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    Can my husband recover faster from lovemaking or must he wait 6 hours?

    After we makelove then he can still do it again 2 hours later, but then he cannot do it again until 6 hours after that. He said he will get viagra pills. But is that safe? He is aroused a lot so not erectile dysfunction. Is it safe to take if he has no problem to begin with? If its not safe are there other ways for him to recover faster?>thanks.
  • CHANDLERS WISH
    • Mar 2008
    • 22440

    He's obviously trying to please you..

    If he can make love and again 2hrs later, and again 6hrs later, why would you honestly want him to try Viagra?

    To me, any "pills" are bad for you if continually taken...

    Can you try using toys, or please yourself if you feel you need it, 4 times a day, every day?
    PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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    • Guest

      Originally posted by CHANDLERS WISH
      He's obviously trying to please you..

      If he can make love and again 2hrs later, and again 6hrs later, why would you honestly want him to try Viagra?

      To me, any "pills" are bad for you if continually taken...

      Can you try using toys, or please yourself if you feel you need it, 4 times a day, every day?
      I like to but he is sad if I do. Not jealous but something else as if he has a fault. I try to convince him its just a strange problem that I have , not him
      He is at work from 8am to 6pm weekdays so I rub for release, but weekends are the tricky times
      Last edited by Guest; 11-13-2011, 01:21 AM.

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      • Guest

        I never wanted him to take viagra, i think its dangerous for heart rates, but he said he wants hardons always. He won't listen to me and he is getting some from a from a friend to try. I tried to at least get him to see a doctor first for prescription but he refused :'(

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        • CHANDLERS WISH
          • Mar 2008
          • 22440

          sara,

          What does he do for a living?

          Where is this beach in Melbourne?

          Like I said he is trying to please you, you need to compromise and relax, he can not work that many hours and try to keep up with you.

          19 What do you do?

          I am an Adelaidian but frequent Melbourne.
          PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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          • Guest

            Originally posted by CHANDLERS WISH
            sara,

            What does he do for a living?

            Where is this beach in Melbourne?

            Like I said he is trying to please you, you need to compromise and relax, he can not work that many hours and try to keep up with you.

            19 What do you do?

            I am an Adelaidian but frequent Melbourne.
            My hubby works at a bank and is busy but has weekends off which is nice
            We live at port phillip bay area and its sunnyside north beach.
            I study a computer course at tafe, trying to be a secretary soon.

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            • CHANDLERS WISH
              • Mar 2008
              • 22440



              Well you have a very high sex drive and that's all good

              He is trying sweet to meet your needs, he's also very busy with work huh.

              You are studying and good for you, but maybe you need to get out of the house more, find some hobbies, things to occupy yourself, maybe all you think of is him giving you are young and married and wait for him to come home

              You have to compromise with things, he is probably tired..

              That's my opinion.

              What other things do you like to do? Do you have friends there?

              Phillip Bay is beautiful...

              We have Maslins as for naked beaches
              PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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              • Guest

                Originally posted by CHANDLERS WISH


                Well you have a very high sex drive and that's all good

                He is trying sweet to meet your needs, he's also very busy with work huh.

                You are studying and good for you, but maybe you need to get out of the house more, find some hobbies, things to occupy yourself, maybe all you think of is him giving you are young and married and wait for him to come home

                You have to compromise with things, he is probably tired..

                That's my opinion.

                What other things do you like to do? Do you have friends there?

                Phillip Bay is beautiful...

                We have Maslins as for naked beaches
                Chandler, but what are maslins? I've not heard of it. Umm well I just started tennis because my friend designs tennis clothes so i started trying the dresses/skirts and decided to play tennis too! I get one lesson every week from a former pro dude and play with one girlfriend like twic eeach week or once depending on her busyness. And my girlfriend's husband is a massage therapist so i see him once each week. Guys are just limited cos of their ummm way of coming its like they run out and need to be rebuilt. Girls its like not limited. But my girlfriends only make love once per day so its just me being weird :s

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                • Hopeless Dork
                  Veteran Member
                  • Dec 2008
                  • 4255

                  Him taking viagra when he has no problems getting erections is a terrible idea on so many levels. Viagra is for men that, due to medical problems, can't facilitate the blood flow to their penis. Sounds like he has no problem with that. Most men have a refractory period MUCH longer than your guy... many guys have trouble having another orgasm for a day after having one.

                  If he finds he is bonerrific with viagra, that could prove damaging down the road as he may become emotionally dependent on them, thus thinking he's only getting erections because of them... and suffer some psychological ED when he doesn't have access to them. ... thinking ahh, i need those or it won't happen.

                  Just a bad idea all around, especially when he's providing sex on a daily basis, then 2 hours later, then 6 hours after that. If you turn sex into a job that he has to do, it will lose its sexiness and overall appeal after a while. It will become not something he wants to do, but has to do, like a task. He isn't a machine... and sounds pretty normal.

                  Though you have said you told him not to do viagra, if you are putting pressure on him to perform more than is naturally feasible... he's going to read your actions louder than any pleas to not take the drug. My advice? Make sex more spontanious and fun and pleasurable... make the quality of the sessions count more than the quantity. Incorporate foreplay, hands mouth... etc, where his penis is the center of every one of your orgasms, it will take the pressure of him needing to produce an erection like clockwork, 'okay its been 2 hours, its been 6 hours, lets go'. Thats a lot of pressure, and the fun of that kind of systematic lovemaking will grow boring.. likely for both of you.
                  Scars remind us of where we've been...they don't have to dictate where we're going.

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                  • Guest

                    Originally posted by Hopeless Dork
                    Him taking viagra when he has no problems getting erections is a terrible idea on so many levels. Viagra is for men that, due to medical problems, can't facilitate the blood flow to their penis. Sounds like he has no problem with that. Most men have a refractory period MUCH longer than your guy... many guys have trouble having another orgasm for a day after having one.

                    If he finds he is bonerrific with viagra, that could prove damaging down the road as he may become emotionally dependent on them, thus thinking he's only getting erections because of them... and suffer some psychological ED when he doesn't have access to them. ... thinking ahh, i need those or it won't happen.

                    Just a bad idea all around, especially when he's providing sex on a daily basis, then 2 hours later, then 6 hours after that. If you turn sex into a job that he has to do, it will lose its sexiness and overall appeal after a while. It will become not something he wants to do, but has to do, like a task. He isn't a machine... and sounds pretty normal.

                    Though you have said you told him not to do viagra, if you are putting pressure on him to perform more than is naturally feasible... he's going to read your actions louder than any pleas to not take the drug. My advice? Make sex more spontanious and fun and pleasurable... make the quality of the sessions count more than the quantity. Incorporate foreplay, hands mouth... etc, where his penis is the center of every one of your orgasms, it will take the pressure of him needing to produce an erection like clockwork, 'okay its been 2 hours, its been 6 hours, lets go'. Thats a lot of pressure, and the fun of that kind of systematic lovemaking will grow boring.. likely for both of you.
                    I agree i will do everything in my power to stop him from trying viagra, no doubt about that! Always my intention.

                    That's just like estimations because i never record our times. Like some days we only makelove twice and a gap of 12 hours. Other times its like 4 times during the day with weird gaps etc.

                    I think we makelove so much because when we cuddle he touches under my clothes a lot and when he sees my breathing is fast and feels my panties wet its like he thinks its essential he finishes me. So that ends up happening 2-4 times everyday and he knows i like his p3nis more than being fingered.

                    I have always been sensitive to arousal since puberty. I got accused of being a at school because when i dated it was hard to hide my arousal and guys madelove to me as soon as they noticed. Its tricky for me to kiss or cuddle without it happening. I know i have a strange problem, and that it is for sure my fault that he wants viagra.

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