[Stillness]

Fellas, help me out here. There's always attention given to the fact that our counterpart's sex is hidden and secret. There's much focus on the complexity of a woman's pleasure - the multitude of spots and variation of climaxes. I love it. I'm fascinated with the female form and what makes them tick. But do they have a monopoly on mystery?

A couple of days ago there was a discussion in this section on expectations and desire for women to orgasm from penetrative sex. As ever, the discussion turned to myths imposed on women by men and how a woman's sexuality needs to be explored. I mentioned to them that male sexuality an be just as complex and brought up a sensation I experience that I've never heard anyone else discuss. It's the fleeting feeling of pleasure I feel along the shaft and into my body when the tip of my erect penis is pressed inward toward my body. There was lack of understanding, concern for safety, and an attempt to explain it away as pleasure derived from my glans being rubbed. It's not from rubbing.

Do any of you experience this? Have your men ever mentioned this to you ladies? And to make it broader, are there any other pleasurable sensations that men experience that get little to no press?

[Element]

Pressed inwards, like straight back into your penis? Or pushed up towards your stomach? Can you give a bit more of an explanation?

[Stillness]

Pressed inwards, like straight back into your penis?

Yes. In the same exact way that would cause a painful bend, but not with so much pressure.

[Ratty]

I can't say I've ever experienced that one, but something that I do find pleasurable is lying flat on my belly whilst having an erection.

[Stillness]

something that I do find pleasurable is lying flat on my belly whilst having an erection.

Where is the pleasure?

[Element]

I'll do it to my boyfriend and let you know if he likes it.

[notlikethenormal]

Logically that makes sense... when you enter a woman you would feel that bit of pressure, is that the same type of pleasure you are talking about?

[Stillness]

Logically that makes sense... when you enter a woman you would feel that bit of pressure, is that the same type of pleasure you are talking about?

Yes, I think so - the pressure upon entry and the pressure on bottoming out. It's why I'm surprised I'm getting the negative answers. I think it may be that it's drowned out by the other sensations, but it's there.

This is going to sound weird, but the time I'm most aware of it is if I'm sleepy and I have an erection and pants on. When I stretch and I press against my pants it's very noticeable. I can't lie - I press it a little harder. Then, oddly, very much like the pleasure from the stretch it passes and is not immediately reproduceable with the same intensity. It's like it has a refractory period. During foreplay, when my wife is really getting into pleasing me I can feel it. It drives me up a wall combined with all of the other sensations. I think it's a little uncomfortable. It sort of takes my breath away. I always imagine that women who like their cervix hit feel something similar.