[jilljames8184]

I have a regular boyfriend plus my husband. The boyfriend is much younger. I guess you could say I am a cougar. My husband and my boyfriend are good friends. My husband has a low sex drive and is small. He got me started with other men several years ago because he knew I have a very high sex drive. Sometimes he just watches and sometimes he will join in; usually getting oral while my boyfriend is penetrating me. There is never any humiliation; just mutual respect between my husband and my boyfriend. It is also strictly sex with my boyfriend, not dating or emotional attachment. My husband just wants me to enjoy myself and I love him for that. I have tried to get him to have sex with other women, but he doesn't want to; says I am more than enough for him. We don't see our situation as "cuckold".

[jen1447]

That's too bad muffin but at least you have your answer.

[muffin70]

That's too bad muffin but at least you have your answer.

I pretty much knew the answer before I even asked the question..... even before her knee was playing up we only did missionary and occasionally doggy style. I would love her to be on top facing me, but being a plus size woman she is not able to push herself up and down and I don't have the strength to do it either....
I just get upset sometimes when I read some of the posts on here and most of the women have much higher sex drives, love giving their husband / partners oral sex and don't mind if their man ejaculates over their body... I just wish my wife was more like that sometimes....
Don't get me wrong I love my wife to pieces and would do anything for her, but I wish she'd be more open to things sexually

[angel23]

I think your wife has low libido. It comes with not feeling sexy or sexual sometimes from being out of shape, just not being very active or just plain rutine. You can't use a direct approach with this because it will just push her more and more into a defensive state. Maybe try to romance her and make her feel sexy without being sexual. Don't compare her to other woman you guys are together on this so learn how to be a good leader and lead her to sexiness. All woman go through this in a long relationship it's up to you to keep things alive. Everybody loves sex but maybe there is something that bothers her and keeps her from being sexual. I would try to use a not so direct approach when I want her to do something, just describe how much you like it when she does certain things for you. But the most important thing is communication maybe ask her about her fantasies and start there.