Libido Changed Overnight, it's weird, please help.
Hi, I'm new to this forum, and I'm glad I found it.
A quick little background. I am 27 years old, been married over 6 and a half years, and have a wonderful little 20 month old girl. My sex drive was almost nothing. My husband would be lucky to get it once a month. The only time we really went at it was when we were trying to get pregnant. Then, I went back to normal.
About a month ago, I was very close to leaving him with my daughter. I found stuff in his online search history about divorce, custody laws, apartment searches, and searches about lying to me about telling me he loves me. Then, after I brought that up to him that night, less than 48 hours later, he went out after work with a female co-worker, and never told me (it turned out to be nothing).
After long talks, and a nice date night, I have been wanting sex every day. I used to say at night, in bed, with the lights off. Now, it's in the living room after our daughter goes to bed, I play with him in the car while driving(just playing, not bring him to climax), I wanted him to do a quicky with me at my in-laws in the bathroom before we left the on Easter. I'm wanting the weather to be warm so we can go out and do it in the cars, and on our deck. I even want to try it privately in a public place like a store dressing room. All of a sudden, I want to get kinky, slightly more than mildly kinky, but no whips or any kind of pain. I even talked him into anal. It was our first time doing that, but I kind of enjoyed it. I even want to wear something and penetrate him at some point. I also started doing oral recently too, I never did that on him before.
It's almost like I went to sleep one night thinking who cares, and woke up like this. He even jokes saying to me that soon, he won't be able to keep up with me. He almost said it at work one day, and I encouraged him that he should. I've always been a very private person to things like this, but now, I want to shout it from the rooftops.
However, I am not feeling anything anymore. We used to orgasm together if I was on top, but now, I feel absolutely nothing. It's more that I just want to have it all the time. I did recently have blood work done to see what my hormone levels are like compared to a few months ago. I haven't gotten those results yet. At first, I thought it was more just in my mind making me want to do it all the time to show him what he has here at home and that he can't get it anywhere else.
It's awesome that we're doing it so much because it's less fighting. I even found out that I want him to be more dominate in the bedroom, but it always ends up with me being the dominate one. I've even been really turned on lately researching some very light BDSM. I prefer just to keep it more the dominate/submissive type though. (sigh)
My main question is, am I the only one who has ever experienced a drastic change like this? I'll just take any advice on anything I've written.
A quick little background. I am 27 years old, been married over 6 and a half years, and have a wonderful little 20 month old girl. My sex drive was almost nothing. My husband would be lucky to get it once a month. The only time we really went at it was when we were trying to get pregnant. Then, I went back to normal.
About a month ago, I was very close to leaving him with my daughter. I found stuff in his online search history about divorce, custody laws, apartment searches, and searches about lying to me about telling me he loves me. Then, after I brought that up to him that night, less than 48 hours later, he went out after work with a female co-worker, and never told me (it turned out to be nothing).
After long talks, and a nice date night, I have been wanting sex every day. I used to say at night, in bed, with the lights off. Now, it's in the living room after our daughter goes to bed, I play with him in the car while driving(just playing, not bring him to climax), I wanted him to do a quicky with me at my in-laws in the bathroom before we left the on Easter. I'm wanting the weather to be warm so we can go out and do it in the cars, and on our deck. I even want to try it privately in a public place like a store dressing room. All of a sudden, I want to get kinky, slightly more than mildly kinky, but no whips or any kind of pain. I even talked him into anal. It was our first time doing that, but I kind of enjoyed it. I even want to wear something and penetrate him at some point. I also started doing oral recently too, I never did that on him before.
It's almost like I went to sleep one night thinking who cares, and woke up like this. He even jokes saying to me that soon, he won't be able to keep up with me. He almost said it at work one day, and I encouraged him that he should. I've always been a very private person to things like this, but now, I want to shout it from the rooftops.
However, I am not feeling anything anymore. We used to orgasm together if I was on top, but now, I feel absolutely nothing. It's more that I just want to have it all the time. I did recently have blood work done to see what my hormone levels are like compared to a few months ago. I haven't gotten those results yet. At first, I thought it was more just in my mind making me want to do it all the time to show him what he has here at home and that he can't get it anywhere else.
It's awesome that we're doing it so much because it's less fighting. I even found out that I want him to be more dominate in the bedroom, but it always ends up with me being the dominate one. I've even been really turned on lately researching some very light BDSM. I prefer just to keep it more the dominate/submissive type though. (sigh)
My main question is, am I the only one who has ever experienced a drastic change like this? I'll just take any advice on anything I've written.
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