[ashleyperez]

I get horny, but not wet , so sex hurts like crazy what do I do if I already went to a gynocologist?

Ok I went to a gynocologist about this problem, she did not help what so ever! She looked at me , as if I was stupid. She told me am still young and have time and she looked deep into my vagina and told me everything was okay. I thought I had vaginimus, but she told me I didn't because the whole stick thing went in my vagina which doesnt mean anything bec it hurt like **** and was extremely umcomfortable.which is not suppose to happen. Idk.if masturbating.is what gave me this problem..but it all started about 4 years back. Its very personal so if your going to judge me bec of this problem might as well get out. Well I started maturbating when I was 14 before high schoool began, I did it once everyday, it felt amazing words can not explain. After 3 months of doing it everyday I became super constipated everytime I would do it. So I tried to stop but then again everytime I would go to sleeep i'll force myself to masturbate untill it felt goood. Imagine, I had serious problems and when I would orgasm, ill keep on hardcore so the orgasm wouldmt end so I can avoid feeling that"guilty feeling" it was bad I have mental problems I think bec I don't think anyone else would have done this . Well to make a long story short, a year later I was 16, I still had the problem of not being able to pee well and had a night that I drank a tonn of alcohol ,,;/ ever since that day, which was EXACTLY 2 years ago from today, Ideveloped ibs which is irritable bound syndome..what should I do? My gastreologist diagnosed it so its real! Ever since those 2 years I do nottt get horny, I do get turned on im with a guy I like but my vagina can't get wet guys please help me with what to do, I went to the gynologost thinking shell help my problem telling but I have that everything is fine which apparently it isnt bec am 18 and its been exactly 2 years since ive been.16, that I can not get wet..my previous boyfriend that I had a year and a month ago, I was super attrated to him but he never got me wet this is serious

[jns]

Do you use store bought lubrication and enough?

Maybe the constipation was unrelated, or maybe it was because you were tightening up your muscles.

Do you masturbate while lying on your back?

What have you been given to take because of the ibs?

[DreamP346]

OK. Hope I understand your post. You feel guilty about masturbating. Please don't. We all masturbate. Its a great way to enjoy your body, get to know it, feet sexually liberated and releive stress.

The issue of not getting wet can be a multitude of things. Hormones often play a big role. Did you start birth control pills or anything like that? Did you start taking any medications?

About your gynecologists. The sad truth is most doctors really don't know much about sexual matters. Its just not taught in medical schools. The physicians who deal with sexual issues are self taught. Most doctors will ignore or underplay what you are going through. Fing a better doctor. Do a google search for doctors who specialize in sexual medicine. If you feel comfortable telling me what state you live in, I can recommend a few, but they are all in major metropolitan cities.

Another thing you need to be aware of is sex in mostly in your head. You say your have mental problems. What are they? Stress can be one of the biggest problems in sexual matters. A lot of times dealing with the emotional/mentals issues will help resolve the sexual issue.

[ashleyperez]

Do you use store bought lubrication and enough?

Maybe the constipation was unrelated, or maybe it was because you were tightening up your muscles.

Do you masturbate while lying on your back?

What have you been given to take because of the ibs?

No I have never used lubrication. Am i8 years old I feel like i should not need to use anything to become wet and i want to fix this problem not use things to make it better, i would like to naturally fix it.

Yes I think I was tightening my muscles. Thats exactly what it feels like. The problem is, how do i untighten them? :/

Yes I masturate while laying on my back, why?

And I have been giving omeprazole and a couple other medicines but stop taking them cause they haven't done anything an done of them made it worse so i just stopped taking any medicine foe good. Theyre not going to help anyway my doctor told me ibs is uncurable

[ashleyperez]

Yes I know , I don't feel guilty anymore about it anymore, well I barely even do it bec i am barely even aroused. But back then when I was 14 I used to feel super guilty about it, I had self esteem issues because of family and stuff.

Nope I did not take ANY medicines or NOTHING It was just after I got ibs I wouldnt get wet anymore and barely horny. and before that when i wouldd get wet, id get constipated after masturbating everytime i'd do it.

And okay yea thats true the gynocologist I went to was a real bixtch. lol and I live in miami florida so if u can tell me good gynocologists that'll be awesome!

Yeah I do have a lot of stress and am bipolar problems but sometimes am relaxed and its still hard to get wet

[jns]

No I have never used lubrication. Am i8 years old I feel like i should not need to use anything to become wet and i want to fix this problem not use things to make it better, i would like to naturally fix it.

Yes I think I was tightening my muscles. Thats exactly what it feels like. The problem is, how do i untighten them? :/

Yes I masturate while laying on my back, why?

And I have been giving omeprazole and a couple other medicines but stop taking them cause they haven't done anything an done of them made it worse so i just stopped taking any medicine foe good. Theyre not going to help anyway my doctor told me ibs is uncurable

Some women naturally lubricate enough, some women don't. There is no certain fix to not lubricating enough. That's why store bought lubrication is such a good idea.

You will have to practice not tightening up as much. Try using things that help you relax, like maybe soft music, favorite scents and a favorite romantic movie.

You should google a site called Healthy Strokes - it explains in detail why prone masturbation isn't a good way to set yourself up for enjoyable sex.

Sometimes medications can make a situation more bearable.

[Little]

That site is about masturbating lying on your stomach ... I guess they didn't do a good job of clarity when they called it prone masturbation, huh? Female masturbation while lying on the back is the preferred way.

[Stillness]

my doctor told me ibs is uncurable

Translation: He can't fix it with pills or by cutting you open.

A couple of months ago I got inspired to try juicing to lose weight. It worked. I drank homemade juice for an entire week. Besides being overweight, I've had issues with tendonitis in my feet, a weird rash on my hand, some kind of bowel issue that was causing me fatigue, and some sort of allergy. At the end of one week all of the pain, fatigue, and irritation i had from that stuff unexpectantly disappeared. (The issues with the tendonitis came back because I have heel spurs, but nothing else did.)

I'm not telling you to go as extreme as I did. What I'm saying is that there are other alternatives to drugs and Western medicine. Diet is probably behind a lot of the issues we have. Investigate. Try stuff out.

[alex0_0]

i dated a girl who would get wet during foreplay and the first parts of sex but dry up fairly quickly and fairly totally in about three minutes or so, she was young, 19/20. Is this a fairly common issue? she said she thought it was because she became sexually active at a young age, 16.
our solution was anal sex, she wound up preferring it over vaginal penetration.

[Cbb2005]

I have some of the same issues with sex and ibs, meds never helped me either. But for the ibs the biggest things you can do are to keep your stress level down an watch your diet, there are a lot of foods that make ibs way worse and constipation can definitely compact the issues with sex. For the dryness, masturbation especially with vibrators can cause it but one thing that has helped me is not doing it so often and when preparing for sex try a position other than laying in your back so all your juices run down and back deep inside you. Make sure you take foreplay slowly too that helps ! Hope tho has helped you!