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I wanted to post a question here to get a true females perspective. I have (what the internet tells me is) a smaller than average penis. Rather than consult a bunch of data from studies that I feel like can be skewed by machismo, I was hoping to get a less biased perspective . I am a grower as a opposed to a shower haha, flaccid I am a little under two inches but when aroused I don't top out until 4 inches. Do women consider this "very small" or kind of closer to average? As far as girth, its kind of hard to measure all the way around but I am just under 1.5 inches wide. I am 24 years old.

I appreciate your honest feedback!

[JennyTryon]

if you want honesty...yes, you have a very small penis. the average penis length is a little over 6 inches. from my experiences, i have been with a decent number of men - some quite large and some quite small. the smallest i have ever been with was about 5 and 1/4 inches. 5 inches is really pretty small. i would consider 4 inches tiny, sorry!

this doesn't mean you can't maintain a good sex life, my advice: last as long as you can and work on those oral skills! good luck little guy

[mahimahi]

thats cute! so few men are willing to get honest feedback on this issue (unless they are big of course). i love the "grower not a shower bit" though i'm not sure it applies if you only grow to 4 inches!

the verdict: very, very small! but don't let that kill your self esteem. like jenny said there are many other things you can do to please a woman

ps. i know it says this about a lot of users, but i love that it says "junior member" under his username, HA!

[kira]

That is well below average and will affect some things. however I can hit the right spot with my finger and I can nearly wear kid sized gloves. My finger can't be beyond 4". If you learn something most guys never do... aim... instead of just in and out in a straight line then you can still reach the sensitive areas along the top of the vagina. I usually have to initiate that part even if I'm on bottom by adding a little arc to my hips so the penis hits the right spot cause guys don't get it. Sex is a straight line to them when the world is made of so many more shapes and movements.

[Advice101]

i agree somewhat with the second post. i have been with several men and women usually like 6inch+, which is average..
im not saying its bad to have a smaller penis, if you know how to work what you got and make your women pleased and happy im sure there wont be a problem dont be shy

[mahimahi]

kira makes a good point, you can still hit some spots (the g!) with the right aim. but be careful because a woman that has been with more than a few men will likely find it difficult to feel something so small.

but maybe i have a skewed view. the smallest i have had was probably around 5-5.5 so i am just offering one perspective! (though i've never really heard of 4 inchers :-/)

[fosterkevinfoster]

Thanks for the feedback, I'm still hoping a larger sample size will sway the results a little more my way but I appreciate the honesty, that's why I came here!

This does bring one more question to my mind, however. How small is too small?

[mahimahi]

4 inches! haha just kidding, but in all seriousness I would say anything under 5 inches is too small for me. it just seems too boyish no offense.

[jns]

Your penis is average size in counties having more than 1/4 of the world's population. Specifically, China, India, North and South Korea, Thailand, Cambodia, Myanmar, Philippines and Japan. Google [world penis size] for sites with maps.

[Stillness]

Ladies, I don't think it's cool to make fun of something someone is uncomfortable about that they're looking for help with. I know we try to keep it positive around here, but sometimes I really wish there was a "dislike" button.

Anyway, everything matters to some extent with certain people. That includes the size of your penis. But, any woman for whom your penis is too small has a vagina that is too big. She's probably just not the woman for you. A lot of the more mature members probably won't comment because this issue has been discussed to death.

For some women you'd be perfect. For others they don't care. I did a search. Notice these comments from some other threads:

"Also dated a 6' guy with about a 4" - and that didn't make much of a difference to me, either."

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/sex/5272-penis-size-short-guy.html

"I also think I don't like large penises. I've been told I have a shallow vagina, and large penises just look intimidating. Like someone is going to shove a truck inside of you. Whoever made up the idea that all women like big penises is a big liar.

"I think my future partner will need to be 4-6 inches tops."

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/sex/54275-how-tell-when-female-body-properly-aroused.html

"I don't care if guys are small, medium or large in penis size. What's important to me are nimble fingers and mouth LOL."

and from another poster

"An ex of mine completely turned me on all the time when I was with him but he did have a small penis. Different positions help but my ex made it up to me in other ways also. By the time he wanted sex I would have been satisfied several times and just thinking of that turned me on more and made it better.

I have never once thought of dumping a guy because his penis was small and first times with new partners arnt always the best once you get to know each other sexually things get better."

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/sex/12912-small-penis-2.html

"Fact of the matter is everyone says they don't care about size but some men meet women that do care. I must admit I was a little disappointed with my now bfs size compared to my ex's and my bf is still apparantly over average but once I realised he was a better lover I didn't care. "

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/sex/38863-penis-size.html

"I can do a lot more fun things with a man who has an average or even a bit smaller member. And many options makes for lots of fun "

and

"most of the guys ive been with that have had big or even monster size wangs have been terrible in bed. they sort of assume that having it exist has taken care of 95% of the task lol."

and

"I've never measured my hubby, but he's on the average to smaller size and I'm very glad. While anal sex is not an all-the-time thing for us, we do that on occassion because he likes it and I could not do it if he was any larger. There is nothing that would be any better if he were larger that I can think of. We both like giving oral and at the same time quite often. Size sure doesn't matter there, and as far as intercourse, I don't think longer would be any better there either. I don't get the obsession with it, to tell you the truth."

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/sex/38266-i-learned-i-am-lucky-being-5-5-inches-i-can-do-everything.html

"My last boyfriend was too big. This can be a huge relationship issue - sex was sometimes painful for me, he was self-conscious about his size making sex uncomfortable for me. One thing that helped me is that he was a very generous lover, and was more than willing to slow things down or even stop penetration and switch to something else or whatever to make sure the sex was good for me, too."

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/sex/1632-my-penis-big.html

"By way of support for the argument that penis size doesn't matter to a guys sexual prowess, i had the most orgasms and best time with the guy with the 3 inch penis. He was aware that he was lacking from a size point of view so did anything i asked in the bedroom, and boy did his tongue and hands make up for the small penis."

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/sex/5080-what-size-satisfying-2.html

Do some searches and you'll find that the women for whom size really matters are in the minority. The majority care much more about things like how you confidence, a desire to please, and how you treat them outside the bedroom. It sounds corny, but it's true. I can tell you that I've given great pleasure to women without penetration or with the tip of one finger. So although it will matter to some, in the grand scheme of things it does not.

99% of your problems are going to come from your own mind. Most men who are not having problems because they're too big want bigger penises. So, join the club.