[darcdante]

Well, I guess I'm the outlier here: I definitely do not need to orgasm to find lovemaking with my gf immensely pleasurable. We can (and have, frequently) made love for hours at a time, and it just feels indescribably good. I love pleasing her, and I love how close to her and connected it makes me feel.
She will have literally dozens of orgasms during that time - I've counted as many as 30 or more - and being a part of that experience is wonderful, even if I don't orgasm.

She has up to 30 orgasms and you don't have one? You sure are the giving type! I'll admit, after about 30-45 minutes, I'd be all like "my turn!"

I'm jealous though. I wish I had your stamina. I assume that's not all straight intercourse, but dang.

[Texasred]

She has up to 30 orgasms and you don't have one? You sure are the giving type! I'll admit, after about 30-45 minutes, I'd be all like "my turn!"

I'm jealous though. I wish I had your stamina. I assume that's not all straight intercourse, but dang.

Sometimes it *is* pretty much "straight intercourse, sometimes we pause to catch our breaths (grin). And I have orgasms often enough for me - one or two a week - but we're so connected that I enjoy her orgasms too.
Having sometimes a little borderline ED, I've found a couple medical treatments that are just enormously helpful, and she and I both enjoy the results.
But being in good physical condition doesn't hurt either!

[Rediscovered]

My sweetheart and I practice something called "karezza" and over time, orgasms (for both) become less and less appealing as you learn to appreciate the energies that flow between the bodies (and you don't want it to end, so you withhold orgasm). Sex/making love has become a true whole body experience that I wish everyone could try at least once!

[Texasred]

My sweetheart and I practice something called "karezza" and over time, orgasms (for both) become less and less appealing as you learn to appreciate the energies that flow between the bodies (and you don't want it to end, so you withhold orgasm). Sex/making love has become a true whole body experience that I wish everyone could try at least once!

I think I'm there! That's exactly the way it is for me; my gf has a little bit more of a "traditional" experience, and that is just absolutely fine with me.

[Laura_2211]

Readers are understanding, I hope, that male ejaculation and male orgasm while often considered the same thing, are actually separate. Men can orgasm without ejaculating and they can ejaculate without orgasm.

That's interesting. Every time that my partner comes on my face, I always get loaded up to high heaven. Is there a way to prevent him from ejaculating then? He likes doing it, but clean up takes hours.

Thanks.

[Jim60]

When I was young if I was trying to hold back and stopped the stimulation, but left it a bit late, I would sometimes ejaculate without much sensation of orgasm. I would stay hard then cum again, but it would be weaker than usual. Usualy it would take ages, the second time needs more stimulation and her vagina would be so slippy with her lubrication and my sperm that there was almost no friction, sometimes she would have to finish me with a HJ.

I have never experienced orgasm without ejaculating.

I always cum one way or another, not always through intercourse but I don't really mind which way I cum, though she much prefers to cum by my penis in her vagina.

[ItsASecret]

Is there a way to prevent him from ejaculating then?

Physically very few men can orgasm without ejaculating. It can take months if not more of practicing, huge amount of mental devotion, and sometimes never works no matter how hard he tries. But if he is willing to try then do not expect it to be a quick fix, just go with the flow and see if he is one of the guys that can do it. The orgasms are more "oh my penis feels good" rather than the typical contractions and full body feeling of a regular orgasm.

[sandman24]

Interesting...ill have to look that up...is it like tantra?

[sandman24]

I don't ejaculate everytime I have sex and most of the time its still very pleasurable... I've found that this happens for a few different reasons....1. im feeling psychological pressure to hurry up and finish 2. I've ejaculated too recently( I need around an hr) 3. im focusing on satisfying her and ignoring myself to keep from being a 2 pump chump.....Make sure ur not pressuring him by either a) thinking its u and getting ur feelings hurt or b) making him feel like there's something wrong with him...just my experience...hope it helps

[Elanor-Jane]

my bf wont come if we've gone for ages with him waiting for me (sometimes i feel like naomi watts in mulholland drive lol) and then i tell him he should of (as seeing HIM comes, makes ME come) and he feels pressured and is too worn out, usually if im not too tired ill give him a bj but overall time and pressure is the only thing that will stop it. for him and me. he works long hours and we only usually get to bed by 11pm which doesnt give us alot of time if we want to get sleep.