[cowboychuck]

Another idea that's probably a little "risque" is to slip a pair of undies you've worn into his pocket or somewhere where he will find them later. It would have to be done in a way to insure only he finds them... and not when someone else is around!!! It may be risky as well as risque. Letting him know there is something he should check for later might solve that. Maybe it's too much. Maybe I just have a dirty mind... Don't know, but it would generate a reaction fer sure.

[cowboychuck]

Hi tinkerbell: you're on here too, I see. Glad I brightened your day. You do the same for mine. I think I'm becoming addicted to this.
I will definitely have to try the gentle kisses if I can catch that woman in a weak moment. It's so hard to remember all this, though, when the blood drains from my brain!

[tinkerbell930]

LOL....I am still just as baffled as you are that your wife doesn't want the oral as much as you are baffled at the men out here that don't/won't do it very often!

There would never be a moment where I wasn't up for that...and reciporcating is always fun for me....it doesn't have to be ALL about me...I could spend hours "making love"....music, candles, massage....him oral, then me....then the actual love making....I just have to get that man of mine into all this romance.

The panties is a cute idea....I should try to put them in his tool belt and see what happens.

Oh, I meant to comment on the lingerie thing....one time I put on this lace body suit type thing (it was crotchless, but very form fitting)...trying to be all sexy, and he looked at me like I was weird. I haven't done the lingerie thing since. I know so much of this has to do with the idiots he was with in the past (makes my skin crawl cuz they were WHITE TRASH-whole other story...hee hee), but I really don't think he ever had anything like that in his sex life...so teaching him is not that easy. I ain't givin' up though!

Wish he could talk to a guy (like you) that could show him the light!

I am usually on this site checking it most of the day! I work in my own office and it helps pass the day when we are slow!

It does get addicting when you find someone out there with a great sense of humor and actually appreciate their advice but not worry that you are getting hit on!

[dgirl07]

love oral sex.

i truly enjoy oral sex. my boyfriend gave me oral sex for the first time last night and i found it amazing. though my enjoyment was cut short. he said his tongue became numb and tingly. and since it was both our first times engaging in oral sex we dont know if thats normal. so now im self-concious to let him do it again because im worried theres something wrong with me. although i dont know if he'll want to try it again after last night. any advice?

[cowboychuck]

dgirl07:

Always wonderful to hear from another lover of the oral persuasion!

How long did he last before his tongue gave out? I have never experienced or heard that before. I am pretty sure there is nothing in a vagina (that sounds too clinical... in a p*ssy?) that should cause numbness. He should be able to last until you reach the peak, I would think. Don't be self-conscious and fearful of letting him do it again. I think he just needs a little more practise. If he's not used to moving his tongue a lot, rapidly like that then that's probably the problem: he's kind of cramping up. That's happened to me before and he can simply slow down a bit and do some broader strokes if you like that or you can switch turns for a bit. I'm only good for one of the actual lovemakings in a night, now but heck I could lick all night! I would tell him that you really enjoyed what he did and that you'd love for him to continue to do it. Good lick... uhhh, luck! Well, he**'s bells, both!

[Quill.]

Hmm. Personaly i'm not too fond of it, but i've not recieved oral sex much, so perhaps I need to try it out afew more times before I decide if I don't like it or not. But, I think that with different men it'll feel different and i've only had one sexual partner to give me oral, so I guess I can't go against it quite yet.

A rather odd sensation, though.

[cowboychuck]

tinkerbell:

Just checking in again. I really look forward to your comments now. You've got me laughing out loud, this time!

Right on! about the tool belt. That would be so cool. Is he the type that would freak from embarrassment if the other guys saw it do you think? It might be an idea to include your fantasy note with them. You sound like a delightful, romantic little devil. I love your idea of the evening. It would sure be great if we could somehow talk to each other's partners. I'm not sure how mine would react to this site.

Your guy sure needs some adjustments if he didn't get the idea of the bodysuit. It's probably like I said in one of my previous posts, that sometimes covering the strategic parts is sexier. Maybe you should have had the whipped cream that night.

Wearing something that shows your lingerie underneath a bit, hinting of promises and that he gets to remove may be the way to go. Of course you might have to get his attention first if he's not that romantic. If he finds your undies in his tool belt before coming home, though, he should be primed.

Otherwise get him to take you grocery shopping a bit or something like that, then flash him in a quit part of the store where he can't do anything about it. Then just play all innocent again after. I can just picture you doing it, too! Tee-hee.

[dgirl07]

cowboy chuck:

he only lasted a couple of minutes. but thanks for the advice
i will def. think about the things you said.

[tinkerbell930]

cowboy-
Last post before I head out of the office for the day!

NO, my hubby is not the type that gets embarrassed at all! So, I really think I am going to try the panty and fantasy note thing...

I do have to admit that I don't like my body near as much as I used too....I used to love wearing sexy stuff, but I feel so gross lately...I used to be a cute, petite 105-110, now I am about 125 and not to keen on my looks. He says I am sexy, but what do men know? ha ha

Yeah, it would be nice if there was one person that we could have our spouse listen to without taking offense to it....it sure would make it easier to say, "ok, this guy/girl KNOWS what I am talking about and it is really ONLY about loving you NOT them...so please listen to what they have to say so we can get down in the sheets and love what each other has to offer!!!" Is that too much to ask?

Well, you have an awesome night...hopefully one or both of us will get some good lovin' tonight!

[cowboychuck]

Quill:
Definitely stay with it at least for a while. I think you're absolutely right about different guys doing it differently (although I must quickly say that I haven't experienced guys! ) Some are probably going to be lousy at it, some fabulous. Unless it feels icky to you, I'm sure the right guy can bring it home for you. I'd strongly urge you to help the guy out with some encouragement and direction. If you think you're doing a great job and then find out after that she didn't enjoy it, it's a pretty crummy feeling. Better to be nudged in the right direction then & there.

Your phrasing of it being an "odd" sensation made me laugh. He could definitely improve, then!

Did he do it on his own? Did he ask what you liked and so on? Personally, I would love to get some direction on how it is for her but I guess you'd also have to be mindful of the guy's feelings and not end up making him feel slighted. I watched a few porno's with some oral action to see what I should be doing. Apparently those techniques don't work for every woman though.