it looks so much more amazing, and there is so much play you can do with a bigger, looser vagina. You may reply on here or to PM, it's okay with me either way. Thanks for starting this post, it's been amazing!

[caterpillar79]

Hi Diane
well this is my 4th attemp to respond to you. For some reason they just disappear.
So how is the dilation going. Have you tried the hands yet. can you insert both of his hands at on time this will help.
Did you by chance get my notes I sent.
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[venis]

Hi Diane
well this is my 4th attemp to respond to you. For some reason they just dissappear.
So how is the dilation going. Have you tried the hands yet. can you insert both of his hands at on time this will help.
Did you by chance get my notes I sent.
send me a email address in a private message so I can keep in touch with you