[ms_lorr]

Unless both people are full on board with it and fully involved they why not. Otherwise it will lead to break up, or worse, one unhappy while the other carries on.

[effy2014]

For me, this is where the porn fantasy and reality have a very bright line. It may be arousing to watch on film, but I could never be the man sharing his wife/SO. I think that the image would burn in my brain and ruin our sex life. Ignorance is bliss as far as I am concerned -- if my SO fantasizes about another man/woman while we are intimate, just keep it to yourself and deny deny deny.

[Something_Awesome]

I have never fantasized about another woman when I am doing it with my GF. To be honest, I don't fantasize at all. She is my visual stimulation.

[Something_Awesome]

To be fair, I have tried to fantasize about a different type of sexual experience we were having, but I began to lose arousal as I think it disconnected me from the experience I was already having.

[Motorguy]

This life style is very risky because after a a while the wife will enjoy someone bigger maybe a better lover and you gave her full range of a open relationship. Then trying to back out after a while will end up destroying your marriage because of a fantasy you have with seeing your wife with another man not a good idea. I seen this my self personally of this lifestyle couples getting divorce over a open relationship in there marriage is it really worth it probably not.

[jen1447]

Good question...I did ask him and he shared that it was something about watching me being satisfied and being "ravished" but another man...I agree with you about the commitment and trust.

Did it by any chance have anything to do with him having a smaller penis than the guy you were effing?

I've never done it myself, altho I think the vibrator reference is interesting ....I do that quite a lot while the BF watches, and it can be for different reasons - either he's 'not allowed' to play or more practically if he's spent for whatever reason but wants to see me go on. I really don't think the vibe has simulated another guy in my experience, more likely just me being insatiable, which he finds eternally hot. I could see how that (vibe = other guy) might be what's happening for others tho.

[Something_Awesome]

When my GF uses the vibe to make me watch, it's one part her being dominant and another part her enjoying being watched. When she makes me watch I am not allowed to participate. Though sometimes I can persuade her while she is doing it to let me caress her with my hands while she does it. If I can get her to that point, then I should be able to get her to let me use my tongue on her clit while she puts the vibe inside her. It's extremely fun whether I am watching or participating.

[Natalie1962]

I've been having sex with other me with my husband's blessing for quite some time now. Our relationship has never been stronger. I've been able to tell the difference of puppy love lust and true intimacy. Sure there are male friends of mine that I like (maybe even love) because of our long term sexual relationship and if my husband were ever to die before me I'd be perfectly comfortable marrying them. But barring that the intimacy I have with my husband is much stronger.

[elmst]

I would love to see my GF have sex with another man as long as I can be there and join in. We have been together for 3 years and our sex life has gotten pretty regular. I fantasize about her and him in all kinds of positions with me "helping out". She was in a MFM threesome many years ago but I have never done this and think about it all the time. I joined Adult FF to look for someone for us and will be asking her soon if she would give it a try again.

[muffin70]

Well the other night I told my wife I would like her to have sex with other men - I explained that because I am not well endowed and can't last longer than 2-3 minutes during intercourse that I'm obviously not satisfying her sexually and I wanted her to experience longer lasting sex and that she had my blessing.
But she said she wouldn't want to have sex with anyone else and that I am just fine..... she then asked if I want to sleep with other woman (and the thought had crossed my mind). I said "no" and explained that I'd like her to be more open to doing different things sexually.
I know her knee is causing problems (she has a meniscus tear and is getting keyhole surgery to fix that), but I told her I'd like a 'proper' blow job from time to time (one without me wearing a condom) and would love it if she would let me climax over her breasts once in a while... but her reply was "you know how I feel about that" and with that the conversation was over.....
I really want to liven up our sex life and would do anything for her sexually, but she just doesn't share the same enthusiasm....