[mysteffen]

So, im wondering...how often do you guys have sex sex? what i mean is, im married and i enjoy sex, but when my husband says "lets go have sex" he really means, "lets go have a quickie". Stick it in and get to the point. aha. sometimes it gets to be too much quickies where im to the point that i don't wanna have sex. cus if it's only for his release then i don't want it. or if by the time we're done having sex and im left unsatisfied, then i don't even want to do it. I wanna feel good too!! I LOVE the REAL thing. The kissing, caressing, not to mention oral! Who doesn't love oral?? aha. When it gets to be to frustrating, i'll tell him, "hey, don't you think its time to have some GOOD sex?" and he'll go along with it. It leaves us both feeling wayyy better after we have some GOOD sex. But then, he'll forget all about it and do the same "quickie" thing again and then im gonna have to remind him again. It makes me wonder if he even enjoys my body.

So, im asking you guys/gals, married or not, how often should you have REAL sex? When is it necessary to have quickies?

Thanks.

[jns]

You didn't mention if you get to orgasm relatively quickly by oral or not. If you do, then he could give you quickies, too. You also didn't say how long one of the quickies actually takes.

I would say that full blown sex that takes a lot of time would be nice at least once a week. Somewhat quicker sex maybe several times a week or more. What you are talking about as quickies should probably be forgotten. He should work on getting you going first, and to orgasm if possible. If you are both have a lot of energy, don't have a lot of obligations and your libidos are high, you could go at it several times a day.

I think he enjoys you and your body, but is being somewhat selfish a lot of the time. Is he kind of inexperienced on this two way street thing?

[Hugo-B]

I asked my GF is she fancied a quickie, she said, 'as opposed to what?'

[DSemcho]

Me and my husband rarely have quickies, but he always makes sure I get off. So if he can get me off in 2 or 3 minutes and then finish himself I consider that being "real sex". We rarely have quickies. But we only have sex once or twice a week anyways (the twice a week is if I'm EXTREMELY lucky.) but normally it's once a week or once every 10 - 13 days.

[ItsASecret]

I wish we could have quickies but I am not the type of woman that is ready to go in an instant so it is literally not possible for us to just get naked and him quickly shove himself in me for a quickie lol. Oral does not work well on me so I need a lot of prep time, lube, the fingering so my muscles stretch etc. It takes time so no quickies for us in the sense of drop the pants and go at it right there. The easiest way for us to have a quickie is for me to use a vibrator for a bit to stretch my muscles out relatively quicker so that he does not have to go about fingering me and so forth.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Some great replies.

The man of "your" house should be reading these

To me, I don't believe (sorry guys) that many men, or should I say, pending age factor understand a woman in that regard, in the bedroom.

In one way, "only" quickies can be perceived to be "selfish" on the mans behalf, unless in Ms IAS's case, she prefers it or any woman for that matter.

But, sex is sex.

Being horney and having a quicky is powerful, exciting for the moment much like a bungy jump, no seriously, a thrill, done, over with, gone.

But, there are more factors to take into consideration, "intimacy" and the bond in that, I mean you do sometimes look into each others eyes whilst slowly doing the motion... That's bonding, special..

Your man misses out on that, the look in your eyes of passion and what you are experiencing which "he" is doing, creating

If only men realised their orgasms would better instead of quicker, by watching what they do to their woman "sensually, sexually" then the world would be a better place....................

CW

[DreamP346]

My husband is the same way. A while back, we were only having sex in the middle of the night when he would role over with a hard-on, touch me 1 minutes to get me wet, then stick it in, be done in 3-5 minutes. I had to take control of the situtation and and that changed things. Middle of the nights are still quickies, but the daytime ones are longer and much better.

I think many men (of course, not all) just get complacent when they have been with the same partner for a while and just take them for granted, especially when its a partner that is always willing to have sex. I NEVER turn my husband down, so he has no incentive to romance me. If you want more romance and gourmet sex, they need to take the initiative to make it happen. Don't rely on him.

[Stillness]

So, im asking you guys/gals, married or not, how often should you have REAL sex?

As much as you want.

Quickies are almost always initiated by my wife before work when time is limited. The only thing I hate more than a quickie is not having sex, so I generally take it how I can get it and do my best to make it worth her while.

The only time I might go for one is when we're about to go on a road trip and I'm unsatisfied. Normally I just grin and bear it, but I hate hate hate being horny and miserable while I'm trapped in a vehicle with her for 12 hours. I'm a completely different person - kinda like David Banner from The Incredible Hulk, only instead of rage it's "wood" in a car. For my sanity and so she has a pleasant riding companion we do something. Then I can enjoy the endless string of grass, trees and cows pass by my window interspersed with calm conversation and quiet smiles.

[ItsASecret]

In one way, "only" quickies can be perceived to be "selfish" on the mans behalf, unless in Ms IAS's case, she prefers it or any woman for that matter.

I do not prefer the quickie I much prefer the longer sex sessions but I say I wish I could do the quickie in an instant like others describe because he is the one wanting it. Sometimes he gets into a nagging phase where he says in an annoyed tone that I should be instantly aroused (btw guys saying to your woman she should be instantly aroused in an annoyed tone is a sure fire way to not get her aroused at all) or I can see he is frustrated that the prep time is needed even though he won't say he is frustrated. My bf certainly does have the selfish "man side" as I call it, it is not that often though just sometimes lol. He can walk around the kitchen literally mentioning that he is horny with a boner every 15 seconds and if I say lets go to the bedroom he will be all excited until the moment he realizes that he needs to "prep" me. That is why I wish I could have the quickie with ease and not have to spend so much time stretching my muscles down below.

[JonDoe]

So, im asking you guys/gals, married or not, how often should you have REAL sex?

According to extensive research, exactly 3.14159 times per week.

When is it necessary to have quickies?

Whenever and wherever marathon sex is not possible. Think love in an elevator, in an airplane, in a hot air ballon, while bungee jumping or simply in the morning before leaving for work.