[rcoreyus]

Imagined differences have lead to so many horrible problems in the the past that people are very shy of discussing real differences. Describing physical differences is seen as objectifying. Discussing any behavioral differences feels like poorly cloaked racism. I also think there is this hidden image of the strong, violent, barbaric black man ravaging "our" women with his huge penis. The image is wrong, racist and horribly offensive, so any part of that image can also be seen as offensive. At the same time the image is probably tied to some fantasies, which makes the whole thing worse.

There are lots of studies that show all sorts of statistical differences between races and ethnic groups. Some of those studies may be real, some may be biased. The whole concept of race is very fuzzy, and pretty unscientific - I think the majority of African Americans are mixed race, as are the majority of "whites", or Asians. I seem to remember that there is more genetic diversity between different African groups than separates them from other "races".

Unfortunately perceived race is tied to discrimination, economic disparity etc. There are real very serious problems around something that can't really be measured. It used to drive me nuts that when hiring people I had to identify their "race" as part of an anti-discrimination program. What was I supposed to do - compare their skin with a color chart or something. (that policy ended years ago fortunately).

Jen is right, sometimes (maybe often) stereotypes have some truth behind them (or did, and that truth may be long gone).

People care because it touches on so many deeply troubling issues.

(sorry for the long rambling post).

I'm not sure why people have such a hard time accepting that there may be differences among races. I think it's quite true for example that black men tend to have larger penises, latino women tend to have larger bums, etc. Sometimes the 'stereotypes' have some truth to them. (If you want to call them that - personally I think a stereotype tends to be more behavior-oriented, like "men are lazy," "women are dumb," etc.) So we have differences. Who cares?

[Motorguy]

I'm not sure why people have such a hard time accepting that there may be differences among races. I think it's quite true for example that black men tend to have larger penises, latino women tend to have larger bums, etc. Sometimes the 'stereotypes' have some truth to them. (If you want to call them that - personally I think a stereotype tends to be more behavior-oriented, like "men are lazy," "women are dumb," etc.) So we have differences. Who cares?

Well here is documentation that black men do not have bigger penis then white men it's a myth.

Black men vary in size just as much as white men. The story is a myth and a generalization that does not hold true for all individuals within a race.
A review, conducted by Drs. Kevan Wylie and Ian Eardley of the Porterback Clinic and Royal Hallamshire Hospital in Sheffield and St. James' Hospital in Leeds, United Kingdom, respectively, combines results from more than 50 international research projects into penis size and small penis syndrome (SPS) conducted since 1942.
Drawing upon the results of 12 relevant studies, the review, detailed in the British Journal of Urology (BJU) International, finds that the average erect penis is about 5.5 to 6.2 inches long and about 4.7 to 5.1 inches in circumference.
The findings deflate myths about male genitalia. The notion that penis size varies according to race, for example, is false.
So, no, black men do not have penises large than those of white men.

[jen1447]

I'm not sure why people have such a hard time accepting that there may be differences among races. I think it's quite true for example that black men tend to have larger penises, latino women tend to have larger bums, etc. Sometimes the 'stereotypes' have some truth to them. (If you want to call them that - personally I think a stereotype tends to be more behavior-oriented, like "men are lazy," "women are dumb," etc.) So we have differences. Who cares?

[Motorguy]

Lol... Actually, it's not the boobs that gets compared between white and black girls... its the butts. The word is that black girl butts are bigger
and more round.

I was making in general reference with boobs with women like saying black guys have bigger penis then white men and that so wrong it's not true.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Darn you reading tabloids?

[Something_Awesome]

It's all a wise tail that black men are way bigger in that dept then white men. That's like saying black women have bigger boobs then white women we all know that is not true.

Lol... Actually, it's not the boobs that gets compared between white and black girls... its the butts. The word is that black girl butts are bigger and more round.

[Motorguy]

I don’t think a persons race automatically determines the size of a persons tool, just saying.

It's all a wise tail that black men are way bigger in that dept then white men. That's like saying black women have bigger boobs then white women we all know that is not true.

[circus]

Not necessarily so ....look at it this way, if a large guy just lays there and lets a girl ride him cowgirl however she likes, she can make it pleasurable, however she likes. If a small guy does that, there's not as much she can do with it. In that example, skill is insignificant beyond being able to keep an erection.

I don't like to think of lovers as inanimate objects tho, and their skill and attention is definitely important in a genuine sexual encounter, so the approach only goes so far. But the principal is basically true.

Nothing new on my end either btw, I've been a one man woman for a couple years now.

smart lady

[Patti-here]

I don’t think a persons race automatically determines the size of a persons tool, just saying.

[Something_Awesome]

Oh, and something I meant to add...

Everytime this whole "size" discussion comes up, my heart sinks in my stomach a bit because I have this friend (white) who is super self conscious about his package. I never seen it, but I'd ask him why he wouldn't date etc, and he opened up to my GF and I (after several long island iced teas) saying that it's because he is small down there. There is a super attractive girl that is really into him, but he wont affirmatively respond to her because of his size. He's actually a really good looking guy, but his low confidence with regard to his penis size may drive him to be single for the rest of his life I'm afraid. It's sort of unfair.

My GF and I have talked about perhaps letting the attractive girl know why the guy won't show interest in her, but we feel like it's not our place. Thought my thought process is, if we tell her and she runs from him, who cares. Its not like my friend would know the reason why so his confidence won't nose-dive any further. And if we tell her and she doesn't care, then he can be in a relationship that he so badly wants to be in. The only thing is how to tell him that "she knows."

I tried to tell the dude its no big deal, and that it's porn that has distorted his perception of reality, but then a discussion about size comes up where the female majority admits that size matters, and, well, it makes me feel like I am being dishonest with the guy... pretty sad...

he's essentially leading a relationship-free and sex-free life.