[ItsASecret]

Now that I now their is a safe way (dental dam) hopefully, she might agree to it?

Not sure what fears you have if you two are in a monogamous relationship. If you are both clean STD/STI wise then there is no concern of catching anything. A dental dam in that case means she does not want to feel you doing anything. Also to mention, a dental dam will not 100% protect against anything it merely reduces the chance of catching something should the woman have a current disease or other infection. Find a thin piece of rubber, like a deflated balloon or something, and put it on your hand and lick it. The feeling on your hand is the same idea with putting a piece of rubber on her...it will have little feeling which is not the way that most women want their oral to be like. You could bring it up though, if she has a dislike for the idea of receiving oral for hygiene reasons (many women have this same thought) then you could bring up the dam as a way to say that it is possible to have oral sex without that worry...as an idea.

[kiwi guy]

RE: semen subject - I never knew if it was such a thing guys had ever done or not - it's something I wondered if I WOULD do or not - if it had side efffects etc.
RE : 3 somes- If such a fantasy did occur (????) probably not, It would have to involve myself, 1 guy, 1 female, OR me with 2 females with added protection in place Or just for me to watch (vouegering?) a couple (male & female) or 2 females pleasuring each other.
If administers choose to close this thread - do so, as both I & others will understand your actions.

[kiwi guy]

Thanks ItsAsecret! So where can I get dental dams from - chemist or another supplier? Yes, my wife has never been keen on oral due to hygiene reasons. I did try it once (as an extra pleasure for us both) but .....was quickly rejected for only those reasons - hygiene concerns- mainly

[ItsASecret]

Sex shops would have them.

[BabyGirl]

3 somes- If such a fantasy did occur (????) probably not, It would have to involve myself, 1 guy, 1 female, OR me with 2 females with added protection in place Or just for me to watch (vouegering?) a couple (male & female) or 2 females pleasuring each other.

Being as you seem to be becoming very sexually curious at 52, I am wondering if you possibly may be becoming impotent or having the Beginnings of ED ?

In your Fantasy, you mention one guy and one woman and you or you with 2 women. You of course express Added Protection. there is only so much protection you can use.
One of course being Condoms, others are Spermicides Another is making sure that all partners are STD and Disease Free. This is most likely difficult to do,especially meeting on the internet.But joining a Swinging Club, where others are as Curious as you are and they are as Self Protected as you wish to be in an sexual "Play Theater".

Even though your wife is not into certain things sexually, have you asked her if you can have an Open Relationship? Explain your Fantasies, let her know you are getting very Curious, Bi Curious, wanting to possibly taste your own semen, maybe have a guy or a toy for Anal experimentation ( for yourself ). Joining or watching in a 3 some, Being the only man with two other women ?

Do you see your wife involved in any of the Sexual Fantasies, like another Guy and her and you, or her and another woman with you ? In your fantasy of watching 2 women, do you see her as one of them ?

I am asking because your Fantasies and interest in trying new things is mostly about you, there hasn't been ( to my knowledge) in your posts any mention of how much you love your wife, though you say you have tried to have new experiences with her, it seems you are trying to spice up your sex life with her and that she is basically "Happy with things as they are".

This " Mid Life Crisis" happens to so many people, they get bored, they feel stagnated. That is when talking and being honest is utmost important in the relationship.

If you feel that you have had this talk with her, I mean sit down talk and she is not willing to Play or even Understand your Fantasies, then you may wish to ask for that "Open Relationship". If it is a No way, then you might wish to re-think your relationship with her.
Should you fulfill the Fantasy without her Knowledge or Acceptance , that you will try these things. You are headed for Trouble in the Marriage.

Sure as you are married longer, things do change. bodies change, emotions change, sexual desires change. And that is natural. In your instance you seem to be Changing in the Reverse, wanting to go backwards and fulfill the new urges of things you could have or wanted to in your younger Libido years.

Which is not a bad thing at all as long as your Wife is also in the " Picture" and agreeing to the " Fantasy".

If you feel you just cannot be honest with her about these things, You might want to just have it agreed that you are allowed to Watch Porn, you have already

Created your New "Ring Toys" for yourself that are cheaper than buying them. Maybe try her coming home seeing you use them on herself ? It might make her "Hot" for you. Or it just may be the opening to you having that Honest Talk with her.

If administers choose to close this thread - do so, as both I & others will understand your actions.

I have been here almost 2 years, rarely see a thread closed, unless complaints are sent or topic has been Bashed to heck.

"I and Others ?"
Who are the Others that will Understand ?
Sometimes you say " We " others you say " I".

I believe "We and I " are Curious about who the " Others " are that will understand if the Admins chose to close a thread for the TOU. (Terms of Use ).

One final thing here..

You mention a 19 year old young adult that you or your wife have, either together or was one before you marriage . ( The one she makes you wear a condom for as she is allergic to Birth Control pills ) and doesn't want another child.

Take all of your Curiosity in all of your posts here, all of your Fantasies, all of your Posts. And pretend ( Fantasize ) that your 19 year old wrote them ?

How would you think, would you share them (posts) with their Mother ?
Would you discuss them with the 19 year old and Both Parents ?


I am Intrigued and hope you will actually answer some of the questions I have asked. Without sidestepping or evasion.

Then again, it has now become my " Fantasy " to understand someone as Interesting and Curious as you .

[kiwi guy]

The couple I sent messages to, also were offering the chance for anyone (singles / couples either straight or bi sexual or curious) to either watch them having sex or to join in with them in one way or another. So they had options for everyone. I unfortunately forgot to mention those other details ( watching) previously - sorry. If I had just intended to watch, I would not consider this cheating ( or known otherwise as being unfaithful) if that was my prefered choice.
Many years ago, my wife & I joined 2 very close family members (a married couple) to watch 2 movies one night. One was a movie (Blue Lagoon) which we didn't know what it contained until part way thru (sex scenes etc) but we both sat & watched it to the end. I enjoyd it but my wife felt reasonably comfortable about it . She had never seen these types before. The following movie was a a lot more explicit - my wife sat & watched it - but felt uncomfortable when others were also watching it but felt it would be bad manners to leave the room. She wasn't very impressed knowing both movies involved sex scenes & more. I will reply to some of your other questions soon .

[Little]

OP banned, thread closed.

[jns]

OP banned, thread closed.

?????? What is old is new again.

[Little]

Apparently all the software craziness is unclosing threads, changing post dates, and all kinds of good stuff.
I haven't thought of kiwi guy in months, too bad I have to think of a troll again :P LOL

[BabyGirl]

Lmao, Little..

Now. while Kiwi guy was interesting and really got the Forum going in Debates. He/She/ They, did get the best of responses from the members.

So ..
In Remembrance of the KIWI TROLL .

I offer a Photo "Grave Marker "



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Sorry..
Couldn't Resist..