[rini sharma]

dear sir/mam,
i didn't want to do sex before marriage.few days ago i had sex with my boyfriend but when i felt that i lost my verginity i stopped her and the full process of sex was not completed, after 2-3 years i want to do arrange marriage with another boy and i m scaring that my husband will catch me so plz suggest me

[BabyGirl]

I am hoping not to seem mean, negative or judgmental.
Or responding to any "Spam " type or Automated Posts .

But I must ask..
Are you using a translator ? You know the kind online, where you type in your language and it translates to English ?

The reason, I'm asking is your post is not making allot of sense .

dear sir/mam,
i didn't want to do sex before marriage.few days ago i had sex with my boyfriend but when i felt that i lost my verginity i stopped her and the full process of sex was not completed, after 2-3 years i want to do arrange marriage with another boy and i m scaring that my husband will catch me so plz suggest me

The... I did not want to have sex, before marriage, then the I had sex with my boyfriend.. Then the you stopped when you thought you might lose your Virginity. ( Was that stopped here or Stopped Her )?
No worries, we all drop a letter or Scramble text .

Then ..
The 2-3 years..
Is that when and maybe you want to have a marriage with another Man ( hopefully not boy ) and are you asking ... if or when you do Marry, will your husband, know that you almost lost your Virginity or that you actually Did lose it to this person (a few days ago )?

How old are you, what country are you from/in. ?

If you are using a Translator, you may wish to find another one or at least proofread what is written. So as not to make it so confusing. I am a Widow of a Chilean and used to use a translator myself . Some of what I said did not make sense to his family either .

My confusion, is not only the Spelling, ( in English ) but also some of the phrases and composition of the post . Your " Translator ' can spell suggest correctly, but not virginity and also is using the text slang / short of Please as plz . along with the words process and completed.
Also the 2-3 years is very odd for a translator. As it will usually prompt you about it and also have you use the words Two to Three .

I am interested in helping you, as I am sure that many others here are. Though getting the information of the post into a context that " Most " of us here on WH can understand, is vital for us to even attempt to help with your Problem.

Again, I am not trying to be Critical, I am trying to help in anyway I can. I noted, when I used a " Translator" that you can copy and paste to an email or even word/ Excell and it would highlight misspellings and phrases .



I hope this helps you a little, I'm sure you will get more responses if the wording is different and possibly more detailed and in a "Form " that the majority can comprehend .

Good Luck to you .

[rini sharma]

okay, i m 20 years old unmarried girl from India and had sex only 1 time with my boyfriend. at the time of sex, i was not mentally prepared so i stopped my boyfriend after lost my virginity but the intercourse was not completed.so my question arises that in future, may be after 2 to 3 years,if i would like to marry with another boy and so i m worrying about my future, that my husband will judge that i m not a virgin girl. please suggest me that husband will judge me or not

[Claret]

You do not have to tell him that you are not a virgin. This can be your secret. Not all virgins have a hymen that breaks at first intercourse. If the new boyfriend loves you greatly, not being a virgin won't matter to him, he'll accept you for the person that you are. Look for a man that will have those qualities rather than the strict "girl must be a virgin" individual.

I need ask you though, are you still planning on having this first boyfriend be your boyfriend in the future? Are you still seeing him and does he think he will have sex with you again? You may have to break things off with him in order to keep yourself from having sex in the future.

[Hugo-B]

I do not normally advocate lying in situations like this, but I have been to India twice and seen first hand how they treat/oppress women; so since no good can come from telling the truth I would follow Claret's advice and pretend nothing happened - which technically it didn't.

This is a more simplistic version for the OP, who may not have been able to interpret the above accurately:

Rina-Sharma: This man no have proper sex with you, you are still virgin, not worry, just no tell any one else about what you not do with other man. Just forget all about and no tell your husband.

The heart cannot year what the mind doesn't know :-)

[Magnetism]

I wouldn't advocate telling either.A future husband has no way of telling that you attempted to have sex with your boyfriend. The other option is that you may end up with a man that doesn't care about virginity (I've met a few from India), but you would have to get know his character and views first.

Buddhaboy-I'm curious as to how you think men in India oppress women. I don't like to bring up the topic with other Indians, because the ones I know get offended and make me feel crazy for feeling the way I do.

[Hugo-B]

Well, they make them walk five paces behind their husbands, many tend not to (be able to?) send their daughters to school (apparently most schools for the poorer classes are about 90% full of boys), and most men think a girl is a 'ho' and wont marry her if she isn't a virgin, for starters.

They still find one dead baby girl a week down a well in Goa apparently :-(

[Magnetism]

Yeah, I could go on about the issue of virginity. It's fascinating how some cultures think it's the end of the world if a woman isn't a virgin.

[DreamP346]

Don't tell your future husband. If he acts a little suspicious that you didn't bleed, just say you have been using tampons and maybe that broke your hymen.

[Hugo-B]

YOu could just tell your future to mind his own **************g business.