[Hugo-B]

The conversation came up, because I was talking about how I feel bad if I come before a man. My friend goes "Just have another one." I said "I don't know about that, because I don't have multiple orgasms." A doctor told me that it's not unheard of for some women to not have multiple orgasms. Every woman is different, just like every man is different. Some men can't orgasm from blowjobs, while some can.

Why would you feel bad if you cum before the man? Men feel bad if they cum first! Barring selfish men, dysfunctional men, or men who have a legitimate problem with PE the man's objective is to let the woman cum first! Stop beating yourself up young lady.

After my ex had cum, and she'd normally have one per session (g-spot) she'd want me to cum as quickly as possible. Any extra orgasms would be later in a separate session and would normally be via the rabbit if they were clitoral, and via sex if they were g-spot.

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[Magnetism]

I feel bad, because I'm not as horny after having one orgasm. I fell asleep after orgasming within 2 minutes of fingering, and the person I was with joked about "having sex for only 2 minutes" the next day. The good thing about cumming quickly is that I will be prepared for intercourse quicker. The best way for me to feel relaxed before penetration is to have a clitoral orgasm. I don't want to have an orgasm so soon before the man where I can't continue on with sexual pleasure.

I was going to ask you guys if you have any tips on how to make vaginal penetration feel good, because I don't see what's so amazing about it. Rubbing the g-spot just feels like I'm going to urinate. I feel clitoral stimulation feels way better. I read that some women just aren't that naturally sensitive down there, but I don't know if I'm having some mental block or is my anatomy just a certain way where I don't get that much pleasure from intercourse?

Some men can tell when you're not fully enjoying the act and they also know if you're faking it.

[Baboy]

Magnetism,

I see nothing for you to feel bad about.

Once, I was in a long-term and very satisfactory relationship where the woman was much like you, I think. She could come quite readily with clitoral stimulation - oral or digital - but penetration was no big deal for her. However, once she had her orgasm, she was quite content to have intercourse and she said she enjoyed the closeness of it and because it made me feel good. In short, we both accommodated each other.

Sometimes we had great sex without intercourse, which is quite possible. Oral, manual, a combination, all good.

Moreover, as buddha pointed out, no reason at all to feel bad if you come before the man. If you have enjoyed an orgasm, by whatever means, I would think most guys would feel happy that they gave you pleasure and it has taken the pressure off them to ensure your pleasure. If you are unable to come at all, I can see the guy being concerned and feeling inadequate. Otherwise, if it were me, I'd be delighted that you had an orgasm.

You really were on target with your comment about we all being different. Absolutely true. No need to fret about not being like someone else. Enjoy being you and, with any luck, you'll find a partner who enjoys you being you.

BTW, I know it's easy for someone like me to sit here, anonymously, and spout off like some know-it-all sex guru. I am not, and I have grappled with my own insecurities from time to time. But I am being sincere and not just trying to make you feel better.

[ItsASecret]

I am unable to have multiple orgasms, simply put once I am done that is it. I have tried to get it going again but those specific initial orgasm tingles never show up. There is nothing wrong with not being able to orgasm multiple times, some people just cannot do it despite trying. Anyone that says that multiples must occur can be attributed to a misinformed individual. Assuming that because one person can have multiples that any other woman should also react in that same manner is absurd. Individuality is a backbone of sex.

[LittlePip]

I couldn't have multiple orgasms until around a year ago. I remember having a few orgasms in a day when I first started experimenting as a teen, but they would be separately, throughout the day. No man could ever give me more than one orgasm as I found my clitorus too sensitive after the first clitoral orgasm. Now I find it easier to have g spot orgasms and my BF doesn't fixate on my clitorus so it doesn't get 'worn out', also I think some physiological change has helped.

There may be light at the end of the tunnel!