[Needahand]

As a (sexually frustrated) husband myself I have to agree with those who say he should tell you what he desires rather than keep you guessing. HOWEVER, maybe he is telling you that what he wants is an element of surprise? Like try surprising him with oral when he gets home or in the morning. Try talking dirty or encouraging him to climax... This may sound silly but will work or be worth a try. If you are open to other things (anal?) I bet he will be too.

Good luck (he sounds like a very lucky guy :-)

[Brad Pitt]

From a man's perspective. I am going to be brutally honest so don't take this the wrong way.

When did you last change your hair style?
When did you last buy the latest fashion clothes?
When did you last go to the gym?
When did you last go for a long jog in your long tights and come home sweaty and made sure your hubby saw you?
When did you last flirt with a sexy guy in front of your hubby?

These things are important to your man. He wants a woman that is sexy, attractive, wanted by other men, willing to take risks and let loose occasionally.

It sounds like he is bored. He needs a firecracker up his bottom and you need to give it to him.

Don't focus on him. Make yourself more attractive to other men and watch him jump into action. As soon as he sees there is competition on the horizon he will perform.

- Flirt with the younger waiter when you take hubby out for dinner.
- Point out the sexy younger dude when you are out with your hubby. (Don't be shy)
- Chat the bar dude up when you are out for drinks and make sure your hubby sees you.
- Wear sexy lingerie all the time (yes throw out all the old stuff) but don't let him touch you - remember he is visual, so walk past him on a regular basis and tease him but don't take it any further.

Put some competition in the picture and watch him get going.

[Texasred]

I dunno; if a woman I was out with was flirting with the waiter, she might find herself taking a cab home. Nor would I flirt with the waitress: that's just so low-class there's hardly a name for it.