Female ejaculation without orgasm?

[mewhenim]

If I think to hard about it, like just having a quickie with the rabbit, I find it harder.

[Lilah]

If it is an orgasm then it is really lame and not worth all the effort.

LOL Same here.

Maybe it's hard to explain to others, but this is NOT an orgasm, and it is achieved by long and intense CLITORAL stimulation. No G-spot involved.
It's just ejaculation. Nothing to be jealous of.

It strikes me that women with this problem (including myself) never have normal orgasms and don't seem to be able to have orgasms at all. Maybe these women come to ejaculation because they go further than 'normal' women trying to get an orgasm. Normal women stop when they have an orgasm, so they usually don't come to the point of ejaculation.

Or is it just that ejaculation comes before the actual orgasm (like Wikipedia says it can), and that we are just to distracted by the ejaculation fluid that we don't come to the orgasm anymore?

[MaryB]

ok me and my man been trying for almost 2 years for me to reach that shootin all over the bed stage lol and what finally got it for me.. was me like thinkin dirty talk in my head i know that sounds bad probably i don't know like it clears my head of thinkin about gotta get the o gotta get the o and also helps me get there so while he's doin his thing or even if you on your own are tryin to get there like talk dirty to your self lol if you need help watch a movie or something it really helped me a lot to just think like that to myself and kinda see it in my head what i wanted to happen but not really obsess about it or pressure it...

[Ashleigh]

Ive never had one either...
ok i know this sounds really bad.. but where exactly is your clit??
Ive been with my man over 4 years and i have had sex with 5 different guys.. i have never even ejaculated i dont think.
I NEVER masterbate.. i find it hard because i cant turn myself on. and it just doesnt feel good when i finger myself.

i feel like im really missing out on the joy of sex.

[hoolib]

The clitoris is at the front of you, just above the opening to your vagina. it's like a little bead but you probably won't feel it unless you're turned on. Do some searching on the internet and you should find a map-there's also a good one in Deborah Sundahl's book 'Female ejaculation and the G-spot'.

Re: the original post
Women can ejaculate without orgasming. They often orgasm after ejaculating. You WILL experience an orgasm one day but feeling a lot of pressure to won't help. Just trust that you will one day and enjoy yourself in the meantime. You are ejaculating through clitoral stimulation which is a good sign. Just keep going, touch yourself in different ways and work out what feels good to you. If you want to, keep touching yourself slowly after you've ejaculated. Try visualising things that turn you on while you play with yourself rather than focussing on achieving orgasm. It'll come when you're most relaxed and just enjoying yourself.

[Thi YokSuan]

2 people mentioned ages as 18 and 23. Are you both being sex "guilty".Throughout the encounter, your mind is thinking and fearing guilt, plenty of mental and emotional hold back and control, while bodily satisfaction is being sought. Fear of pregnancy looms, as fear of ruptured condom or even in "safe with draw" acts. Is anybody outside the room, just in case my excitory squeals are heard? Is there religious guilt? If I do not give in, he may find someon else!! So, with so much "threats", you expect to orgasm. Orgasm is in the most pleasurably moment. So, why all this devises, and electric toothbrush. What next?

[paddle88]

Hey,
I'm not sure if people still check responses to this thread. But in response to the girls who ejaculate but don't orgasm. Yeah, it can happen. I find it happens to me when my head isn't in the right space. I'll ejaculate bc that's what your body does but if I'm not in the right headspace I can't orgasm. Stress might be a factor as well so that if you can ejaculate you will but it'll affect your ability to orgasm.

[Sugar01]

Me too!

Hello ladies,
Anybody still there? I have the same problem too.I have never had an O. I am 32 and I am trying through masturbation to relax and explore sex after a long failed relationship with a man not interested in Sex...
By using the rabbit things are improving slowly, and I was amazed last week by the phenomenon of "Ejaculation". I definitely did not feel an orgasm but I loved the idea. Instead of feeling finishing another disappointing session I now feel that at least I have something
I do not feel to be stimulated after the ejaculation and thus wonder where will the orgasm will come from...
I think I am going to order the bullet and give it a try , maybe I can get at least a clit O like others say....
I sound so focused on the results...maybe I really want to feel what all people talk about: What is an Orgasm???????????????????????????????????????????? ??

[Mone]

I have the EXACT same problem!
Don't worry about it; you'll orgasm eventually.
Don't push it, anticipating it just makes it more difficult to reach. I have faked SO many orgasms and had so many letdowns due to the 'trying' to have one part. Haha!

When I masturbate... trying to reach my g-spot to have those 'mind blowing' orgasms every woman talks about... the same thing happens! It's like I 'ejaculated' but I don't feel a thing. Then I'm just not turned on anymore because I'm confused and like 'K so, what the , vagina? You get to mess up my bed and what do I get from it?' Not even the SLIGHTEST bit of pleasure! Just confusion.
Don't sweat it, if you were to ask me, it's totally normal. I HAVE had a g-spot orgasm but only when a guy has stimulated it for me. It may be psychological for us.

All I have to say to you regarding not being able to have an orgasm is FOREPLAY FOREPLAY FOREPLAY. I literally will NOT orgasm if there isn't a lot of foreplay. I also need rhythm. Like... a repetitious movement. He can't be switching things up down there too much because I can't rely on him to do the same thing then! I need the same thing to be going on down there so I know what to expect next and then I can feel comfortable enough to orgasm.

Hopefully this helped a little bit! Update if anything happens!

[efficient]

Hi,

The way most people experience their first orgasm is through masturbation. An
orgasm can be a simple release of tension that feels good right around the genital area, or it could send tingles, spasms, and waves of ecstasy throughout your whole body. It all depends on how aroused you were before the release. It's a bit harder to achieve orgasm during intercourse, at least the first time, but once you do, it gets easier. Just remember, the simultaneous orgasm between sexual partners that's so often portrayed in movies and romance novels is extremely rare. Usually during sex, one person will have an orgasm before the other, often by several minutes or more. And yes, it's usually easier for men to experience orgasm than it is for women.

Hope this help.

iris