[jns]

My boyfriend said something like this to me last night. He said "it's not that your bad at it, your just not that good". That really hurt. We've been together a year now, and we never really talked about our sex life, until last night. I was a virgin when we met. He told me I should know his every hotspot, and what gets him off the best. I know some, but for some reason it's just hard for me to talk to him. He's a very strong minded person. I just feel a little....smaller when we talk. But I would like some advice on, anything. And stuffedbunny, at least he didn't say it right after you two had sex.

As I said on another thread of yours, I think your bf is a bully and you should be in a different relationship.

[curiouswife]

I would dump the punk. If you are young you shouldnt settle for a boyfriend that tries to manipulate you by putting you down. There are great guys out there and he doesnt sound like one of them. DON"T SETTLE! You can do better than a guy that puts you down and doesnt give. He makes you feel bad so you try harder. Guess what, if you let him control you that way he will never stop. I had a BF like him. Trust me. And deep throating is hard. if you cant do it or even don't want to do it he shouldn't try to make you. You find a man that sees you for what you are and loves you for it and dont settle for anything less!!!!!

[-Kya-]

Well i hope he got a smack in the face for that comment!

That is really an awful thing to say. Not only has it hurt you, but i cant even begin to imagine how inadequate you must be feeling.

So he says your bad at it....what does he do for you? Does he satisfy you the way you want, or is it just you giving the treats?