[darcdante]

I found out recently that my fiance was watching lesbian pornography. Not the sensual "awe" kind, but the S&M strapons and dildos galore kind. She said she has a hard time watching porn with other guys in it. Just wondering if this is common for women.

It's not a big deal to me, I'm just curious if other women watch it and why that might be.

[waya]

I don't watch lesbian porn but I do have a problem fantasizing about someone other than the person I am with. So, I can kinda see where the logic might be in that.

[darcdante]

Yeah, I have a hard time fantasizing about another woman too. It just doesn't appeal to me now that I have my fiance.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

It could be a moral thing, respect thing, she has a fiance and does not want to eye of any other man's penis, after all she's happy, but still has a desire to experience visuals perhaps for learning experiences between you two.

But, you say you recently "found out" . She advised as to why. I am curious did you find out accidently or was this something she openly discussed with you...

I find that to question usually means you need validation or understanding and the only person that can give you that is your partner, perhaps there is room for discussions on the sexual side of things now the door has been opened more.

CW

[oxy-moron]

If you turned the tables on this and she found you browsing Gay BDSM porn without any ladies in it. How would should she take it. You could tell her its because you can only her identify with her nakedness.
You need to find out more about what rocks your ladies boat- for your own good.
Ask her about her previous experience with women and or BDSM.

[Guest]

To each their own, but this old cowboy ain't into that kind of stuff. Just my own opinion-

[rcoreyus]

darcdante: do you engage in BDSM play with her? If not might this "revelation" have been a way to hint that she is interested in that sort of thing?

[WildChild]

She just may be exploring a bit mentally. Some times people think or look at things they have no interest in acting out. But talking to her is the best way to find out.

[Ashlee T.]

I enjoy both......at different times for different reasons. I don't like to label sexuality as I think that we all are much more sexually fluid than we are willing to admit to ourselves or anyone else. I think when someone is looking at porn they might navigate around and end up in places they wouldn't have normally sought out and discover that they kind of enjoy it.

[Texinator]

My preferred porn, but then again, I'm a man, so that might be expected.

However, I like the sensual kind much better than anything with strapon and the like.