[Meggan]

i'm 18 and although i have not had sex yet, i have had boyfriends finger me in the past. i've never orgasmed, but i ALWAYS had that pee sensation and it freaked me out and made them stop cause i thought i'd just pee on them hahaha. is it okay to like relax and let it do it's thing? like i want to relax down there but i'm scared i'm gonna all over someone. that's probably what's stopping me from orgasming but i'm still not sure what to do haha.

[PandaPaws]

I think I've only ejaculated once, and I don't think I was orgasming (haven't had one yet), but it seemed like I was pretty darn close! He stopped because I squirted on him...

[char1000]

i am the excact opposite! i can orgasm but never ejeculate!? anyone else have this problem...or does this mean it is not a real orgasm?

[nekochan]

i have a problem too simular to this
but a little diffrant
i need to cum but it wont come out and it has the pee feeling and i just keep going on marustbateing and no cum =[

[Birdgofly]

Oh thank goodness..

I'm glad I'm not the only one! I'm 19, and I don't think I've ever had an orgasm.. When I have sex with my boyfriend, it feels really good, and sometimes if we are really going at it, I ejaculate on him, (it FREAKED me out the first couple times; I though I was peeing on him ), but there is definitely never any sort of climax...

When I masturbate (I got myself a high power plug in vibrator), it's definitely a lot closer.. sometimes my lower body will go through like.. contractions and stuff, and it does feel like *something,* so by all accounts it seems like I'm orgasming, it just doesn't necessarily feel all that good... and when I directly stimulate my clit (and ONLY my clit, no g-spot stimulation at all), after a while stuff just gushes out, and it stops immediately upon removing the vibrator, and will start again a little bit after putting the vibe back on, until it's.. out, I guess..

Soooo.. I'm really not sure what's going on.. I like sex a lot, and I definitely like it more than masturbating, but my boyfriend doesn't like having sex with me because I can't orgasm, and he feels like he's failing.. and.. it SUCKS. So if anyone has found the solution to this.. please share! It's kind of ruining my relationship, and I just want to be able to orgasm like all my friends

[peachplumpear]

I have EXACTLY the same thing! I'm 21 and have never had an orgasm and also recently had this experience with a rabbit vibrator! As you say, feels very much like I need to wee but when I allow it to happen the liquid seems to definitely be what people describe as the liquid of female ejaculation (virtually clear and odourless and lots of it) but definitely no orgasm to go with it! Unless I'm having an orgasm without realising which I find quite difficult to believe...
What I want to know is 1) is it possible to have a female ejaculation without an orgasm (because if not what is this liquid?!) and 2) how can it be that I'm capable of the elusive female ejaculation but not a normal orgasm?!

Papillon - I realise none of this is helpful but I thought you might be relieved to hear someone else (I'm sure lots of girls) are wondering the same thing! I've just realised you posted this 3 years ago so if you do see this I'd love to know if you've made any progress or have any advice! I'm so sad and frustrated about it...

[utterlyanonymous]

I'm really glad I found this thread actually, as it has reassured me quite a bit I'm 18 and have been with my boyfriend for a while now, we haven't had intercourse but have had oral. I haven't had an orgasm with him, I mean I've felt close but always stop him (I know it sounds stupid but it freaks me out to lose control of myself). Anyway, the other day we realised how wet the bed was. Definitely not pee lol but it was the strangest thing to happen, and I hadn't even realised! I guess this is the kind of thing which freaked me out about orgasms in the first place, maybe I will just let him carry on next time if this kind of thing is gonna happen anyway

[MVee]

I know no one probs comes on this thread anymore, but:
Recently when I had sex with my boyfriend, I felt really close to the big O, then when he pulled out there was a white fluid (that looked like male cum) all over his penis and it wasn't his. But I Didn't feel an orgasm. Was that cum or just A LOT of normal wetness? Because I know I didn't orgasm, so did I cum without orgasm?

[Custard]

I know no one probs comes on this thread anymore, but:
Recently when I had sex with my boyfriend, I felt really close to the big O, then when he pulled out there was a white fluid (that looked like male cum) all over his penis and it wasn't his. But I Didn't feel an orgasm. Was that cum or just A LOT of normal wetness? Because I know I didn't orgasm, so did I cum without orgasm?

That's not cum; that happens all the time when my boyfriend and I have sex. It's just the self-lubrication your body makes; if you make a lot it tends to collect on him or near the base. I was pretty confused the first time that happened, too.

[AshB$]

Through the gspot, I ejaculate, but I swear I do not orgasm during this.