[James1978]

Don't worry, I'm not bashing you for posting the threads you have - they have been great questions with varied answers that I have enjoyed responding to! I was just giving you advice for what seems like your "greater question" as well.

Oh absolutely! You're a sweetheart Little! As are the other ladies here. I didn't mean to sound like I thought you were bashing me. I know you're not. But I thought some background would be helpful. Ha ha. If anything, I appreciate you all tolerating my silly questions. =)

[BabyGirl]

They aren't silly questions, and I'm sure you can get many many " thoughts on this very Subject " by putting Sex on First date in the Search Bar. The majority may be women asking about their First Date and Sex.

One thing.. Is it just a Sexual Encounter that you want with no Commitment , kinda one night Stands, or are you wanting maybe something more Lasting ? While " Playing the Field " is kind of "Sowing ones Oats." Please remember, That what you get, you may not like so much in the Long Run.

Similar to bagging a pound of Tomatoes , without really taking the time to examine each one, for Juiciness, Ripeness, Firmness, Taste. Just throwing several in that Bag and taking them home. You may be disappointed, find some that are Rotten, Bitter or Mushy or just not to your taste in General.

So taking your Time and choosing Carefully, before " Cutting into them " May make a Healthier and Happier Life's Salad.

Try Joining Groups or Clubs that you have Interests in, The Pro Bono, Legal Secretary or Undergrad Lawyers club , might be good to start with. Legal Libraries are good places too.


But if you are just out for a Mini , Provide the " Dressing " type. Make sure they know you are not Looking for anything other than a Quickie. You don't want Leftovers. Provide Coverage and Proof that you are Disease/ Bug Free and expect the same from them .


On the question of " I don't know how to approach them about Sex " part ?

Well, that can be Tricky, It is wiser to do a " Case Study and Know the Questions and Answers " To Basic Information .
Know if you even want to take on the Case. Or is it one that you just kinda DA it,for want of a Paycheck or Experience to put on your " Case Load Resume ".

But if you just want Sex on the First Date. I wouldn't put in an Ad , lol.. But I would be very Careful about who and when and Where and Who will know about it .. New Technology and you know .. Scary Things .

[James1978]

They aren't silly questions, and I'm sure you can get many many " thoughts on this very Subject " by putting Sex on First date in the Search Bar. The majority may be women asking about their First Date and Sex.

One thing.. Is it just a Sexual Encounter that you want with no Commitment , kinda one night Stands, or are you wanting maybe something more Lasting ? While " Playing the Field " is kind of "Sowing ones Oats." Please remember, That what you get, you may not like so much in the Long Run.

Similar to bagging a pound of Tomatoes , without really taking the time to examine each one, for Juiciness, Ripeness, Firmness, Taste. Just throwing several in that Bag and taking them home. You may be disappointed, find some that are Rotten, Bitter or Mushy or just not to your taste in General.

So taking your Time and choosing Carefully, before " Cutting into them " May make a Healthier and Happier Life's Salad.

Try Joining Groups or Clubs that you have Interests in, The Pro Bono, Legal Secretary or Undergrad Lawyers club , might be good to start with. Legal Libraries are good places too.


But if you are just out for a Mini , Provide the " Dressing " type. Make sure they know you are not Looking for anything other than a Quickie. You don't want Leftovers. Provide Coverage and Proof that you are Disease/ Bug Free and expect the same from them .


On the question of " I don't know how to approach them about Sex " part ?

Well, that can be Tricky, It is wiser to do a " Case Study and Know the Questions and Answers " To Basic Information .
Know if you even want to take on the Case. Or is it one that you just kinda DA it,for want of a Paycheck or Experience to put on your " Case Load Resume ".

But if you just want Sex on the First Date. I wouldn't put in an Ad , lol.. But I would be very Careful about who and when and Where and Who will know about it .. New Technology and you know .. Scary Things .

Very creative BabyGirl. Lol. You are also a sweetheart. And good advise too. I don't really know what I want. I think what I really want is to have my cake and eat it too. I think part of my problem is that my last relationship was not a very good experience. As a result, I think I have a case of "once bitten, twice shy". It made me a little scared of commitment. So, I don't want to have one night stands, but I'm also kind of skittish about jumping into another long term relationship. Such is life in the dating world I guess. It's not like you can plan to have a bunch of short term flings. =/