[PhrendlyPhil]

Now you've piqued my curiosity. What is it about your husband's cum that you're addicted to? Please elaborate.

[HisGirl]

You mean me? I dont want to take this thread too off track. If I could explain it well I would. I guess it's the closest thing I have to a fetish. It's a high for me. I get anxious and agitated if its been a few days and I haven't seen or felt or tasted his cum. Then once I have it, I calm down for a while. It fascinates me. My body cant do anything even close to that. It would probably be that with any guy I was with if that was the case, its not just because it belongs to him. Its a mans ejaculate in general, and how he produces it and where it comes from, its renewability, etc. It's kind of embarrassing. I don't really get it.

[BambooEarrings]

Why is that embarrassing? I'm pretty sure most straight women who love sex also love semen.

[Justice]

THIS - is exactly what I was going to say

I think the person who wants more sex in a relationship should always fell free to masturbate when their partner isn't interested. Its only a problem if they masturbate instead of being with their partner.

This is exactly what I was going to say. In fact, I think couples would get into less "trouble" if they had this attitude.

[caster]

Sometimes I'll make sure my wife walks in on me just as I'm finishing. If I'm trying to initate sex for a couple of days and continually get rebuffed I'm going to do it myself and I want her to know it. ****es her off, but IMO, that's payback. You gotta realize this isn't fight ****ed off it's that she's ****ed she didn't get to participate.
Other times it's just a private sexual release that most all of us do.

[HisGirl]

Is it very common for men to be open with their wives/girlfriends about when they masterbate? By some of the responses, it seems like you all are pretty open about it with your wives. I ask because my husband has never masterbated in front of me. He’s very private about it and I respect is privacy. I don’t know when or where or how often he does it or if he does it at all, I just assume so. Though I would love it if he would do it for me. I’d find it such a turn on. Is it uncommon for a man to be so private about it?

[caster]

HG, sometime while laying down stroking your husband sometimes ask him to help, even take his hand and put it on for him, used some baby oil but take baby steps, for some guys it probably is a very private thing. It was quite some time before I was as open with my wife about it.
We need to know you think it's a turn on and are not disgusted. I still find it hard to judge my wifes "look" while she's helping or watching, but she's told me repeatidly she enjoys watching me, and I have to confess, most of my solo ones I get into it a lot more than when she's watching, it's hard to let go that far but the times I've thrown caution to the wind have been intense, being watched and all.
I just wish I could get her to reciprocate in kind. We've done it mutually in front of each other only a few times, I've really enjoyed watching her but she's as private as your husband, if she does it at all, which she claims she doesn't.

[HisGirl]

caster, thank you for that, it's very helpful to me.

[PhrendlyPhil]

Is it very common for men to be open with their wives/girlfriends about when they masterbate? By some of the responses, it seems like you all are pretty open about it with your wives. I ask because my husband has never masterbated in front of me. He’s very private about it and I respect is privacy. I don’t know when or where or how often he does it or if he does it at all, I just assume so. Though I would love it if he would do it for me. I’d find it such a turn on. Is it uncommon for a man to be so private about it?

Most married men probably don't advertise to their wives they're about to masturbate. They generally keep it private. Usually they resort to it if the wife is away, or ill, or just not interested in sex at that moment. On the other hand if the wife is always accessible to him, he'd probably prefer her (though some might masturbate to porn or fantasy just for variety). If you want to talk about this with your husband, you're best off to discuss you're own masturbation (either past or present) and THEN ask about his (it can be a touchy subject). Try to make it seem that you're simply curious (which you are) and that you're not threatened by it. This should put him at ease discussing it.

In reference to your desire to watch your husband masturbate, this can be a great menu item to expand your repertoire. My wife and I have enjoyed many a mutual masturbation sessions. In mutual masturbation your bodies are usually apart which allows for a good bit of "viewing" of your partner. Its a great way to enjoy you're own pleasure and climax as you watch your partner enjoy theirs. With the right introduction your husband should be plenty willing to show you his technique especially if you're willing to show him yours (men just LOVE to watch). Sometimes its ok for just one of you to perform for the other without reciprocation. On many occasions I've snuck up on my wife while she's in the shower and just started pleasuring myself while watching her soap up. She'll gasp in surprise when she notices me and then we'll both giggle in amusement as I finish somewhere on her body.

I hope that gives you some helpful hints and perspective.

[tinycit]

I masturbate all the time. Masturbation is great. Everyone should masturbate! I love porn too. Greatest invention ever. I have a way bigger porn collection than my husband does.