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Wow I was going to post something similar and then I read this post and the comments with it. I posted something here a week ago and with some great feedback I seemed to have resolved the problem I was having with my GF. Now I was planning on seeing if I could get some help with MY problem. The dreaded penis insecurity. Reason I'm asking on here is I'm trying to avoid talking to her about it as I don't want to create uncomfort for her by asking. "Am I big enough?" And all the other questions that go along with it. I measured today and I got 4.75 L x 4.75 G. Yea small I know. My main concern is it even possible for me to give the best sex shes ever had? I remember seeing a text by a friend that asked how the sex was and she wrote that it was good. And IMO that time she was referring to was OK as far as my performance. So I know she's gotten better from me after that. All I'm interested in is blowing her mind. Just wondering is with what I have is even possible. Kills me I can give her that "full" feeling. I dunno this is so stressful. Eh. Help...?Comment
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I, for one, say we need to let it go, Letsgo1. The sizes of vaginas vary. Women typically are not concerned about that. They don't need to be. A man is not going to leave his woman because she's not as tight as loose as someone else. If he does he's the exception, because it does not really matter. It's the same with women. It's simply a minor thing for the vast majority of people unless there's pain or dysfunction. A normal vagina will adjust. If a person cares about someone and they're willing to please, it's typically enough.
The rare person that is overly concerned about comparing vaginal tightness or penis sizes and that is going to make fun of people is probably not relationship material. They're immature, shallow, or both and are projecting their own inadequacies."Those sowing seed with tears
Will reap with a joyful shout." - Psalm 126Comment
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I just remembered something. I was thinking that I'm not a huge guy and I've never had any complaints, but I did have one. I had a one-night encounter with the woman who was going to be the maid-of-honor at my best friend's wedding. So she was presumably the closest thing to a best friend that his fiance had. She told him that I didn't have enough to satisfy her and that she needed a real man. Then, while he was passed out drunk on his bed and her friend stepped away she sexually assaulted him.
Character invalidates her opinion the same as it does some of the ones above in my eyes. There's something lacking that has nothing to do with anyone's penis."Those sowing seed with tears
Will reap with a joyful shout." - Psalm 126Comment
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I have a small problem...
I wasn't going to answer to this post because its been discussed to death. But seeing the negative comments some others have said, I had to chip in.
Each woman likes different things. I like average height men with broad shoulders. Physically that's what I like. That doesn't mean I can like, love and/or be sexually attracted to any other physical characteristic of a man. It really depends on what a man does in bed. Not the size of their equipment.Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose - Kris Kristofferson and Fred Foster (sung by Janis Joplin)Comment
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Which is why I bothered to write what I wrote. This thing has been beating at me for years which I'm learning to now deal with. Comments posted earlier don't help. But when it comes down to it all I want to do is give her the best sex ever. I don't want to be second best If I plan of being with her for a long time. So I'm asking with what I have is it even possible? Or is it likely I'm going to have to give her the best oral and everything else. Because honesty I give it hell when we have intercourse and I just don't see it. Maybe I just don't get it. She says confidence is sexy well that was crushed a long time ago based off of women running their mouth and a few other incidents. Maybe if I felt or knew I was the king of her jungle I could walk around a little more careless with my pants off, shrug off any negative comments people make and generally feel awesome. I'd have a better attitude. I'm not content on being the boyfriend that is nice, funny, has a good job, takes care of his body, treats her right etc and when it comes to sex well "he gives good oral kind of guy".... Yeah this turned into a rant. Out of the 13 or so years of my life being sexually active having a small/thin penis hasn't been particularly awesome. But I feel I've come a long long way.Comment
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Letsgo1, first search this topic on this forum. Like I said, its been discussed to death and many women keep giving the same responses. The ones you have received for your post are actually the first time I have ever seen such negative comments on this topic. There was even a post about the wonders of having a smaller penis https://www.womens-health.com/boards...verything.htmlWhich is why I bothered to write what I wrote. This thing has been beating at me for years which I'm learning to now deal with. Comments posted earlier don't help. But when it comes down to it all I want to do is give her the best sex ever. I don't want to be second best If I plan of being with her for a long time. So I'm asking with what I have is it even possible? Or is it likely I'm going to have to give her the best oral and everything else. Because honesty I give it hell when we have intercourse and I just don't see it. Maybe I just don't get it. She says confidence is sexy well that was crushed a long time ago based off of women running their mouth and a few other incidents. Maybe if I felt or knew I was the king of her jungle I could walk around a little more careless with my pants off, shrug off any negative comments people make and generally feel awesome. I'd have a better attitude. I'm not content on being the boyfriend that is nice, funny, has a good job, takes care of his body, treats her right etc and when it comes to sex well "he gives good oral kind of guy".... Yeah this turned into a rant. Out of the 13 or so years of my life being sexually active having a small/thin penis hasn't been particularly awesome. But I feel I've come a long long way.
The other thing is you have what you have. If you were shorter than average in height, what would you do. Go around moping that you are shorter than the average guy and you won't be sexually appealing to anybody? Would you disregard everything you woman told you about your height and still obsess over it? Its the same with penis size. You can't change your size. So stop obsessing about it. Learn to be a good lover. Read the book She Comes First. Many members here recommend it. Learn about female anatomy and sexual pleasure (that alone will teach a lot about where intercourse and penis size fall in the important of sexual relationships).
You say you want to be the best lover to your girlfriend. Then why are you asking about your penis size. There is nothing you can do about it. But there are lots of other things you can learn to do. Why don't you focus on that. What does your parnter say? Is she sexually satisfieds? Do you communicate on sexual issues with her to make sure you are doing all the things she wants and enjoys? If you are truly worried about satisfying your partner, those are the things you would be doing (regardless of the size of your penis). Asking if you penis is too small won't accomplish anything.Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose - Kris Kristofferson and Fred Foster (sung by Janis Joplin)Comment
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mahimahi, it seems you are not aware of different male anatomies. Men are "showers" or "growers". A "shower" is pretty much the same length flacid and erect. A "grower" can have much smaller penis (1 inch) when flacid but grow to be as long an any other man when erect. More than likely, if you are seeing a man that you are sexually interested in naked, you are seeing an erect penis. If you have been sexually active, you may have been with men that you say you would giggled at and sent packing. You just didn't know that those 6 inces shrinks down to 1-2 inches when not in the excited state.Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose - Kris Kristofferson and Fred Foster (sung by Janis Joplin)Comment
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